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PA Judge Fast Ruling for Gay Marriage; Valerie Harper Dancing with Stars

PA Judge Fast Ruling for Gay Marriage

As I posted earlier today, a judge will rule as to whether or not Montgomery County Clerk, D. Bruce Hanes, was acting illegally by issuing marriage licenses to same sex couples.

A judge promised to rule as quickly as possible after hearing arguments Wednesday about whether a suburban Philadelphia court clerk should be forced to stop issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples.

Commonwealth Court Judge Dan Pellegrini said a central issue is “how power is allocated in the commonwealth of Pennsylvania.”

“What’s before us today is generally, ‘Who decides?'” Pellegrini told the full courtroom in Harrisburg at the start of oral arguments.

Pennsylvania is the only northeastern state that does not allow gay marriage or civil unions. A 1996 state law says a marriage must be between a man and a woman, and it says same-sex marriages performed elsewhere cannot be recognized in Pennsylvania.

D. Bruce Hanes, the elected register of wills in Montgomery County, defied the ban in late July by issuing licenses to same-sex couples, as part of his duties as the orphan’s court clerk. His action followed the U.S. Supreme Court’s decision to throw out part of the federal Defense of Marriage Act, and a statement by state Attorney General Kathleen Kane that the same-sex marriage ban was unconstitutional.

I think the important thing to remember here, along with the laws, is who will go down on the right side of history. And it’s moments in time like this that tend to define people in more ways than one.

Valerie Harper Dancing with Stars

When I read and reviewed an autobiography by actress, Valerie Harper, last winter, I posted it, along with other information about a cancer diagnosis that only gave her a few months to live. Since then, Harper has gone into remission, has become a huge inspiration to all of us, and she’s going to be part of next season’s Dancing with the Stars.

“I said, ‘Give me one good reason,’ ” Harper recalled. “He said, ‘You have cancer! Get up there, and show people that you can dance and do — and the doctors said it’s fine to exercise. Encourage people to move, to exercise, to do all the things that will be good for them, and mainly not to sit in the house and glower and worry and feel sorry for yourself because you have this disease and anything else.'”

Exercise is generally encouraged for patients, according to the American Cancer Society.

“At one time, patients with cancer, especially in the advanced stages, were often told by their doctor to rest and limit their exercise,” the organization’s website says. “But newer research has shown that exercise is not only safe and possible during cancer treatment, but that it also can reduce symptoms and improve quality of life.”
 
It’s not always easy to exercise. I know how hard it is because I have been doing a three to five mile run early every single morning of my life for the past twenty years. At this point, I don’t know how I would live without that morning run. I can’t even imagine.
 
And if I couldn’t run, I’d walk.
 
 
 

Ode to a Blog Titled: "Eirik’s Mind"

When I first started my own blog, after years of interviewing personal bloggers for bestgayblogs.com, I wasn’t sure whether or not I’d like blogging. Though I’d always loved reading blogs and getting to know other bloggers, I wasn’t sure about doing it myself. Writing fiction isn’t like blogging. In many ways, they are complete opposites. But I had to decide on whether or not I wanted a formal web site, or an informal blog, and I chose blogging.

At first, I wasn’t sure what to post about. Old blogging buddies, like Ryan Stratton, helped me a lot. I watched how easily they posted, and it gave me more confidence. It wasn’t long before I started to meet other bloggers and build online friendships.

The one thing I learned while I was interviewing bloggers was that blogs come and go. Some stay around for a long time, but many just die off and disappear for various reasons. But there’s one blog in particular, “Eirik’s Mind,” that touched my heart and kept me captive. Eirik blogged about his personal life in a way many bloggers don’t (I know I don’t). At this exact time last year, he was dealing with cancer, going through different therapies, and fighting for his life. But I loved everything about his blog. His voice was strong, his posts were artistic in a natural way, and he seemed to be so articulate about his feelings and his emotions.

I’m talking about Eirik’s blog in the past tense because he stopped posting in January this year. In the past eleven months, I’ve left comments there, asking him how he was doing. But he hasn’t answered them. The blog is still up and I’m still linked to him. I go there several times a week, hoping I’ll see a new post. But each time I go, as each month passes, I start to worry I might not see another post.

For now, I’m hoping Eirik grew bored with blogging and just decided not to continue. I’m picturing him happy and healthy, with too much going on in his life to blog. But whatever the case may be, and wherever he may be right now, I’d like to thank him for opening up his life to all his readers and showing them what it’s really like to appreciate life.

If you don’t have time to follow the link I added, here’s an excerpt from Eirik’s last post.

Ode to Cancer
Don’t be afraid.
I’m going to hurt you good.
Up against the wall;Nails across my back.
Pleasure and Pain,There is no escape.
It’s all the same.
It ain’t no game.
So turn up the heat;Get a grip –
It’s going to get rough.
It’s no dream,No waking up.
It’s okay to scream.
Let it all out.
No escape.
It’s down and dirty.
So, get on your knees and pray.
I’m your victim;You’ll be mine.
You torment me,
Give me your best shot,
Is that your best you got?
That weak ass shit ain’t gonna cut it.
Torture me.
I’ll torture you,You won’t see it coming.
I know your games,I know your ways.
You won’t win.
I’m going to hurt you good.
So give me your best.
I’ll pass every test.
I’m gonna kill you slow.
So, don’t be afraid.
There is no escape.