Category: Catholics Discriminating Against Gays

Waldron Mercy Academy Fires Lesbian; When You Find Out Your Spouse Is Gay; 5 Star Review For Meadows Are Not Forever

Waldron Mercy Academy Fires Lesbian

I actually just saw this on the local Philadelphia news and it made me wonder how much more of this is going on in other parts of the US. We only hear about southern states and overzealous Christians discriminating against gays. We rarely hear about wealthy Main Line Philadelphia Catholic Schools doing much the same thing.

And there’s no difference between this and what’s been going on with bakeries that refuse to make gay wedding cakes or Pastors that want to reform every gay person.

Well, there is one difference in this case. The parents who spend a great deal of money to send their kids to this upscale private Parochial school are outraged this time and they are letting the administration know it.

It may be summer break at the Waldron Mercy Academy in Merion, but administrators at the private Catholic school have their hands full thanks to their decision to fire the school’s longtime director of religious eduction, Margie Winters, a gay woman who is married to her partner. 

Winters was fired in June after eight years at Waldron Mercy. The school won’t say why she was let go, citing the confidentiality of personnel matters, but the writing seems to be on the wall: Winters was apparently fired because she is in a gay marriage.

“It’s gross… I want to quit,” one Waldron Mercy teacher told us under the condition of anonymity, adding that the school generally doesn’t have an anti-gay culture. (None of the parents or teachers we spoke to for this article would allow us to use their names.) “She’s been openly gay forever. But a couple of parents found out that Margie is married and complained. It’s one thing to be gay at this school. It’s another thing to be in a gay marriage, apparently.”

The e-mail that went out to parents was was shown on the news channel I watched and it basically stated that she was let go because of lifestyle choices the school didn’t agree with. You can read the entire e-mail at the link I’m posting below.

I’d like to take this one step further. I went through 12 years of parochial school and I know what it’s like. If this is how representatives of the Catholic Church want to discriminate against a decent, honest employee I think it’s high time they started looking into their closeted gay priests living double lives. I’ve known them personally.  You can’t try to set one standard and have a double standard at the same time.

You can read the rest here.  

You can “like” the facebook page here as a show of support that has been set up by those who are outraged. There’s more to this story, and it includes funding and discrimination.

When You Find Out Your Spouse Is Gay

This article, I think, gets into a topic that I’ve always believed was highly underestimated. I’ve known many gay men and women who have not come out of the closet and they’ve married people of the opposite sex. But what happens, eventually?

“It feels almost homophobic to say anything about them. To me it’s not brave to spend 10 or 20 years with someone only to destroy and discard them,” says Emma. She found out her husband was gay a year ago.

“They may go on and have a wonderful new life while leaving a crushed wife behind. You just feel like your whole life is wasted and there’s no closure.”

One of the most difficult things for many spouses is watching their former partner being celebrated as brave for coming out, but knowing the damage they’ve left behind.

This is a tough one. However, gay men and women have been so shamed and so discriminated against they don’t get married and try to live heteronormative lives because they’re mean, evil people. They don’t set out to ruin anyone’s life or cause damage. At least not that I’ve ever seen, and I have seen it more than once. They get married to people of the opposite sex because they’re in denial in some cases and that’s what they think they’re supposed to do. I’ve also seen them forced into it. It’s a complicated situation, especially with so many gay people finally coming out.

Most of the cases I’ve seen personally end with the spouse who married the gay person finally realizing he or she was not to blame for the marriage ending. However, I do know one case where they guy left his wife because he was gay and it’s been over thirty years and she still won’t have anything to do with him…and she wouldn’t allow him to have any contact with their child. And then there was that one case where the husband came out and the wife was so thrilled she started going out to gay bars with him and they really all did live happily ever after. 

You can read the article in full here. 

5 Star Review for Meadows Are Not Forever

I’ve written a great deal of erotic romance over the years…so many novels and stories I’ve lost count at this point. And when I write a romance that isn’t erotic and one I hope will resonate with a few readers, reviews like this are golden to me. They validate what I was going for because for me it’s all about the reader and no one else.

Here’s part of the review I’m talking about for Meadows Are Not Forever.  The reviewer actually sent me a private message about it and I’m glad he did. He’s a gay man who understood what I was going for.

This is the first book by Ryan Field I’ve read, and I have to say I’m very pleasantly surprised. In Meadows Are Not Forever he introduced us to a young man on the cusp of leaving the young stud age and moving into the mature, adult age because, gasp, he’s learning there is more to life than just SEX. I know, for some of you it maybe hard to believe, but it’s true! And like many of us when we made that transition he learns what is really important in life.

One of the things I loved most about this story is the fact that it dealt with, and focused on, real emotion’s that most people have had to face. Especially when it came to dealing with families that may or may not be accepting of their LGBT kids. This is simply put a real, honest to God old-fashion love story filled with angst, uncertainty and all the other messy things people falling in love have to go through.

You can read the rest here.  

There doesn’t always have to be sex in gay fiction.