The NFL's New Video "Football Is Gay" In Support of Carl Nassib, He Had to De-Gay His Voice For Work, Ryan Field Books

The NFL’s New Video “Football Is Gay” In Support of Carl Nassib

We’re finally hearing from the NFL with regard to Carl Nassib’s recent coming-out announcement, and it’s a good, positive message. 

According to a report in OutSports, the video — entitled Football Is for Everyone — is meant not just to support Carl Nassib, the first active NFL player to come out as gay, but also let other players, as well as LGBTQ+ fans, know they’re just as important and welcome.

Here’s the rest. I think they mean “titled.” But even that’s debatable nowadays. The message here is that the NFL is supporting out gay people. I’m glad they mentioned other possible gay players. 

He Had to De-Gay His Voice For Work

This is something I think all gay men are forced to do at one point or another in their lives. And it happens in various ways. I know a lot of gay men de-gay their voices to fit into the mainstream straight world of privilege, and I even know some who de-gay their homes for when straight family members come to visit. That means they hide anything that might be associated with gay culture in their homes. 

This guy did it with his voice to land a job. This was the advice he received from a straight woman when he was having trouble getting job as an attorney in the 1990s. 

“I think it’s your voice,” she said. She set me up with a voice coach who told me that no one would ever take me seriously as an attorney, because I sounded like a 10-year-old girl from Mississippi. Also, I should keep my hands in my lap, as I was too expressive with my hand gestures. In other words, “Don’t be so gay.

Here’s more. And it worked. He landed a great job in Washington, DC. Unfortunately, it’s still happening today. We don’t get the same opportunities that straight people get. They might not call us names anymore, they might even bake us a wedding cake without any issues, but we do not get the same benefits straights get. Just try shopping a gay book to a mainstream literary agent and see how far you get. We are still fighting for every opportunity.

The Straight Pride Parade
The Straight Pride Parade

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Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

A Different Kind of Southern Love Story

What readers are saying about “Uncertainty”


“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

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What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”
In paperback or e-book. #gayromance #Wednesday

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