Lance Bass Is Building America’s Biggest Gay Bar

In a time when all gay venues have been shuttering and disappearing all over the globe, this story is interesting just from a social POV. To be clear, it wasn’t COVID that has been shutting down gay bars. With the onset of gay dating apps, the Internet in general, and more public acceptance from the mainstream, gay bars have been disappearing almost everywhere. Once again, here in New Hope, we had 4 hugely popular gay bars up until most recently. They are all gone now and I believe that’s because of all the social changes we’ve been experiencing in the gay community everywhere. At one time Tony and I spent most of our weekends at the gay bars in town, including Sunday afternoon tea dance. We stopping going about 10 years ago. 

With that said, it’s not stopping Lance Bass from doing this. 

Per Instinct Magazine, plans are underway to build the largest LGBTQIA nightclub in America at the former Rage site, backed in part by entertainer Lance Bass who has been a big player in the Boystown scene over the past several years. 

Here’s the rest. I think it’s a wonderful idea. I hope it works out well for everyone. In fact, I’ll be curious to see how it works out. 

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Demi Lovato Is Too Gay To Marry a Man

I’m not sure how this works because Lovato doesn’t actually say she’s gay. Right now she simply says she’s “too gay to marry a man.” So what? I’m too gay to ever even think about marrying a woman. That’s not going to change in 5 or 10 years from now. And I’m proud of that. That’s how it usually works. But Lovato seems to think she might change her mind? Maybe she’s bisexual? I’m honestly not sure and I’m not making any assumptions here. It’s just confusing, is all.

 I can tell you what it’s like to be a gay man, but I can’t tell you what it’s like to be Demi Lovato. 

“Regardless if drama is happening or not, I am too gay to marry a man right now,” she says. “I don’t know if that will change in 10 years and I don’t know if that’ll never change, but I love accepting myself.”

Here’s more. 

According to Lovato, she doesn’t want her sexual identity to be labeled. The only problem I see with this is that I don’t believe that being gay is my sexual identity. I hear that all the time and it bothers me because being gay isn’t just about sex and sexuality. There are many gay men who do not have sex. I would imagine there are many gay women who don’t have sex. And when people like Lovato say things like this it often misleads people into believing things that aren’t true for all gay people. Nothing she says is true for me, as a gay man. I just think it’s important to make that distinction. She is strictly speaking for herself. 

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Historical Julius’s Gay Bar May Shutter Because of COVID

Here’s a story about another gay bar that could potentially be a casualty of COVID.  I know that most gay venues…including bars and restaurants…have been closing over the last decade for fairly solid reasons. There doesn’t seem to be a need for them anymore. I’m not getting into that now. But people don’t realize that there are still gay bars that have been hanging on in certain places, and now thanks to COVID they may have to shut down, too. 

Now its owner is determined to make sure that legacy — and the bar itself— isn’t a casualty of the pandemic, which has devastated New York City nightlife.

Here’s more. I hope he figures out a way to stay in business. I know we’ll never have as many gay bars as we did at one time, but I do believe there’s still room for a few. Especially in places like New York City.

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Gay Priests Break Their Silence 

One thing you rarely ever hear about are gay priests who are out of the closet. But even that seems to be changing. And it’s about time. 

Father Greiten “came out” to his congregation in this Milwaukee suburb about three years ago, at age 51, when he announced, “I am a gay priest, and a celibate priest.” 

Here’s more.  Straight priests are celibate too. I think this might be a good example of what I often say about gay being more than just sex or sexuality. I know most of you don’t fully understand that yet. But being gay is not just about sex.

Are They Straight-Washing Leonardo da Vinci’s life?

Oh, I’ve seen filmmakers and authors do things like this before. They will take a historical figure and straight-wash everything about his/her life, and the straight people won’t even know any better…even those who are allegedly our allies. Every single year without fail I see Walt Whitman’s birthday trending on Twitter and not ONE straight will actually mention that he might have been gay. They won’t even suggest that there’s a possibility. It’s one of the most popular forms of homophobia out there today. So this article about Leonardo doesn’t shock me at all. 

In any event, there’s a new Amazon series about da Vinci’s life and it’s already receiving criticism. 

A new series focusing on the great artist’s relationship with ‘muse’ Caterina da Cremona rests on virtually no historical evidence

Here’s more.  I honestly don’t know enough about it yet to form any opinions, but I do like Aidan Turner from Poldark who’s going to be starring in it, so I probably will check it out.  I honestly don’t mind if stories are fictionalized or embellished, but let us know. That’s all we ask.

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 Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

Total Bottoms Talk about Why They Won’t Top

I’ve always believed there are either tops or bottoms and sometimes, on the rare occasion, you find someone who truly is versatile. In other words, I don’t believe it when many claim to be versatile. Or for that matter, those who claim to be tops but are really total bottoms. Oh, I’ve seen that many times. They will lie about being bottoms just because they think it makes them inferior to a top. There is, and there always has been, a certain stigma attached to being a bottom and that’s a shame. Once again, this is coming from my own personal experience as a gay man. A friend didn’t tell me about it. 

This is why I always try to keep the lines drawn in my books and stories with respect to tops and bottoms. I’ve read inaccurate m/m romances where the author didn’t seem to think being a top or a bottom mattered. And sadly, that usually happens when the author is not a gay man and truly doesn’t know any better. I’ve even had books of mine reviewed poorly because I told them the truth. 

In any event, I digress. Some things are changing and these total bottoms are talking about why they prefer to be bottoms. 

I prefer to bottom because, frankly, it feels better. The prostate is the g-spot for males, so it makes sense to like having it hit during sex. It causes me to orgasm and makes my orgasms more intense.

Here’s the rest. I also believe it’s a mental thing, too. Gay sex is a lot like hetero sex in that respect. 

Ezra Miller’s Sexy Queer Playboy Shoot

I don’t know how I missed this one back in 2018, but I found it now and that’s all that matters. I love Ezra Miller and I love this photoshoot he did. It’s crossing the kind of boundaries and lines that I believe need to be crossed. 

‘It’s really important to acknowledge the diversity of voices who have experienced this shit, and all genders, all capacities, all types of people. Everyone is victim to it. Everyone is a survivor of it.’

Here’s a link to the rest. I wish I could just share one photo. They truly are excellent and I hope you take the time to click on this link. It’s totally SFW and you won’t be disappointed. 

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 Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

Evan Peters to Play Jeffery Dahmer in Netflix Series

I’m such a huge fan of Evan Peters I think I’ve seen everything he’s ever done, and I’ve loved everything he’s ever done. He’s truly a spectacular actor and he’s fascinating to watch.  

And now he’s playing Jeffery Dahmer in a new series on Netflix. I honestly have never been able to watch anything about Jeffery Dahmer. It’s always been too disturbing for me. But I may watch this one. 

It’s also being created by Ryan Murphy and Ian Brennan. 

the Netflix series will be told from the victim’s point of view and dives deeply into the police incompetence and apathy that allowed Dahmer to go on a multiyear killing spree, invading arrest 10 times.

Here’s more.  There’s a photo of Evan Peters as Jeffery Dahmer. 

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 Always Taboo: Male Full Frontal Nudity In Film

I found this website by accident and thought I would share it with anyone who is interested. It’s focused on films that lean more toward art and emotion, and there’s a strong focus on male full-frontal nudity and the penis. It’s a comprehensive list of films that isn’t especially gay. But there is homoerotic content. 

Here’s one short example. I haven’t seen it but it sounds fascinating. 

This 11 minute homage to the male member shows its subject in the various stages of erection. The voice-over poem by James Broughton includes the line “This is the secret that will not stay hidden.”

Here’s the link to check it out. I think it’s extremely well done. 

And some of the films are even more mainstream, like “Kinsey.” I remember that well. 

The Rainbow Detective Agency: A Guy with Two Penises by Ryan Field 

One of the downfalls of having written many books is that it’s hard to keep them all together. I have readers ask me about books all the time on social media, especially Twitter, and I’m often at a loss for words. So I’ve decided that I’m going to try to write an updated post about each individual book I’ve had published. I think it’s interesting because now I can comment after the book had been reviewed and received. I have a few new titles coming out soon but I’ve put things on hold while I finish up working on a memoir. The memoir I won’t indie publish. I’m going to shop that to an agent. And it no one wants it I won’t have it published. So we’ll see how that turns out. I know what to do with erotic romance and fiction, but I’m not so sure about a memoir of my own life. 

In any event, this book, for example, shocked me. I never thought it would get a decent review…or any review for that matter. 

Here’s part of a review from Amazon. Here’s a link to the book.  This truly is one of those times when a book surprised me. I thought I was being self-indulgent when I wrote it. You never can tell. 

This book had me with the title; it must be one of the most bizarre to be found on the Kindle marketplace. I must admit, the title didn’t really prepare me for the quality of the writing. I was expecting a bit of a comedy, and thought the quality of writing would be pretty average, but it was actually fast-paced, punchy, slick and insightful.I also loved the tongue-in-cheek comedy that appears throughout the book; the main character is called Proctor Gamble (I love it!).

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 Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

2020 The Year For Full Frontal Male Nudity

I didn’t know about this fact until I found this article. They are claiming that 2020 was the year for male full frontal nudity. Maybe this means there is change coming? It’s actually a list that’s coming from the Mr. Man website and they go into some detail about what it takes to be considered a good, decent full frontal male nude scene. I think it’s actually a very good way to keep track of these things.

Henricks said compiling the 2020 list was “easier than you’d think … thankfully we’ve developed a system that ensures no nudes are left behind,” he said. “Throughout the year our content department flags nude scenes of note, so we have a handy catalog of scenes to review at the end of the year.

Here’s the rest. At the end of the article, they list 10 films with what they consider decent male full frontal nudes scenes. I’ve seen most of them. And they’re great films otherwise, too. In every single case, I think the nudity helped with the storyline. 

What’s Up With the Crooked COVID Vaccine People?

I don’t have any links to this one, but I’m just curious about something. We all know how difficult it has been for people to get the COVID vaccine all over the world, let alone the US. Tony and I can’t get it anywhere. This is just a fact. And those who are considered 1 a are getting top priority right now, and rightly so. These are people who are over a certain age and have specific health issues. I don’t remember the entire list, but you know what I’m talking about.  

The problem is that even people who fall into the category of 1 a are having difficulty getting the vaccine because there just don’t seem to be enough to go around. And that’s not fair to them. 

And yet I’m seeing people who are young, healthy, and full of life brag about getting the vaccine with no shame whatsoever. And I’d like to know WTF is up with that? You know someone who helped you get the vaccine? Someone helped sneak you into the system so you can get the vaccine? 

If you are one of these crooked COVID vaccine people sneaking the vaccine while others who really need it are going without, at least have the decency to STFU and be discreet. Don’t brag about it all over social media.  The rest of us don’t want to hear you. 

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 Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field

 Update: Male Full Frontal Nudity in Films and TV

Here’s a more recent piece on male nudity on TV and in films. There are a few with almost full-frontal nudity, but still not really anything that’s worth talking about. So even in 2020, the double standard continues with regard to showing the penis without shame. 

However, there are some interesting facts in the article and a couple of nice photos of Matt Bomer.

In a release, they note that in 1982 depicting a man nude would get a film an X rating — this was not the same for female nude scenes.

Here’s more.

23 Male Full Frontal Nude Scenes

This article is focused on 23 times where male actors did full frontal nude scenes. Notice the way they also mention the double standard for men and women. 

As anyone with eyeballs and even a middling interest in pop culture knows, women are naked on-screen *way* more than men. 

Here’s the rest. Warning, though. This is one of those online publications that give you a little information and expect you to pay for the rest. So…if you think that paying for this kind of information is a bunch of crap, here’s a link to Harvey Keitel nude that’s free. You are welcome. I’m just not sure if that link is SFW.

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 Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field