When Our Straight Allies Just Don't "Get" It, The Book of Queer Docuseries Has Openly Gay Cast While Hollywood Continues to Ignore Us, Ryan Field Books

When Our Straight Allies Just Don’t Get It

I saw something interesting this week on Twitter and I thought I would share it. I’m not mentioning names, but the people I’m talking about work for a local news station in a large city. And they’re nice people and this is not a rant. 

Apparently, this local news station was doing a special about Pride month. They have one openly gay employee weather person and the rest of them are all extremely straight. When one of the women reporters Tweeted something like this, “I’m so thrilled to be here and I’m so proud of Joe for all he’s accomplished. It was so brave of him.”

She was talking about the openly gay weather person and praising him for coming out. It sounded as if he’d gone off to battle, slew a dragon, and returned a hero. Naturally, I thought the woman reporter was gay, too. Why else would she be part of a Pride show on TV? So I Tweeted a nice reply saying, “That’s so nice. I didn’t know she was gay, too.”

Well, the next morning she was quick to reply to my Tweet, letting me know that she was NOT gay but how much she supported LGBTQIA people and once again how proud she was of Joe the weather person. So I replied with, “I just assumed you were because you were doing a Pride special. You know 20 years ago Joe wouldn’t have been able to come out. We fought long and hard to reach this point. And now we are fighting to hold on to our culture.” 

I was trying to give her a hint that she was welcome at any Pride event as a spectator, but it was not HER event. Of course, she missed the point. She replied back with, “Don’t worry. I’ve got your back.” It’s that typical gay ally support that shows how they simply don’t get it. I don’t need her to have my back. I’ve been with my husband for almost 30 years and we’ve always had each other’s back. 

I know she meant well. So I just replied with, “That’s nice.” But it was irritating. Whenever straight people are around LGBTQIA people they tend to assume so many things about them that may or may not be correct. When all they really have to do is simply put their straight privilege aside for a while, quiet down, and just listen. 

But more than that, Pride month and Pride events should be about LGBTQIA people only, and lately, it’s turned into a concept that’s been hijacked by straights. We let it happen. And many of them make money on Pride. 

The Book of Queer Docuseries Has Openly Gay Cast While Hollywood Continues to Ignore Us

The Book of Queer was created by an openly gay man named Eric Cervini, and it explores LGBTQIA history in a different way. For example, the fact that Abe Lincoln could have been gay. It’s actually a docuseries and I thought this was interesting. It’s interesting to me because every single year on Twitter they celebrate Walt Whitman’s birthday and every single year I have to mention that he was gay. The straights just will not do it.

But this is interesting, too… 

Finding LGBTQ actors to cast in the new history docuseries “The Book of Queer” wasn’t that difficult.

Here’s the link. It’s refreshing considering the fact that I’ve been posting so much about cultural appropriation this week with films, TV shows, and even Books like Red, White, and Royal Blue, which is a gay romance written by a woman. And that Bradley Cooper is playing gayface, again, and no one’s even talking about it. I guess there aren’t enough straight parts for him to play so he’d rather appropriate gay men. 

In any event, this docuseries I will watch. 

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