Andrea James On Bruce Jenner’s Transition
This is one of those times I’m going to seriously practice what I preach here on the blog. I’m linking to a commentary by LGBT rights activist and transgender, Andrea James, and I’m not commenting at all on transgender issues. This is one of those times when as a gay man I can’t know, feel, or understand what transgender people go through. I can only listen, support, and try as hard as I can not to preach to other people what I don’t know, and never will know, from first hand experience.
But more than that, I’m not going to examine transgender people because I know them personally or because my best transgender friend knows them, as if they are science experiments. If I were to try to examine transgender people this way, coming from the POV of a gay man, I would be that disingenuous douchey guy who did that.
So, here’s a little background about Andrea James.
She doesn’t come without controversy, which you can see from this article.
And here’s the piece I’m linking to where James talks about Bruce Jenner’s transition.
This needs to be said first: Anyone who discussed Jenner’s possible transition in the media for any reason before April 24, 2015 is part of the problem. That includes trans people. The “teaching moment” could wait, the scolding of the press could wait. The mocking or slamming of Jenner for how this transition is unfolding on TV could wait. That was all just feeding the trolls, and the trans people doing it were essentially engaging in self-promotion. But now that we have an announcement, let the games begin!
This needs to be said second: Coming out as gay, lesbian, or bi can certainly be stressful and challenging, but transgender people face an extra layer of challenges because we often change our appearance, name and other fundamental ways we interact with others. If a trans person enjoyed any amount of pre-transition notability, the process is even more difficult. Arguably, no one as famous as Jenner has ever announced a gender transition, so there’s intense scrutiny not only from the press, but from the trans community concerned about what effects the announcement and upcoming reality show might have. Any trans people who think they can second-guess what Jenner should or shouldn’t do based on their own transitions under far less famous circumstances don’t know what they’re talking about.
It’s a thoughtful piece and I highly suggest reading it in full. Again, no comment from me because I just don’t feel as if I have a right to comment this time because I’m not transgender. And also because I know all too well what it’s like to have people of privilege commenting on my life as a gay man. It’s not fun, trust me.
Gay Hotelier Apologizes for Ted Cruz Dinner
I just posted about this yesterday, so all you have to do is scroll down a little on the blog. This is a follow up, which I didn’t expect so soon.
For those who don’t feel like scrolling, Gay hotelier, Ian Reisner, issued an apology on his Facebook page after receiving backlash when it was discovered he hosted an event for anti-gay marriage advocate, Ted Cruz. As a result of the Ted Cruz event, Broadway Bares cancelled a fundraising event at a club Reisner owns, 42 West.
Here’s the apology:
I am shaken to my bones by the e-mails, texts, postings and phone calls of the past few days. I made a terrible mistake. I was ignorant, naive and much too quick in accepting a request to co-host a dinner with Cruz at my home without taking the time to completely understand all of his positions on gay rights. I’ve spent the past 24 hours reviewing videos of Cruz’ statements on gay marriage and I am shocked and angry. I sincerely apologize for hurting the gay community and so many of our friends, family, allies, customers and employees. I will try my best to make up for my poor judgement. Again, I am deeply sorry.”
I’m not even sure what to say about that apology. But if you have to spend 24 hours reviewing Ted Cruz’s record on gay marriage to fully understand where Ted Cruz stands, there’s probably something wrong with you. For most people it would take five minutes.
You can check out the rest here. You’ll want to read the comments, too.
In this third book in The Rainbow Detective series, Proctor and Blair take on a case that involves blackmail, kidnapping, and a handsome young guy with two perfect penises. The guy with two penises is a public personality, and the wealthy client who hires Blair and Proctor is willing to pay a huge sum of money to keep the guy’s two penises a secret.
As fascinated as Blair and Proctor are with the guy who has two penises, there are dangerous, unexpected twists in this case that put them in grave danger. And the fact that they are in love with each other doesn’t make working together any easier. It’s the kind of peculiar double penis case that will not only test their love, but also test whether or not they can continue working together.
Will Blair be able to grow up and meet Proctor’s professional expectations? And will Proctor ever be able to get the guy with two perfect penises out of his head?