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North Carolina Ban on Same Sex Marriage…

This morning I turned on the TV while having coffee and Fox News came on. Gretchen Carlson said something to the effect of this: “North Carolina votes to protect the sanctity of marriage.”

I looked at Tony and smiled. “So she’s talking about the same ‘sanctity of marriage’ that applies to all the straight couples we know. You know, the couples who have been divorced two and three times. She’s not talking about the gay couples we know who have been together for twenty and thirty years and plan to be together for the rest of their lives. I just want to get this right so I can process it.”

Tony changed the channel. We both know and understand it’s more complicated than this…but this is how the mainstream discusses it.

Since high school, almost every single person I went to high school with has gone through two or three divorces by now. I witnessed a family member go through a divorce three years ago that devastated three children. And, for those who think they know it all, the forty year old *husband* fought to save the marriage, not the forty year old wife. She just didn’t want to be married anymore. She wanted to be single and continue to date her twenty-five year old boyfriend. She said, and I quote her directly, “The kids will get over it. Everyone’s divorced nowadays.” So far, the kids are in therapy, all are having problems in school they didn’t have before the divorce, and they spend their time traveling back and forth between their mom and dad’s house because the husband fought tooth and nail to get 50% custody. He would have fought for 100% but didn’t want to make it harder on the kids.

So when Gretchen Carlson is talking about the “sanctity of marriage,” I can only assume she, and those at Fox News, are living in a world with which I’m not familiar. A world where all straight couples fall in love, get married, go to church on Sunday, and live their lives focused on protecting the “sanctity of marriage.” But more than that, she clearly doesn’t know any gay people at ALL if she thinks they are trying to harm the “sanctity of marriage.”

But we’ve been through this before and we’ll go through it again. Clearly, North Carolina spoke yesterday and that’s all that matters. And it wasn’t just about marriage. They don’t even want civil unions.

It also strengthens the state’s position against same-sex civil unions, often considered a precursor to the marriage issue, Bradley said.

Here’s a link to more about the vote in North Carolina. It gives a good overview of what happened yesterday, with quotes from people who are on both sides of the issue. Even President Obama said he was “disappointed” in the vote, which doesn’t happen often. The good thing is that we’re not ready to give up yet in North Carolina, or anywhere else for that matter.

Any comments that don’t agree with this post will be deleted. This is my blog, not a democracy, and if you’re not for same sex marriage I really don’t care what you have to say.