A Book About Coming Out as Gay, Working in Hollywood, and Growing up in the Closet, "Miss Memory Lane" by Colton Haynes, With PrEP Condoms Aren't Even discussed Anymore

 A Book About Coming Out as Gay, Working in Hollywood, and Growing up in the Closet, “Miss Memory Lane” by Colton Haynes

I want to do justice to this post because I’m in the middle of reading Miss Memory Lane and I’m stunned at how wonderful it is. Well written, honest, and I think there’s something in the book that almost every gay man can relate to. Try to do that, straight women writing gay fiction. I dare you. 

I remember when Haynes came out as gay. In fact, I posted about it here back in 2016. From what I recall his coming out inspired many gay men of all ages. That’s the interesting thing about being in the closet. It can be any gay man from the ages of 18 to 100. And usually we know a lot younger than 18. 

I had a lot of respect for Haynes when he first came out, and now with this new book I respect him even more. He’s fought his share of battles so far in life. 

In his new memoir, former ‘Teen Wolf’ actor Colton Haynes opens up about his life in Hollywood, coming out as gay, as well as stories of abuse, battling addiction and mental health.

Here’s more. It’s a video of an interview with Haynes. 

I came to Colton Haynes in a different way…not through any kind of fandom. I’ve never watched those TV shows. What I’d like to know is why isn’t he getting more work? And why is Hollywood still passing the gay actors by for actors like Bradley Cooper who play gay for pay? Go back to playing straight, Bradley. And look up the definition of cultural appropriation.


With PrEP Condoms Aren’t Even Discussed Anymore

About 15 years ago, when I first started in digital publishing, there were heated discussions about whether or not condoms should be used in gay romances. I had always worked with gay publishers like Alyson Books and Cleis Press, and I just naturally made my characters use condoms because I thought it was the responsible thing to do. But not everyone agreed. 

Back then I also discovered something interesting: straight women writing gay romance. At the time, I didn’t even know that was a thing. And no one had heard much about cultural appropriation so these straight women were not only loud and vocal with their opinions on gay sex and condoms, they ran websites with offensive names like “Chicks with Dicks.” Of course all these websites are long gone, but I’ve been around for a long time. If you scroll to the bottom of this website you’ll see that I used to link to “Chicks with Dicks.”  Let me tell you, they were the most offensive group of straight women I’ve ever come across. They treated gay men like pet poodles. 

But I always stood in the background and minded my own business. Why should I have any say in my own gay culture when all these straight women didn’t mind taking control? That’s partly because it bothered me to see straight women take over my culture as a gay man, and partly because these straight women never got it right. So I distanced myself for all of that and just wrote what I thought was the right thing to do. At the time there was no PrEP and condoms were the safest way for gay men to have sex. But nowadays we don’t even give it a second thought with PrEP around. 

Don’t Be Afraid of Virginia’s Woolf


Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”


“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no-nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]

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