We Still Have Gay Shame Around
I post about this often. The fact that there is still gay shame and it continues to haunt and frustrate many of us. It’s one of the reasons why I continue with this 11 year old web site even though I could live very well without it now.
And sometimes I feel as though I’m the only one talking about the gay shame that still exists. The mainstream media never even thinks this is worthy of posting, and there are so many straight so-called allies out there who think everything is just fine for all gay people now. That in itself is a form of homophobia that some straight people do not get. They think they know it all and they will tell you…even though you might be gay and you know better.
With that said, gay shame is still alive and well all over the place. This is from Tom Allen and I think it’s spot on.
But Allen notes it is “still tricky” for gay people to come out. The issue of queer identity is “an ongoing journey that we’re still on”, he says, adding: “I think the idea of shame still pervades.”
Here’s more. I still believe we haven’t even seen half the LGBTQ population come out openly yet. There are still many of us quietly living in the proverbial closet. Of course this is also why no statistics you see now will ever be accurate. And I totally understand that. But some straights won’t understand. They think it’s all fine now and we are all just happy gays.