Category: Bottom

Straight Actress Felicity Huffman Who Played Trans Role Charged In College Admissions Scheme; Should the Labels Top, Bottom, and Vers Disappear? Uncertainty by Ryan Field

Straight Actress Felicity Huffman Who Played Trans Role Charged In College Admissions Scheme

Back in the Brokeback Mountain days, when straight white authors were winning literary awards for writing gay content and gay authors were overlooked completely, long before there was even a discussion about whether or not it was appropriate for a straight actor to play gay, Felicity Huffman played a trans character in the film, Transamerica.  Like many other straight actors who have played strong LGBT roles, because it’s ‘just acting,’ Huffman was rewarded by Hollywood for her portrayal of a trans character and no one even thought twice about it. Back in those days, there was no discussion about real trans actors playing trans roles, nor was there a discussion about any real LGBT actors playing any LGBT roles. 

With that said, Felicity Huffman, along with several other high profile names, was just charged for her involvement in an alleged scheme of bribery to get her daughter into elite colleges. According to this article, it’s being referred to as the largest college admissions scam ever prosecuted by the DOJ. 

“Today we have charged 33 parents nationwide,” Lelling said. “These parents are a catalog of wealth and privilege. They include, for example, CEOs of private and public companies, successful securities and real estate investors, two well-known actresses, a famous fashion designer and the co-chairman of a global law firm.”

You can check out the rest, here. It’s a long, detailed article with several updates. This is big.

Update: Judge Alexander F. MacKinnon set Huffman’s bond at $250,000. 

Should the Labels Top, Bottom, and Vers Disappear?

A queer performer, Willy Hudson, believes the labels top, bottom, and vers shouldn’t be used any longer. And to a certain extent I actually agree with him. 

“There’s a whole world which is way more than just top, bottom, or vers,” he says. “Sex is about connection, it’s about vulnerability, it’s about intimacy.”

You can check this out, here, and there’s a video. The comments are worth reading, too. Everyone seems to have an opinion about this. I don’t think anyone should ever be defined by any of these labels, however, I do think these labels are valid in certain situations. In other words, even though you don’t like labels you can’t deny that certain realities exist. That’s life. 

Amazon Reader Reviews: “Duty or Love? That is the hard choice that Gus’s surviving dad, Henry, is trying to decide. This story revolves around a beautiful family that’s hit some hard times. You hope beyond hope alongside with Gus that Henry will choose love, no matter what.” 

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

When Gus Baldwin realizes that his gay dad is serious about marrying a much older man for safety and security instead of love, he concocts a plot that he hopes will change his dad’s mind. Even though his other dad has been dead for over a year, Gus wants his surviving dad to find love and happiness someday with a new husband. 

However, their financial situation is about as bad as it gets and they’re on the brink of losing their grand old Victorian home, and everything about their perfect lives is threatened. So Gus winds up putting his own marriage on hold with the guy he’s been in love with since high school. It’s so bad he’s even thinking of quitting college to help support his dad and his younger brother just so his dad won’t have to marry the older man. 

After Gus convinces his dad to take a road trip in their vintage 1950s station wagon to their getaway cabin in the mountains, along with his younger brother, his future husband, and their nineteen year old dog named Special, their lives change in ways none of them ever anticipated. And even though the future is still uncertain in some respects, they discover a few things about themselves on this trip they never could have predicted.

Cosmo Bad BDSM Tips; Be a Better Bottom; Top & Bottom Label; Small Town Romance Writer by Ryan Field

Cosmo Bad BDSM Tips

One thing I find interesting about this online post at Jezebel is that while it slams Cosmo’s bad BDSM tips it mentions nothing about the bad BDSM in the Fifty Shades of Grey novel by E. L. James. This leads me to believe the author of the Jezebel post knows little about FSoG, the novel, or that one of the biggest complaints from critics was that FSoG didn’t portray BDSM in a way that most who are serious about the lifestyle found plausible. I’ve posted about all this before, here, multiple times with the book I was in, Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades of Grey.  

But in spite of all this, the post does redeem itself by calling attention to this stupid Cosmo article about BDSM:

But I’ve got to tell you: Cosmo’s BDSM tips make Fifty Shades of Grey look like The Story of O.

The post is actually amusing, especially this one. First is the Cosmo tip…

7. “As you’re riding him, clamp down on his earlobes with your fingers, and pull on them to rock yourself forward and backward.”

Pro-tip: if you’re new to this game, stick with the sturdy body parts — like butts and chests — and be a little more delicate if you’re going for the ears, eyes, or testicles. That stuff’s not off-limits (in theory), but given that you may already be holding a fork in this scenario, it seems wise to err on the side of caution.
You can read the rest here. I think posts like this prove several things. Few people really understand the BDSM lifestyle and really don’t care to learn more about it. And, Cosmo might be one reason why the magazine publishing is a dying industry.
 Be a Better Bottom
Who can really say what makes a person a better bottom? But this article I’m linking to now doesn’t give bad advice by any means. It comes from first hand experience, and it’s well presented.
This one piece of advice seems to be something on which all good bottoms agree:
Basically douching is the process of cleaning out your insides. Usually it involves some kind of variation on a squirt bottle or hose inserted in to the anus.
I’ve heard turkey basters work, too, if you’re in a pinch. Just DON’T put it back in the kitchen when you’re finished.
This info about position can be helpful:
Starting by sitting on top of him is a good way to begin if you are having trouble relaxing or experiencing pain. If you are on top you can control the angle and depth until you have loosened up enough to change positions.
Doing all “this” can be intimidating sometimes, especially if you’re not experienced. And articles like this one help ease a lot of the anxiety.
Top & Bottom Label
This next link seems to suggest that gay dating has evolved into two distinct categories. It’s frank, it’s accurate, and it goes beyond a lot of the PC nonsense we read out there about the dynamics in gay relationships. There are, indeed, a few fundamental aspects that just can’t be ignored when two gay men get together…at least in a physical sense.  
“I’ll be online,” says Jason, 33, a financial consultant, “chatting with some guy, we’ll be getting along really well, and then I’ll say I’m a bottom and he’ll say, ‘Me too. Okay. Good-bye,’ and sign off.”
Frankly, from what I do recall about dating, this type of reaction happened ten, twenty, or forty years ago as much as it continues to happen today. In spite of what you might read in other places, it’s hard to get two bottoms to take the next step because both know it’s going to be futile in the end. I think it’s just important to be honest about it in the beginning, because it’s not always easy to tell at a glance.  
I’ve heard this before, too.
Though many men despise being labeled, offering up their versatility as a selling point, like a six-figure income or well-defined lats, others say a versatile’s just a bottom in denial. “New York is a bottom town,” says Jason. “When you’re on and the profile says ‘versatile,’ you know that guy’s a bottom. It means he will top but doesn’t like to. I’m a bottom, and my profile says versatile.”
You can read the rest here. I think the subject and content is timeless.
Small Town Romance Writer
by Ryan Field