Category: Beekman 1802

Josh and Brent Wedding Photos at Beekman 1802

I’m on the Beekman 1802 mailing list and I received their latest news this evening: they were married, had a wedding at Beekman, and they shared photos so everyone could see how they decided to do this.

From my inbox:

Well, we’ve finally gathered photos from our wedding to share with you…and we have a special video of us getting our wedding license to share. Trust us…you’re gonna be sick of of wedding news after the next month or so. Yep…we’re just like any other newly married couple: we’re gonna overshare our special day. So settle in. This newsletter is just the tip of the wedding iceberg. (We’ll put in some recipes and giveaways before the wedding video and photos, just to ease you in. )
I think a lot of LGBT couples in legal states are doing things differently after the SCOTUS ruling. Tony and I have no immediate plans yet because same sex marriage is not legal where we live…and we’re only forty-five minutes to NYC, which seems so ridiculous. I posted last week about how one town in PA started issuing marriage licenses to same sex couples and the Republican Governor of PA, Tom Corbett, has already begun to challenge this as an illegal act. What is even more ironic is that Tom Corbett’s daughter and son-in-law would not have been allowed to marry years ago in some US states because they happen to be an interracial couple.

In fact, Tom Corbett is now heading a state where LGBT marriage is not legal, in spite of the fact that his own daughter and son-in-law would have suffered the same inequality in certain US states prior to 1967 when the SCOTUS ruled this unconstitutional. As of right now, Gov. Tom Corbett has not mentioned one single plan to legalize same sex marriage so that he, too, can be on the right side of history and that LGBT couples can have the same dignity as his daughter and son-in-law. So I guess we know how his legacy will go down.

Interracial marriage in the United States has been fully legal in all U.S. states since the 1967 Supreme Court decision that deemed anti-miscegenation laws unconstitutional, with many states choosing to legalize interracial marriage at much earlier dates.

I was out of the office today visiting family in NJ, where civil unions are legal, but marriage is not…the Governor there, Chris Christie, keeps vetoing the bill that would pass it. He’s the guy with the big mouth who likes to embarrass people in public and try to look cool. From what I’ve heard, no one is NJ is too thrilled with anything he’s doing. He’s up for reelection soon. And if the tide of opinion is turning like it’s been in every statistic I’ve read, this one issue alone could bury him. I ran into an old friend who is a lesbian and she’s moving to Delaware with her partner where she can be equal and she’s not going to be discriminated against. I know many others, and their families and friends, who plan to campaign actively against Christie in the next election just on this one issue alone. I don’t think the Republican party fully understands how they are going to look in 100 years.

However, it’s nice to see some things moving forward, and to see that some LGBT couples are enjoying equality. Here’s a link to the Beekman website where you can view all the photos. And there are a few more interesting things to check out as well.

Beekman 1802 Pasta Sauce; Gay Amish; FREE Bad Boy Excerpt

Yesterday I posted about a new brand of pasta sauce being made by gay couple, Josh and Brent, at Beekman 1802. You can read more about that here, and learn more about Beekman 1802. But the reason I’m posting about it again today is because I happened to see another brand of pasta sauce on a morning news show earlier today and I thought it was interesting.

First, the Beekman 1802 pasta sauce is organic and contains nothing artificial. It comes from heirloom tomatoes, and it’s priced at 7.95 for a 26 ounce jar. But more than that, 25% of all proceeds from this pasta sauce go to US farmers to help them pay off their mortgages. I like that. I know a few farmers here in Bucks County and I know how hard they struggle.

So when I heard another guy talking about his new pasta sauce this morning on TV, and I heard what he was charging compared to what Josh and Brent are charging, I had to post something about it again. This new 35.00 a jar pasta sauce I saw on TV this morning is called “Sunday Gravy.” Tony and I both have Italian American backgrounds, and we know that on Sundays the main meal of the day for many Italian Americans begins in the afternoon and there’s always pasta and gravy. Notice how we don’t call it sauce. It’s called gravy and I think that has something to do with the fact that there’s almost always meat in it.

In short, the Sunday meal begins with some kind of antipasto…cheeses, roasted peppers, stuffed peppers, etc…then goes to pasta with gravy, after that a meat course is served, and then there’s usually a salad at the end of the meal. That’s just a basic description of how it works. There’s garlic bread, and things like pizzelle.

I’m not a prolific cook, and I’m no stranger to pasta sauces that cost anywhere from fifteen dollars a jar to twenty dollars a jar, but I have never seen one that costs 35.00 a jar. They claim “Sunday Gravy” contains all kinds of braised meats and it takes hour to make. That’s true. It does take hours to make. When Tony makes a huge batch it’s on the stove from morning until the time we sit down to dinner in the evening. But that slow cooking doesn’t make it any more expensive than something that’s cooked in a half hour. And the meat thing with this “Sunday Gravy” makes me wonder, too, because traditionally it’s always been the cheapest cuts that go in to pasta gravy. I knew a woman from The Bronx who used to used chicken feet because she claimed it made the gravy silkier.

So I’m just not sure what warrants the 35.00 price tag on “Sunday Gravy,” especially compared to the 7.95 price tag on the new Beekman 1802 brand where 25% of the proceeds go to help pay off mortgages.

And this only makes me want to order the Beekman 1802 brand even more now. I will post a follow up after I’ve had it.

Gay Amish

One of the things I’ve learned from an Amish reader who guest posted here once, is that Amish people in general are not thrilled with the way publishing portrays the Amish in romance books. Most of the time they are insulted, and sometimes they even laugh at it. According to my Amish friend, it’s never right, it’s always glorified and unrealistic, and it makes Amish people look nothing like they really are. Many times it makes them look backward. And I can personally tell you that this is NOT true. I have never met anyone brighter, sharper, and more interesting than my Amish friend. And, he has this excellent knack for writing most published writers don’t have these days.

I know we’re talking about romance, where it’s supposed to be all about escapism and fantasy. And I’ve defended that before. But where do we draw the lines? Especially if we’re insulting a group of people who didn’t ask anyone to write about them in the first place.

I know how they feel. While most of the gay fiction I read seems to be accurate and the authors to take their time to get it right, I often find discussions on blogs, and comment threads on these same blogs, where they discuss gay people as if they are gazing at them through a microscope. Most of the time it’s all hooded opinion and conjecture. One in particular makes my blood curdle. She knows it all and as far as I know she’s not even gay.

But I’m talking about the Amish now, and gay Amish in particular. I found a few links that are interesting and I think they help portray the Amish in a more realistic way.

This one is interesting:

Unfortunately for many people, their “knowledge” of the Amish comes almost entirely from TV and movies. A columnist for the NEW YORK POST wrote late last year that “Everything I know about the Amish, I learned from the old Harrison Ford movie, WITNESS.” While undoubtedly an exaggeration, this is a bit like watching a Tarzan movie in order to learn about African culture, or “The Sopranos” to gain insight into the lives of average Italian-Americans today. While such shows may be entertaining, they also stereotype and make it difficult to separate fact from fiction.

This one talks about growing up gay and being Amish:

James Schwartz was raised in an Amish community in Michigan. In a segment on HuffPost Live, he shared his struggle to fit into this group when he realized he was gay.

The reason I don’t post about this often is because the Amish are extremely private and they don’t like to discuss themselves. It’s also the reason why it’s hard to find links about them. I understand that and respect it. But I also think it’s important to break stereotypes, too, sometimes. If anyone has anything to share, please feel free to comment. I handle all anonymous comments with aboslute discretion and no one will ever know who you are.

Free Bad Boy Excerpt: The Vegas Shark

I don’t think I’ve had as much fun writing a book in years as I did with The Vegas Shark. I actually hated to see it end and that almost never happens with me. I tend to look at the books I’m writing in a more objective way and I don’t get attached to them. This excerpt has never been published in retail web sites before. It’s a scene where Chad and Treston are just getting to know each other. Treston’s hiding in the closet, listening to Chad and his annoying boyfriend that he’s nick named “Pussycat.” And that’s only because his real name is “Dare,” which he thinks is stupid. In this case, Chad’s a the bad boy, the liar, and the scoundrel. And Treston knows it. I did have to edit a few things because this blog is rated pg, but nothing’s been edited in the version for sale.


           Chad said, “I love you so much pussycat. But all I want to do tonight is hold you in my arms and fall asleep. I don’t want to ruin the moment with sex. It would bee too cruel. I want this night to be about emotion and the love between us. We’ll make love in the morning.”

            Treston rolled his eyes and laughed into his hand. He had to admit this was one of the best lines he’d ever heard a guy say when he didn’t want to have sex. He knew damn well Chad couldn’t get his forty-seven year old penis up again until morning. 

            The poor fool believed every word Chad said about love and emotion. “That’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever said to me, sweetie-pie,” Dare said. “Let’s get into bed right now and close our eyes.”

            “I’ll be there in a minute, pussycat,” Chad said. “I think I left the light on in the closet.”

            When Treston heard Chad coming toward the closet door, Treston moved away and backed into a row of expensive dark suits. There had to be hundreds.

            Chad opened the door slightly and slipped inside. He lifted his index finger to his lips and started to whisper. “Don’t say anything; just kiss me.” Then he grabbed Treston by the back of the head, pulled him closer, and shoved his tongue into his mouth.

            Treston didn’t understand, at least not at first. But it only took a minute of kissing and he realized what was happening. He reached down, grabbed the erection poking out of Chad’s black sweat pants, and said, “I thought you were going to just hold the poor dumb bastard in your arms all night because it’s so romantic. We just had sex. I thought you said you were on a twenty-four hour erection cycle.”

            Chad reached around and grabbed his bottom. When he did this he seemed to grow more sexually aroused. “I wanted to see if I could get it up again sooner. And thanks to you I can. You’re the best.”

            Treston couldn’t believe what he’d just heard. This guy had no limits. “You really are a fucking asshole. I should go out there right now and tell the poor dumb fuck what’s been going on here all night. I’m starting to feel obligated to do the right thing.”

            Chad kissed him again and smiled. “But you won’t do it, will you?”

            The saddest thing of all was Treston knew if he did go out and tell Dare the truth, Dare probably wouldn’t have believed him anyway. They never do. Treston wouldn’t have believed anyone if he’d been in Dare’s place, so he knew it would just be a waste of his time and energy. Besides, he’d learned in life people usually have to figure things out on their own.  So he stroked Chad a few times and said, “No, I won’t. But I’d like to go home soon, you forty-seven year old fucker. I’m tired. I’ve had a long day and I’d like to brush my teeth.”

            “Just wait until he’s sleeping,” Chad said. “As soon as it’s okay, I’ll get you out safely. I promise. I’ll even have a car take you home.” He looked into his eyes and smiled. “Please do this for me.”

            Treston shrugged. “I’ll do this for him, not for you. So don’t give me your helpless look. There’s nothing about you that’s honest or decent or helpless. And frankly, I don’t feel like getting into any drama tonight that’s none of my business. You people mean nothing to me.”

            Chad kissed his forehead and said, “Thanks. I owe you.”

            “You don’t owe meanything.”

            As he turned to leave, Chad pointed to his crotch and said, “And thanks for this, too. You’re the best.”

            Treston lowered his head and laughed. Then he twirled his finger and said, “Any time, idiot.”

"Mortage Lifter" Heirloom Tomato Pasta Sauce: Beekman 1802

I’m on the Beekman 1802 mailing list, and when I read this about “Mortgage Lifter” Heirloom Tomato Pasta Sauce I did it with tongue in cheek. I’m part Italian and Tony is almost completely Italian…his dad was born in Abruzzi and lived there until he was thirteen…and we don’t even call it tomato sauce, or pasta sauce. We call it “Gravy.”

For those who don’t know, Beekman 1802 is a farm in Sharon Springs, NY, upstate, where a gay couple, Josh and Brent, have been building a business and what I think could turn out to be more like a lifestyle or brand.

Now, I’m not much of a cook because I never have time, and Tony’s just as busy. So he’ll often make pasta gravy in large batches and freeze it in containers that last up to six months. But that’s if he has time to make it himself. So there are times we do buy it pre-made and the good stuff is never cheap. And each time we do this, Tony hisses about paying so much and he makes another huge batch just because he knows it is probably the most inexpensive meal in the universe and these companies that charge fifteen dollars and upward for pasta sauce drive him insane.

So when I clicked the link to the Beekman 1802 web site I expected their pasta sauce to be something like fifty bucks a jar…you know how gay guys from NY can be: if the pasta sauce doesn’t cost fifty bucks they aren’t eating it…and I was *shocked* to see that it was 7.95 for a twenty-six ounce jar. That’s not bad at all, considering what I’ve seen, and paid, in local stores for a jar of good pasta sauce…the key word being good.

If you are so inclined, this is from my inbox, with links that will explain it all. There’s also a nice story about the provenance of the sauce and the tomato they use. I hesitate to post photos because I’m not sure about their rule on fair use at Beekman 1802. But if you click the links below there are photos of the pasta sauce.

 We’re reaching out to those of you who have been our most supportive “neighbors” because we have an exciting new project and we need your help to make it grow. We’ll cut to the chase:

When we won “The Amazing Race,” we promised in every interview that we would develop a food line with the winnings that would help American small farms pay off their mortgages, just like “The Amazing Race” helped us pay off our own.

And we’re crazy-excited to announce that the first product will be officially released tomorrow – our “Mortgage Lifter Heirloom Tomato Pasta Sauce.” 25% of the profits will be given each year to one or more American farmers struggling to pay their mortgage. The remaining 75% will go right back into developing new products.

We’re sending you this notice to pre-order before tomorrow because we need your help!

For this effort to really take off, we need to get the attention of the media. It’s that simple. We’re not ashamed of seeking press. It has helped us and Sharon Springs grow into what we are. We also need to catch the eye of grocery distributors. If we can sell 1000 jars at launch we know we can do both.

Here’s how you can help.

1. Make a purchase. (Significant discounts for multiple jars)
2. Share this email.
3. Contact your local grocery store chain and ask them to
email us.
Follow us on Facebook, and “like” & share the photos and posts we put up tomorrow.

You in? Read below for the story behind the sauce and a recipe contest.

xo, Brent, Josh & Every Living Thing on Beekman 1802 Farm

I think it’s a wonderful idea. And, frankly, I’m dying to try it. I’ll do a follow up post if I like it. I’ve also been dying to do a long weekend in Sharon Springs just to see what it’s like. It looks gay friendly, it’s within weekend driving distance from New Hope, and it looks like a place where people can relax.

Beekman Boys

When I switched from comcast to verizon fios earlier this summer, I had no idea the transition was going to be so difficult. I don’t watch much TV because I’m usually writing books, reading books, or editing books. But I do watch a few hours at night to clear my head. And getting used to the verizon set up wasn’t easy.

But one of the great things I discovered on verizon fios this summer was a TV show called The Fabulous Beekman Boys. It’s a reality show, starring a gay couple, Dr. Brent Ridge and Josh Kilmer-Purcell, who decided to make a life-change by buying an old mansion in upstate New York and building a business around it. They remind me of the two main characters in my book Sleepless in San Francisco, only they aren’t raising a child.

But they are raising goats and other fascinating farm animals, along with making organic soaps, growing organic vegetables, and creating their own organic goat cheese. Everything can be purchased at the web site, too. And you can read more about them both, and about what they are creating at Beekman. What I love most is that it’s more about a healthy lifestyle than anything else. And, to be honest, Dr. Brent is absolutely adorable and very easy in the eyes.

As someone who has started two businesses on my own, and then sold them both for profit, I know how hard these guys work. In order to get any business off the ground, it means working seven days a week, at least twelve or more hours each day, and no time off for a social life. I did it for ten years with my New Hope art gallery, and five more with another business I sold in 2007. And I’m still doing it as a writer, which is just as demanding as running any other business.

So if you get a chance, check out the link I provided above. Beekman 1802 is a great web site and very simple to navigate. But more than that, these two guys are excellent examples of the same sex couples I’m always writing about in my novels.