Category: Brokeback Mountain controversy

Kevin Bacon: More Male Full Frontal Nudity; Catholic Mom and Gay Teen Son; Heath Ledger "Not Macho Enough"; Terry Sweeney Refused to Be Closeted

Kevin Bacon: More Male Full Frontal Nudity

I’ve been posting about this for years now…the lack of male full frontal nudity in films and on TV. There isn’t much out there, and the post I did about male full frontal on Boardwalk Empire is still, to this day, getting attention. And I know for a fact some people couldn’t take their eyes away from the recent Lenny Kravitz mishap where he wound up going full frontal by accident. 

But I don’t think it’s just about the penis in a general sense. I think it’s a little more specific. For example, films and TV shows like Magic Mike and Hung bait people with penis and never actually show it. James Franco has been baiting us with his in PR photos. Imagine the irony. A TV show that revolves around a guy who is allegedly HUNG, and you never actually get to see the penis. There’s something flawed about that, and that’s why I stopped watching Hung after the first few episodes. I felt duped, and that show didn’t last for long. In other words, if you’re not going to show full frontal male nudity don’t bait people with it.

In any event, Kevin Bacon recently spoke out on this topic and he said some interesting things.

Kevin Bacon is just like us. He’s ridiculously tired of being cock-teased by films such as Fifty Shades of Gay Grey and Magic Mike. The handsome 57-year-old actor wants the entertainment industry to spend more time finding ways to get male actors out of their clothing in front of the camera for completely gratuitous nude scenes in TV series like Game of Thrones. You know, for equality, because if women are allowed to run around starkers so should men.

You can read the rest here, where there’s a video. Frankly, I’m still looking for a glimpse of Ben Affleck’s dick in that movie with that title about that girl that was gone. Affleck and his soon to be ex-wife sure did enough bullshit PR about it.

Catholic Mom and Gay Teen Son

When I read things like this my automatic response is that there’s something wrong with this woman. I, too, come from a Catholic background and no one, ever, told me things like this. No normal Catholic would ever respond to a kid this way. And trust me, I know plenty of Catholics. And I think it shows how extreme something on the Internet can get…if you don’t know any better.

‘After we got over our initial shock (and I had taken some time to grieve the loss of my dreams of his one day having a family), we sat him down and told him we loved him, and that what he had told us wouldn’t change that in the slightest,’ she said.

But for the last three years, the parents have been teaching him the only way ‘people like him’ can lead life is to remain celibate.

She said: ‘We also set up other defenses for his chastity: we pulled him off of the basketball team (the locker room would just be an unnecessary temptation, and his presence there would be inappropriate and unfair to the other boys in his situation).

‘We took the door off of his bedroom since privacy would just tempt him to experiment in the ways teen boys tend to do, and we forbid him from having sleepovers or spending one-on-one time with any of his male friends unsupervised…we also forbid him from dating, or participating in activities like his high school prom…unlike our other sons, we never allowed him to have a cell phone, since he might use it to access inappropriate and confusing images.’

She reached out to social media for advice and people responded aggressively to everything she said. You can read the rest here. But trust me, again, she’s not the normal Catholic I’ve always known.

Heath Ledger “Not Macho Enough”

First, I love how straight people making a gay film use a word no gay person would ever use. Most of you probably didn’t even pick this up.  If gay people had been making Brokeback Mountain they wouldn’t have been searching for a “macho” actor. They would have been looking for “butch.”

In any event, while they were trying to fill the role of Ennis there was another actor they had in mind. That hasn’t been disclosed, ever. However, they weren’t sure that Heath Ledger was “macho” enough. He obviously showed them all and he was brilliant in the role.

‘Another actor had committed [to the role of Ennis] and we had suggested Heath. But the studio [Focus Features] didn’t feel he was macho enough. I thought that was a rather odd comment. But we just sort of stuck with it. And when that [other] actor backed out — and he did, after three months — I called Heath’s agent.’

Ossana has never revealed the identity of the actor originally cast as Ennis but, she says, ‘I plan to write a book about it all someday.’

You can read more here.  Maybe she’ll get a gay guy to help her write that book.

Sorry for the small rant, but there are still things happening today where gay people still don’t get the same respect as those who come from places of straight, white privilege.

Terry Sweeney Refused to Be Closeted

Here’s an interesting piece about SNL cast member, Terry Sweeney, and how he refused to go back into the closet when they wanted him as a cast member.

He said he wasn’t going to do the standard closeted actor thing of giving interviews about a made-up fiancé who died and he never got over it or saying he’s never had time to find the right person.

Sweeney had simply been too impacted by the AIDS epidemic that had killed so many of his friends. This was 11 years before breakthrough life-saving drugs were available.

‘I’d been to so many funerals and I wasn’t going to join in the shame by hiding in the closet,’ he says. ‘It would have been a disservice to my friends who had died, my friends who were sick. If you were gay, you were always going to memorials or to visit people in hospitals. Straight people were able to go merrily along their way, but this disease was picking off talented gay people one by one.

‘I thought, “I’m not gonna do that. I don’t care if this is my big break. At the end of my life, I want to live with myself.” I didn’t sign the morals clause in my contract. I just said no. I have to give Lorne and [NBC exec] Brandon Tartikoff credit for going along with that.’

There’s more here.  He does give credit to those who went along with it and didn’t fight him.

As a side note, which I blogged about last year, Sweeney was NOT asked to be part of the 40th reunion for SNL last year. Even though he was the first (and only) openly gay cast member at the time. If he’d been the first member of another minority to join the apologetic left wing liberal cast of SNL I wonder if things would have been different. They might have crowned him Queen for a Day or something.

From my post last year:

Sirius XM Radio talk show host Frank DeCaro was among those outraged by what he considered a slight. 

‘Leaving Terry Sweeney — the only openly gay male cast member in the forty-year history of Saturday Night Live — out of the anniversary special doesn’t sit well with me,’ DeCaro wrote in a Facebook post. 

‘His Nancy Reagan impression could easily have been included in the political clip montage

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Did Brokeback Mountain Help Gays; 2nd Strongest Man: Gay; Gay Cowboys Real Life

Did Brokeback Mountain Help Gays

I remember getting into several discussions with straight friends about Brokeback Mountain…as a film and a story. While I was happy to see anything with gay content in the mainstream, it bothered me at the time that it was done through a straight POV. And I’m not the only one who felt this way. At the time I was interviewing and reviewing for a start up called, and I would say that 99% of the gay male bloggers I came across found Brokeback Mountain to be less than thrilling…and many were outraged. But more than that, years later, it’s not a film or a book I care to revisit. And I’ve been known to watch films like Silving Linings Playbook more times than I can count and that doesn’t even have gay content.

In any event, this article talks about the pros and cons in BM, with respect to whether or not it helped gay men. I’ll post a few quotes, but I think the whole piece is worth reading because it’s done from an interesting, honest POV. It’s also well balanced, especially for something that can be controversial this many years later.

Here’s one from the “pro” comments:

Not just queer, but emotional. These are not your grandpappy and memaw’s cowboys; there are no shoot-outs, no scenes of John Wayne or Alan Ladd mounted on a horse (insert barebacking joke here) and riding off into the sunset. No, these cowboys have feelings.

I detect a little sarcasm in that one and I have a feeling the author is holding back a little, but here’s one from the “cons:”

But surely the more egregious offense that Brokeback Mountain committed is its lack of full-frontal nudity from Jake Gyllenhaal and Heath Ledger. And the one gay sex scene was dimly lit and fully clothed, while Michelle Williams and Anne Hathaway both appeared topless. Where the hell was GLAAD when this happened?

I actually found most of the sex scenes unrealistic. It’s a great example of how fiction is crafted when it’s not drawn from an ounce of personal experience, but should fiction be that way off base? 

And now this is from the ultimate verdict:

Basically, Brokeback Mountain is not for me. It’s a movie about gay people delivered through the lens of straight people, and the straight gaze here is very thick. Then again, it’s probably valuable for people to see it and understand the “normalcy,” whatever that means (however they define it, I guess), of the gay experience.

I actually agree with this whole thing. For me the movie is “meh,” but it didn’t hurt anyone either. The most interesting thing is that most of the gay men I know have dismissed it and don’t revisit it either. I just can’t help wondering how the story would have turned out had it been told through a gay POV. I guess we’ll never know…or will we?

You can read the rest here. The biggest flaw for me in the film, BM, was when the two characters (I don’t even remember their names) meet after years of not seeing each other and one is married. They run to some staircase or back alley out in public and start kissing and groping each other. Trust me, that wouldn’t have happened this blatantly with two gay men in the 1950’s, 60’s, or even now. Closeted gay men have walls they put up to control these things so no one ever finds out about them. It just wouldn’t have happened under any circumstances.

2nd Strongest Man: Gay

The world’s second strongest man, as it stands, turns out to be openly gay. His name is Rob Kearny, he’s 25 years old, and he recently came in second at the World’s Strongest Man Competition. He’s also newly out of the closet.

Rob’s coming-out was pretty nonchalant. He just posted on Facebook that he has a crush on his boyfriend, Joey Aleixo. That was acknowledged by, so far, 1,457 likes from fans and friends and well-wishers all over the world. Response has been overwhelmingly positive, with at least one of his bodybuilding colleagues emailing him to say that Rob had changed his mind about disliking gays.

This is a big deal for gay men, who will be delighted to claim this good-looking individual for our team. But it’s also a big deal for the Strongman competition, which has never had an out pro-level international competitor before.

I think it is a big deal for gay men, or at least gay men who identify as men. So far the world only knows one type of gay man thanks to the mainstream media and other unreliable sources that find their information through “research.”

You can read the rest here.   

Real Life Gay Cowboys

In my latest full length novel, Glendora Hill: Too Hard to Handle, in the Glendora Hill series, the main character is a real life cowboy who may or may not have been related to the Texas Ranger, Kit Acklin. In the book, he’s introduced by the other main character through an interview for a web series about real life gay cowboys. I’ll post the info below, but I thought it was interesting when I spotted this next article about real life gay cowboys.

“This isn’t a crusade for me to prove that I can be a gay cowboy…I’m just someone who enjoys this particular lifestyle with the man that I love.” These are the powerfully simple words of Dan Smith, a 34-year-old cowboy living in rural North Queensland, Australia with his partner Miki.

But Dan’s self-confidence isn’t a gift he was born with. In his 20s, his perceived tension between an adolescence spent living on a farm and his newly realized identity as a gay man led him to believe that the two couldn’t coexist.

You can read the rest here. It’s an interesting article, and at least I feel somewhat validated because it touched on a topic I had no idea would be growing in popularity…or even discussed this openly. Gay cowboys like gay football players are typically in the closet. Sometimes things just work out well. I almost didn’t put this in a storyline because I wasn’t sure it would be believable.

Glendora Hill: Too Hard to Handle

Real Life Gay Cowboys in Fiction

When conservative young Dan meets a hot charismatic gay cowboy named Cass who claims he’s related to storied Texas Ranger, Kit Acklin, during a web cast interview in a dirty cowboy locker room, something unusual happens. Although Dan is still mourning the death of his boyfriend and hot Cass is a self-proclaimed no-good drifter, the web cast eventually goes viral and they are offered the dream job of a lifetime on TV.
In spite of their differences, there’s an undeniable chemistry between Dan and Cass and they find one thing in common they can’t get enough of. Dan’s two gay dads, Sebastian and Avery, encourage Dan to build a relationship with Cass, but Dan’s not sure he wants to get emotionally involved with a drifter cowboy or do a live TV show from Austin. So Dan winds up befriending a needy young ranch hand with a few kinks and gay issues of his own.
It all takes place in peaceful Glendora Hill, Texas, with recurring characters from previous books that all know Dan well. Will Dan ever get over his boyfriend’s death, stop making the same mistakes, and move forward with his life? And will Cass ever learn there’s more to life than just drifting from ranch to ranch?