Elton John’s Anger For David Bowie; Gay Men and Fat Shaming; How To Sodomize Overweight Gay Men

Elton John’s Anger For David Bowie

Here’s a quote from Elton John that’s about his not so friendly relationship with David Bowie.

David and I were not the best of friends towards the end. We started out being really good friends. We used to hang out together with Marc Bolan, going to gay clubs, but I think we just drifted apart. He once called me ‘rock ’n’ roll’s token queen’ in an interview with Rolling Stone, which I thought was a bit snooty. I wasn’t his cup of tea. But the dignified way he handled his death, I mean, thank God. I knew he’d had a heart attack on stage in Berlin years ago, but not about the cancer. Everyone else take note of this: Bowie couldn’t have staged a better death. It was classy.”

I think it’s an honest comment, in good taste. You can’t like everyone. There are gay male authors who don’t like me, and when I see them sometimes on social media my gag reflex kicks in. It’s life. It’s normal. Again, you can’t like everyone and you can’t expect to be liked by everyone.

You can check this out here. 

Gay Men and Fat Shaming

I hate shaming of any kind. I don’t care if it’s fat shaming or any other kind of looks shaming. I never did like it and I was raised to believe it was wrong even before the PC crowd found it to be a profitable topic on which they can make money…or get attention.

With that said, here’s an article about fat shaming within the gay community.

“Big gay men have an added exclusion,” contends Jason Whitesel, author of Fat Gay Men: Girth, Mirth, and the Politics of Stigma. “There is the exclusion that all gay people experience; then there is within-group prejudice big gay men experience because of their size.”

You can read the rest here. Once again, my problem with articles like this is they seem to be including the entire gay male community and that’s really out of line. I never fat shamed anyone and I know a lot of other gay men who never did that either. So he lost me there. The subject is relevant, but the execution really sucks and we really need to be aware of the fact that the gay community is very diverse.

How To Sodomize Overweight Gay Men 

This article is actually linked to the article I just posted about above, so I decided to add my own link and a few comments. Evidently, there are some people at some university who believe we need to know how to sodomize overweight gay men. At least that’s the impression they are giving.

And they can’t understand why “conservatives” don’t find this a topic of interest.

The event is scheduled for January 20 and is being hosted by the UCSB Resource Center for Sexual and Gender Diversity. It will feature Dr. Jason Whitesel, whose book Fat, Gay Men: Mirth, Girth, and the Politics of Stigma explores the impact of fat-shaming the gay community.

When UCSB student and blossoming antigay activist Carlos Flores got wind of the event, he immediately alerted conservative blogs in an email subjected: “Another day, another degenerate email from the UCSB LGBT Center.”

It’s definitely not something I would ever attend based on the way it’s being promoted. Not to mention the fact that if you need that much information on how to sodomize anyone, maybe you shouldn’t be doing it in the first place. Learn how to knit instead.

You can check this out here. 

The comments are honest and I agree with most of them. And I should add that one person points out that this event is more about fat shaming in general than sodomizing, however, why would they need such a sensational, ridiculous title for the event if that’s the case?  If it is about fat shaming, which is a serious topic, why make it about sodomy?

A Gay Erotic Parody

The Way We Almost Were


Pinkstart Crowdfunding; Called His Neighbors Faggots; Straight Guys Into Anal Stimulation; Jamie Foxx’s Transphobic Jokes

Pinkstart Crowdfunding

Here’s a new web site that another author showed me that’s crowdfunding geared specifically for the LGBT community. I don’t know much about it, and I’ve never done crowdfunding myself, but I guess this is the same principle as kickstarter.com and indiegogo.com.

If you have an awesome idea for a creative project and you need the funds, this is your place. Start creating a campaign!

Starting a campaign on Pinkstart is easy, and free.

It’s an easy site to navigate and some of the projects look interesting. I’ll be posting more about it as I see projects coming through with LGBT artists I know.

Here the link where you can check it out yourselves.  

Called His Neighbors Faggots

A prison guard who allegedly called his neighbors faggots and expressed he wanted them executed on social media has been suspended. 

Richard ‘Rick’ Pilarski Jr, who was a cell block attendant for the Cheektowaga Police Department, made the comments on Facebook.

He was writing after an anti-gay activist in California filed a ballot measure for a ‘Sodomite Suppression Act’ – which calls for gay people to face the death penalty.

For all of you who think things are so much better for gay people, this should give you an example of what we’re still dealing with now. This happened in NY state, but it could have been anywhere in the world. And if they aren’t calling for an execution in public, they are silently thinking about it in private.

You can read more here.  

Straight Guys Into Anal Stimulation

This doesn’t surprise me at all. And the main reason is that I dated a few straight guys in my time and it basically corroborates everything I learned from them.

“Our anuses have thousands of nerve endings that respond to stimulation,” a columnist by the name of “Jake” writes in Glamour’s Sex and Dating section. “I learned this firsthand in my twenties when, after several drinks at a bar, I went home with an old college friend. We fooled around for a while, and then I suddenly found myself on all fours as she used her hands up front and stuck her tongue where the sun don’t shine.”

Another thing is true, too. From what I recall straight guys are not shy about what they want. But to be perfectly honest, you really have to be into certain things to enjoy them…both parties. Not everyone is, so don’t let articles like this mislead you into believing that everyone out there likes to, well, eat ass.

And you’d better make sure you keep it clean. And I mean squeaky clean to the point where that ass shines like Sirius. Not Sirius the big mouth m/m book reviewer from THAT web site who gets it wrong and insults many gay men 99% of the time, Sirius the shining star.

You can read more here.  

Jamie Foxx’s Transphobic Jokes

Jamie Foxx has been making headlines this week because of transphobic jokes he made in reference to Bruce Jenner. It’s really interesting because this kind of joke wouldn’t even have been noticed ten years ago, and now it’s considered wrong…as it should be. I hate to sound too PC about these things, and I really try not to be too PC with regard to laughing at myself, but these comedians that come from places of privilege really need to start rethinking what is and is NOT funny. Comedy has changed, like it or not.

What was the intention, for instance, behind Jamie Foxx’s recent jokes at Bruce Jenner’s expense at the iHeartRadio awards?

The answer seems limited to obtaining a cheap laugh, putting someone down and playing off tired stereotypes of transgender people.

And that’s not comedy, that’s just mean.

If I had kept track of every single homophobic joke I’ve heard in my lifetime, either blatant or passive aggressive, I could fill a book. The jokes where the straight guys joke around about being gay are the ones that always got to me the most. It’s not that you can’t tell gay jokes. I’m willing to laugh at myself as much as the next guy. But you have to be smart enough to find the right context.

Unfortunately, the comment thread with this devolves into something you might want to miss.

Here’s the link with a video of what Foxx said.

The Way We ALMOST Were

A Gay Parody  


Sex Acts In 1964; Gay Male Sexy Workers and Kids; The Rainbow Detective Agency

Sex Acts In 1964

It’s hard to believe some of these things when you read them, but it happened and it’s all in writing.

Good ‘ole Connecticut referred to sodomy, for instance, as the “crime against nature,” and it carried a hefty sentence of 30 years in prison. Kentucky might give you 2-5 years, and in Massachusetts or Minnesota you’d face 20 years.

Fornication was viewed with much less severity, and would typically result in a $20-500 fine. Seems pretty reasonably, no?

There’s more here. Next time you start complaining about those good old days and how people didn’t stare at their phone and text in public, read this backward nonsense for a reality check. I prefer now to the past any day. 

Gay Male Sexy Workers and Kids

This is hard to title because it’s really about what gay men in risque professions should tell their kids. But for me, sexy worker includes everything from modeling to stripping to rent boy. I know some would disagree, but it’s all how you look at reality. If you’re posing almost nude for underwear you’re promoting sex, not just undies. I prefer to keep it as real as possible. And I don’t judge anyone for what they do to make a buck.

Underwear model, Colby Melvin, said this:

We all have bodies and pretending sex does not exist or making it seem taboo is how we get so many body-image disorders. Make fun of me all you want, but this is the real me, and it isn’t changing. Would that be so bad to teach my child?”

I agree with him 100%. You can read the rest here. 

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