Why Are Straight Women Giving Out Gay Advice?; Gay Man’s 90-Day Huge Body Change During Quarantine Sets Off Debate; Ryan Field Books

Why Are Straight Women Giving Out Gay Advice?

I know this is Dear Abby and it covers a good deal of general information as far as advice goes. She gives advice to everyone. But it’s not the first time I’ve seen something like this recently. Just yesterday I saw a straight woman in the UK giving out advice to gay men and I started to wonder why I’m seeing this. We can’t find a gay man to give advice to gay men?

So here’s what happened with Dear Abby. It’s about a parent with a 14-year old son who’s asking for advice about whether or not they should confront the 14-year old kid about being gay.

I actually agree with the reply.

But the topic of his sexual orientation should be raised by him, not you.

Here’s a link. My only point, regardless of the reply, is that gay people should be the only people giving out gay advice. I know everyone has good intentions, and you think you know it all because you watched Will and his Grace, but I believe there are certain lines that shouldn’t be crossed. 

Gay Man’s 90-Day Huge Body Change During Quarantine Sets Off Debate

Here’s a story about a cute young gay realtor who decided to change his body during the COVID lock down. He was a cute guy before and after, but apparently he decided to change his body for himself. And it’s not without certain emotional complications.

“I hesitated posting this because I’m still not totally comfortable in my own skin,” he said on the tweet. “I know my body is far from what we are taught we should look like, especially in the gay community, BUT today marks 90 days since I decided to start getting healthy and I’m proud, so idgaf.”

Here’s more.  They go on to talk more about how gay men feel about the concept of body image and the pressures we’re under. I get it…totally. If you’re gay it’s always been this way. I haven’t had pizza or donuts or most carbs in almost 5 years. I stick to a Keto/Atkins kind of plan. 



“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”

Altered Parts

Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]

While the book is easily readable, it also addresses emotions stereotypes and relationships. I would have preferred it be 3 times as long and tragically most guys don’t find happy endings as depicted.. but in a short book, it provides food for thought, clarity and insight.. far more and better expressed than 99% of gay fiction . I don’t think it could have been done better.

Kendle's Fire by Ryan Field

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