Month: October 2020

90 Year Old Grandfather Finally Comes Out

 90 Year Old Grandfather Finally Comes Out

We are seeing more of these stories lately and there’s a good reason why. Pay attention straight people. Not every gay person is out of the closet, not by a long shot. I believe there are still millions in the closet, which makes stories like this so endearing. 


After concealing his sexuality for 90 years, the Arvada father and grandfather used his time in COVID-19 isolation to write his memoir. On its pages, he revealed for the first time that he is gay. 


Here’s more.

It’s a wonderful piece. 

 The Straight Pride Parade: This is one night he’ll never forget! by [Field, Ryan ]
How to be a Good Gay Bottom 

How to Be a Good Gay Bottom by [Field, Ryan]

The Rescuer

Gay Couples Rush to Marry for Fear of Losing Gay Marriage; Ryan Field Books

 Gay Couples Rush to Marry for Fear of Losing Gay Marriage

This is interesting because I really don’t like to make predictions about anything like this. But I do know how gay marriage became legal. It was a long, difficult fight, and we had to fight conservatives as well as so-called liberals. Yes, up until recently good old Hillary Clinton did not support same-sex marriage. And that’s all on record with a simple google search. 

With that said, my point is that we continued to fight, and public opinion has changed drastically. I remember how long and hard we fought to win over same-sex marriage on a state level. It came long and slow, and many believed it was better for it to happen this way. I believe that in almost every single case a judge ruled that a ban on same-sex marriage was unconstitutional. I know that’s how it worked with Judge Jones in PA. 

a federal judge in Pennsylvania on Tuesday declared the state’s ban on same-sex marriage to be unconstitutional.

So this fear that people have right now is interesting. The confirmation of Justice Amy Coney Barrett has given everyone a few palpitations. Oh, I totally understand. I was with Tony 22 years before we could legally marry. However, I’m not sure there’s all that much to worry about now. Public opinion has shifted, at least with the majority. Apparently, many are worried. 

A number of couples are taking matters into their own hands and rushing to the altar for fear of this recently won right being chipped away at or even reversed.

Here’s the rest. 

 The Straight Pride Parade: This is one night he’ll never forget! by [Field, Ryan ]
How to be a Good Gay Bottom 

How to Be a Good Gay Bottom by [Field, Ryan]

The Rescuer

Russell Tovey Speaks on Section 28 and Growing Up Gay; Ryan Field Books

Russell Tovey Speaks on Section 28 and Growing Up Gay

I don’t know much about section 28, but it sounds like Russell Tovey grew up gay like me here in the US. I can relate to everything he’s saying and then some. 

Russell Tovey has spoken out about the impact of going to school under the homophobic Section 28 – wheg gay was wrong, dangerous, and disgusting”.

Here’s the rest. 

I never knew this. Apparently, Section 28 was homophobic legislation introduced by Mrs. Thatcher. 

 The Straight Pride Parade: This is one night he’ll never forget! by [Field, Ryan ]
How to be a Good Gay Bottom 

How to Be a Good Gay Bottom by [Field, Ryan]

The Rescuer

Nigerian Judge Throws Out Case Against 47 Gay Men; Ryan Field Books

Nigerian Judge Throws Out Case Against 47 Gay Men

Here’s something interesting that seems to be getting attention in many places. And rightly so. I think I even posted about this before. 

The men were arrested in a police raid on a Lagos hotel in the city’s Egbeda district in 2018. Police said the men were being initiated into a gay club, but the defendants said they were attending a birthday party.

Here’s the rest. Apparently, the judge threw out the case due to, “lack of diligent prosecution.” It goes on to talk about the stigma of being gay that still exists, and how much damage some of these men suffered as a result of their names being printed in public. And that stigma still exists everywhere. 


 The Straight Pride Parade: This is one night he’ll never forget! by [Field, Ryan ]
How to be a Good Gay Bottom 

How to Be a Good Gay Bottom by [Field, Ryan]

The Rescuer

The Walrus and the Carpenter BY LEWIS CARROLL

I just always loved this and I wanted to post it so I can always get to it quickly.  It has a certain calming effect.   


The Walrus and the Carpenter 

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“The sun was shining on the sea,
      Shining with all his might:
He did his very best to make
      The billows smooth and bright —
And this was odd, because it was
      The middle of the night.
The moon was shining sulkily,
      Because she thought the sun
Had got no business to be there
      After the day was done —
“It’s very rude of him,” she said,
      “To come and spoil the fun.”
The sea was wet as wet could be,
      The sands were dry as dry.
You could not see a cloud, because
      No cloud was in the sky:
No birds were flying overhead —
      There were no birds to fly.
The Walrus and the Carpenter
      Were walking close at hand;
They wept like anything to see
      Such quantities of sand:
If this were only cleared away,’
      They said, it would be grand!’
If seven maids with seven mops
      Swept it for half a year,
Do you suppose,’ the Walrus said,
      That they could get it clear?’
I doubt it,’ said the Carpenter,
      And shed a bitter tear.
O Oysters, come and walk with us!’
      The Walrus did beseech.
A pleasant walk, a pleasant talk,
      Along the briny beach:
We cannot do with more than four,
      To give a hand to each.’
The eldest Oyster looked at him,
      But never a word he said:
The eldest Oyster winked his eye,
      And shook his heavy head —
Meaning to say he did not choose
      To leave the oyster-bed.
But four young Oysters hurried up,
      All eager for the treat:
Their coats were brushed, their faces washed,
      Their shoes were clean and neat —
And this was odd, because, you know,
      They hadn’t any feet.
Four other Oysters followed them,
      And yet another four;
And thick and fast they came at last,
      And more, and more, and more —
All hopping through the frothy waves,
      And scrambling to the shore.
The Walrus and the Carpenter
      Walked on a mile or so,
And then they rested on a rock
      Conveniently low:
And all the little Oysters stood
      And waited in a row.
The time has come,’ the Walrus said,
      To talk of many things:
Of shoes — and ships — and sealing-wax —
      Of cabbages — and kings —
And why the sea is boiling hot —
      And whether pigs have wings.’
But wait a bit,’ the Oysters cried,
      Before we have our chat;
For some of us are out of breath,
      And all of us are fat!’
No hurry!’ said the Carpenter.
      They thanked him much for that.
A loaf of bread,’ the Walrus said,
      Is what we chiefly need:
Pepper and vinegar besides
      Are very good indeed —
Now if you’re ready, Oysters dear,
      We can begin to feed.’
But not on us!’ the Oysters cried,
      Turning a little blue.
After such kindness, that would be
      A dismal thing to do!’
The night is fine,’ the Walrus said.
      Do you admire the view?
It was so kind of you to come!
      And you are very nice!’
The Carpenter said nothing but
      Cut us another slice:
I wish you were not quite so deaf —
      I’ve had to ask you twice!’
It seems a shame,’ the Walrus said,
      To play them such a trick,
After we’ve brought them out so far,
      And made them trot so quick!’
The Carpenter said nothing but
      The butter’s spread too thick!’
I weep for you,’ the Walrus said:
      I deeply sympathize.’
With sobs and tears he sorted out
      Those of the largest size,
Holding his pocket-handkerchief
      Before his streaming eyes.
O Oysters,’ said the Carpenter,
      You’ve had a pleasant run!
Shall we be trotting home again?’
      But answer came there none —
And this was scarcely odd, because
      They’d eaten every one.”

Gays Abused and Tortured in Egypt; Book Review for "A Starr Is Born" by Ryan Field

Gays Abused and Tortured in Egypt

Here’s another sad article from the global front. It’s about Egyptian officials who torture and abuse gay people in what’s being called one of the worst violations of LGBTQ rights in that region. This quote is actually coming from someone who suffered the abuse first hand, and it sounds as if it just ruined him. No one should ever have to deal with this kind of abuse again.  

“I suffered the worst verbal abuse I have ever encountered by police officers, and they forbade me from going to the bathroom for two days. They subjected me to a forced anal exam. They sexually assaulted me,” el-Kashif, 20, told the international human rights group. “Solitary confinement was the worst thing that ever happened to me; it was really affecting my mental health. I still have post-traumatic stress disorder and social phobia. I’m not the person I was.”

Here’s the link to more. This quote is also coming from one of 15 people who spoke openly about their abusive experiences, with Human Rights Watch. The whole thing goes into a lot more detail and you should read this to see how other countries are treating LGBTQ people. 

Book Review for “A Starr Is Born” by Ryan Field

It’s not always easy to get reader reviews for books like this. Even though it’s a classic romance story, it’s still kind of experimental and it’s not always easy to get review for this type of book. However, someone was kind enough to leave this unsolicited review on Amazon. 

Ryan Field is the king of M/M novelized adaptations of popular films. A Starr Is Born is no exception. I really enjoyed Field’s take on this classic story. Pushing the boundaries with the gender-bending MC Morton. His backstory really colors his journey towards stardom and his relationship with rock star, Harrison.

Plenty of steamy moments and a great inclusion message compliments the main plot. It would be really hard not to like this one.

You can check this out, here. 


Over 100 Years of History with Gay Relationships; Ryan Field Books

Over 100 Years of History with Gay Relationships

I’ve posted before about the relationship between President John F. Kennedy and Lem Billings. Back in those days no one used the word gay, but I think it would be safe to say that if Lem Billings were alive today he would be referred to as gay. And he was JFK’s best friend and advisor for life. They were inseparable. I’ve posted about it many times and it’s in all the books. Of course, all the books have toned down the relationship, and a good Kennedy will never be openly gay, but it’s still another kind of gay relationship that happened in the past. And it probably had nothing to do with sex. 

And because everything gay-related has always been so painfully censored in the past, we know very little about gay history or gay culture. The shame and stigma associated with being gay was so strong in the past that it was simply ignored for the most part. Even President Johnson had a gay man working closely with him for a good deal of his life. And that turned out to be a terrible scandal. His name was Walter Jenkins and I’ve posted about him before, too. 

So when I see things like this I always stop and check them out. You don’t see them very often. 

Anyone needing a dose of heartwarming gay history in uncertain times, look no further than Loving: A Photographic History of Men in Love the new photo book from married authors Hugh Nini and Neal Treadwell.

Here’s the rest.  These photos really are fantastic.


 The Straight Pride Parade: This is one night he’ll never forget! by [Field, Ryan ]
How to be a Good Gay Bottom 

How to Be a Good Gay Bottom by [Field, Ryan]

The Rescuer

They are Still Making Gay References to Those Male Penguins; Ryan Field Books

 They are Still Making Gay References to Those Male Penguins

Last year they couldn’t wait to compare gay men to a couple of male penguins, and now they are doing it again this year. Because who doesn’t want to be compared to a GD bird? I would just like to see them try this with any other marginalized group of people. Could you imagine the repercussions if they did?

A pair of two male African penguins at a Dutch zoo, who made international headlines last year when they stole an egg from a heterosexual couple, have now stolen the nest of a lesbian duo, DierenPark Amsersfoort said in a Facebook post.

In any event, here’s more about these two alleged gay male penguins. 

The truth is that homosexual behavior tends to be common with all animals. But that’s the animal world, and it has nothing to do with human beings. And there has been controversy. 

Its use in animal studies has been controversial for two main reasons: animal sexuality and motivating factors have been and remain poorly understood, and the term has strong cultural implications in western society that are irrelevant for species other than humans.





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“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”

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Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]

All the Gay Content on TikTok; Ryan Field Books

 All the Gay Content on TikTok

I love TikTok and I check it out all the time. And I do see a good deal of gay content, and it’s usually sexually suggestive gay content from straight men, too. At least they appear to be straight. You really can’t be certain anymore. 

So are they using quasi gay content to get hits? I’m really not sure. Maybe this generation of young people doesn’t have the boundaries that previous generations have had…or as they put it: “an era of declining cultural homophobia.” 

But as racy as the video is, fans are under no pretense that the two are in the throes of gay puppy love. Mr. Robinson and Mr. Finney identify as heterosexual, but as some TikTok influencers have discovered, man-on-man action is a surefire way to generate traffic. 

Here’s more.  They have the video up and you can see it. If you know nothing about TikTok this is a great read because it’s so spot on. This is exactly what I see all the time myself on TikTok. This kind of thing and someone’s grandmother cooking Italian food. It’s interesting. 



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“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”

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Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]


Poll Shows 45% Queer Men Are Backing Trump; Ryan Field Books

Poll Shows 45% Queer Men Are Backing Trump


This story is one of the reasons why I never get political here on this web site. Nowadays it’s hard to know who is supporting any given candidate and I don’t want to insult any of my readers with partisan rhetoric. My job is to write fiction, not preach about politics. I do get into issues here from time to time, but they are almost always related to LGBTQ people and equality. I made no secret of the fact that I adore Pete Buttigieg and was thrilled to see him running for President. But I never knocked anyone else. And I try not to judge. 

With that said, I think this would surprise a lot of people. I know it surprises me. And I’m really not knocking anyone right now. I’m just surprised, is all.

A recent survey of 1,200 queer men in the United States found that 45 percent planned on voting for Republican President Donald Trump. Comparatively, 51 percent said they would vote for Democratic presidential candidate Joe Biden.


Here’s the rest. They do into a lot more detail about the poll itself. I have to admit that some of the comments are a little peculiar, especially the one about 10% of men. 


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“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”

Altered Parts


Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]