Month: April 2020

Ryan Murphy’s Streaming "Hollywood" Show on Netflix; Kerry Katona and Passive Aggressive Transphobia; Ryan Field Books

Ryan Murphy’s Streaming “Hollywood” Show On Netflix

I’m linking to that general column right now in Queerty that deals with the latest in LGBTQ entertainment, but they mention Ryan Murphy’s new streaming show on Netflix and I’ve been very curious about it. It drops on May 1. 

The series follows a group of young creatives who come to Tinseltown in search of a dream, and instead, discover a gas station brothel run by an eccentric would-be star (obviously modeled on Scotty Bowers).

Of course knowing this is based on the Scotty Bowers book doesn’t sound too promising. Unfortunately, I bought the book “Full Service” by Scotty Bowers and I thought it was dismal at best. Here’s my review on Amazon. I never, ever return e-books. 

In all the years I’ve been reading e-books, this was my first return. When a book begins with the author driving around the streets of Hollywood while his dog is licking his neck and goes absolutely nowhere, I’m finished. And the fact that I paid over $10 for this e-book made it even worse. I probably wouldn’t have returned it if I hadn’t paid over $10, but I wasn’t going to take the chance on reading more generalities that seemed to be coming from a highly imaginative, and, subjective POV. And I’ve read a lot of non-fiction books about Hollywood over the years that have been excellent.

With that said, I will check out this new show on Netflix with an open mind.  

You can read more about this and other new LGBTQ entertainment, here. 

Kerry Katona and Passive Aggressive Transphobia

It’s really amazing how often I see homophobia and transphobia coming from people with “good intentions.” They have no clue whatsoever that what they are saying is wrong. But this is a pretty good example of passive aggressive transphobia. 

Kerry Katona made a few comments recently about how she would feel if she had a transgender kid, and it was pretty bad. But I was also amazed to see that so many people thought there was nothing wrong with what she said. It’s really classic passive aggressive transphobia, coming from a place of straight white privilege, which is no different than passive aggressive homophobia.

In all honesty, if Max decided to [come out as] a girl I’d be devastated, just because he’s my only boy, but of course I’d stand by him.

There’s a lot more, here, and I disagree with her. I don’t see anything devastating about any part of the LGBTQ equation.  I see no shame either. That’s her problem, not mine. I believe coming out should be celebrated. And this isn’t the first time she’s commented on trans people either. 








“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”



Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]



While the book is easily readable, it also addresses emotions stereotypes and relationships. I would have preferred it be 3 times as long and tragically most guys don’t find happy endings as depicted.. but in a short book, it provides food for thought, clarity and insight.. far more and better expressed than 99% of gay fiction . I don’t think it could have been done better.


Kendle's Fire by Ryan Field













Will Reeve News Reporter Isn’t Wearing His Pants; "Never Have I Ever" and Gay Girls Coming Out; Ryan Field Books

Will Reeve News Reporter Isn’t Wearing His Pants

This seems to be a running joke on social media lately. With everyone home working in self-quarantine a lot of guys have been allegedly forgetting to put on their pants during social media videos, teleconferences, and news broadcasts. And some have been caught with their pants down. I’m sure in some cases it’s been honest. I also think some of it’s planned to get attention, but who doesn’t like seeing a cute man without his pants?

This one happened to a male news reporter, Will Reeve, who also happens to be the son of the late Christopher Reeve.

Although he was clad in a shirt and suit jacket, his bottom half showed plenty of naked thigh and what appeared to be a flash of underwear.

Here’s a link to more. Reeve claims he was wearing gym shorts, not underpants. But either way, whether planned or unplanned, can you think of a better way to get attention? Especially given the fact that so many people (like me) don’t even bother to watch network newsy shows anymore. We get our news online. I honestly wouldn’t even know he is a reporter if he hadn’t been spotted without his pants. 

Never Have I Ever and Gay Girls Coming Out

There’s a new series on Netflix called, Never Have I Ever, and we just started watching it last night. We just turned it on, without knowing anything about it, and started watching with no expectations whatsoever.

And we loved it.

While it’s only been out for just over a day, fans are already praising the comedy for diving authentically and hilariously into Indian-American customs and culture, as well as the three core young women of color leading the show into hilarious depths. 

It takes a couple of shows to get into the gay woman character, but they seem to be handling it well.  

Here’s more. 







“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”



Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]



While the book is easily readable, it also addresses emotions stereotypes and relationships. I would have preferred it be 3 times as long and tragically most guys don’t find happy endings as depicted.. but in a short book, it provides food for thought, clarity and insight.. far more and better expressed than 99% of gay fiction . I don’t think it could have been done better.


Kendle's Fire by Ryan Field




Anne Tyler’s "Redhead by the Side of the Road"; Mayor Pete Talks About Queer People Who Voted Against Him; Ryan Field Books

Anne Tyler’s Redhead by the Side of the Road

Redhead by the Side of the Road: A novel by [Anne Tyler]I think I’ve mentioned before that I’ve always been a huge Anne Tyler fan. I was introduced to her work in college during a contemporary fiction class I took for my major, and I got hooked on her books with the first novel. As I recall, that was titled, Searching for Caleb. Since then, I’ve read every book she’s written and I’ve never once been disappointed.

Her most recent novel, Redhead by the Side of the Road, did not disappoint me either. Once again, Tyler took simple people and made them extraordinary. She does that with all her characters, and her story lines. In Redhead by the Side of the Road, she took one of the most boring people on the planet and turned him into someone fascinating. And she did that with one of the best examples of word economy I’ve seen so far. This is not a long novel, but it is a perfect novel length. It’s tight and solid, and the way a novel should be written. Anyone who says otherwise knows very little about creative writing and fiction. As far as style and technique goes, this could be Tyler’s greatest work so far.

I’m not going into great detail about the story line because I don’t like worrying about spoilers. However, this time Tyler let everyone know she has a sense of humor with the ending. It’s a typical ending for an Anne Tyler book, but it’s the first time I have ever seen this type of ending actually spelled out in one single word. Anne Tyler is a clever woman, and this one word…and it is just one word…at the very end of the novel made me smile.

With all this said, I could recommend this book or any other book by Anne Tyler to anyone. Here’s the Amazon link. 

Mayor Pete Talks About Queer People Who Voted Against Him

I rarely ever get into politics here, however, when an openly gay man who is married runs for President of the United States and he makes it to the mainstream, you can be damn sure I’m going to follow him and I’m going to support him. I’m an openly gay man and I’ve seen and experienced more discrimination in my lifetime than I even care to remember, and I am going to support the gay candidate. I know one thing for certain. The openly gay candidate is going to have my back when no one else will have it.

With that said, as amazing as it might sound, there were actually people who fall under the LGBTQ umbrella who did not support Pete Buttigieg. But more than that, these people were the first to criticize Buttigieg. And Buttigieg recently addressed this, nicely.

“I think our LGBT+ community is going through that generational experience,” Buttigieg waxed. “I wonder if for some people it was empowering, in terms of a group that’s so close to the edge in terms of marginalization, to frankly feel empowered to be queer and to not vote for [an out-queer candidate].”

He goes into more detail, and you can read that here.  

I actually feel very sorry for any LGBTQ people who support non-LGBTQ candidates and don’t realize they will eventually get slapped in the face. And it will happen to them because no hetero candidate will ever fully understand what it’s like to be LGBTQ. I have never seen that fail. 







“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”



Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]



While the book is easily readable, it also addresses emotions stereotypes and relationships. I would have preferred it be 3 times as long and tragically most guys don’t find happy endings as depicted.. but in a short book, it provides food for thought, clarity and insight.. far more and better expressed than 99% of gay fiction . I don’t think it could have been done better.


Kendle's Fire by Ryan Field

Trans Men Strip to Their Underwear; Gay Men Are Outed In Horrible Morocco; Ryan Field Books

Trans Men Strip to Their Underwear

We rarely ever see stories about trans men, so whenever I do see one I try to link to it. It just amazes me sometimes that so many people never even consider the fact that there are…and always have been…trans men.

But I do think that’s changing for trans men. There’s a trend called #DontRushChallenge on Insta and TikTok that’s prompted a video of trans men.

The video was put together by Instagram user Lucas Elliot (@cooltransluke). He said he and seven other trans men who participated in a recent fashion show for an underwear brand decided to create their contribution to the genre.

You can check it out, here. You can watch the video there, too. It’s really good. These guys are hot.

Gay Men Are Outed In Horrible Morocco

Last Week I posted about how horrible Morocco is on gay rights. It’s NOT a wonderful place for gay people. It’s one of those countries where LGBTQ people live in constant fear. And here’s another reason why.

At least 50 to 100 gay men were outed in Morocco over the past two weeks, rights activists say, after the men were identified on location-based meeting apps while sheltering at home amid a coronavirus lockdown.

Here’s a link for the rest. No one from Morocco has commented yet.

Update:

And there is more to this story. All this appears to have been started by a trans influencer who decided to out gay men. You can read that in full, here.  The sadness with this entire story is astounding. 

Gay men in Morocco have been living in terror for the past fortnight, after beauty influencer Naofal Moussa, also known as Sofia Talouni, instructed her hundreds of thousands of followers to use gay dating apps to identify them.








“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”



Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]



While the book is easily readable, it also addresses emotions stereotypes and relationships. I would have preferred it be 3 times as long and tragically most guys don’t find happy endings as depicted.. but in a short book, it provides food for thought, clarity and insight.. far more and better expressed than 99% of gay fiction . I don’t think it could have been done better.


Kendle's Fire by Ryan Field

Sex Doll Sales On the Rise; Lesbian Judge In Texas Must Remove Rainbow Pride Flag; Ryan Field Books

Sex Doll Sales On the Rise

Well this is interesting. According to this article, sex doll sales are on the rise because of self quarantines and social distancing.
“We are seeing the sex doll industry go through a revolution during the COVID-19 pandemic with a huge increase in orders from both couples and male and single females,” company spokesperson Janet Stevensen told GayStarNews
You can check this out, here. The sex dolls cost a little more than $2,000. 
Lesbian Judge In Texas Must Remove Rainbow Pride Flag
For the life of me I will never understand why the Pride Flag seems to bother people so much. But it does, and we’re constantly seeing stories like this. 

The state of Texas has ordered a lesbian judge to remove her Pride Flag from her courtroom, after an attorney accused her of bias.
Here’s the rest. This flag has a lot of personal meaning to her, and it’s not as if she’s disrespecting any other flags. But more than that, they also made her remove anything rainbow related, like a rainbow pen and mouse pad. 






“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”



Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]



While the book is easily readable, it also addresses emotions stereotypes and relationships. I would have preferred it be 3 times as long and tragically most guys don’t find happy endings as depicted.. but in a short book, it provides food for thought, clarity and insight.. far more and better expressed than 99% of gay fiction . I don’t think it could have been done better.


Kendle's Fire by Ryan Field

Bella Ciao Da Ogni Balcone; Should You Delete Your Ex’s Nudes…and Your Ex; Ryan Field Books

Bella Ciao Da Ogni Balcone

One of the things I love about Twitter is that I always feel connected globally. And the hashtag #BellaCiaoDaOgniBalcone is an excellent example. It actually means, Beautiful Hello From Every Balcony, and so many people have been sharing it today for various reasons.

Here’s a link to one video where an Italian musician is serenading his neighbors.

But really, it’s a hashtag where many in Italy and doing the best they can to get through everything with the Coronavirus, and to celebrate the big national holiday referred to as Liberation Day.

 Liberation Day is a national holiday in Italy that is annually celebrated on April 25. It marks the fall of Mussolini’s Italian Social Republic and the end of the Nazi occupation in Italy in 1945, towards the end of the second World War.

Here’s a link to read more. Of course Italy was hit hard with the coronavirus. 

Should You Delete Your Ex’s Nudes…and Your Ex

This article goes a lot deeper than just nude photos of an ex. It gets into a lot about relationship dynamics. It’s another one of those questions from a Reddit thread where a guy is unsure about his long term boyfriend keeping in touch with ex-lovers.

“I told him that I don’t think people should be friends with their exes or past hookups once they enter a stable relationship. And he argued and said ‘You don’t understand because you were a Jehovah’s Witness. This is normal.’”

Here’s a link to more. I don’t think there’s really any set rule to this one. It really all depends on how the individual feels about it. And as I get older I honestly do believe that every single situation is different. 








“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”



Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]



While the book is easily readable, it also addresses emotions stereotypes and relationships. I would have preferred it be 3 times as long and tragically most guys don’t find happy endings as depicted.. but in a short book, it provides food for thought, clarity and insight.. far more and better expressed than 99% of gay fiction . I don’t think it could have been done better.


Kendle's Fire by Ryan Field





Sam Smith Loves Poppers; Gay Man Pays Straight Studs For Sex; Ryan Field Books

Sam Smith Loves Poppers

The only reason I’m posting about this is because I like poppers, too, and I have this feeling a lot of people don’t even know what they are. I know most straight people don’t know. 

With that said, here’s what poppers actually are

Popper is a slang term given broadly to drugs of the chemical class called alkyl nitrites that are inhaled

You get a quick rush that doesn’t last more than a brief moment. That’s it. Nothing more than that. And most people don’t do them very often. It’s an occasional thing.

Here’s what Sam Smith said. 

“I can completely confirm, I love poppers! I love poppers. I’ve been ashamed to say that, but I have so much fun when I do poppers. I’m not trying to endorse it. I know they’re not good for you. I mean, booze isn’t good for you as well, right?”

You can read more, here. There are comments. For as long as I can remember poppers have been part of the club scene. 

Gay Man Pays Straight Studs For Sex

This is about a gay man who’s been paying straight men for sex most of his life. It’s really one of those question and answer advice columns

“What this has usually amounted to was me paying them cash to give them oral sex. It’s not something that I’m proud of, but it has really been the only consistent way that I’ve ever been able to have the sex that I desire and need.”

You can read is all, here. First, I have no problem with sex workers or the jobs they do. Second, it’s a fascinating piece to examine with regard to gay men who prefer sex with straight men. It also gets into the concept of sex with no reciprocation, which I’ve added to my books more than once. We seem to have been taught by Hollywood…or whomever…that everyone has to climax during sex every single time and that’s just not always the case. Sex with two men is NOT like sex with a man and a woman, and it’s not like Brokeback Mountain or Will and his Grace. Sex with no reciprocation is a huge turn on for some gay men who truly enjoy nothing more than giving (not receiving) oral sex. 

There are all kinds of comments. 








“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”



Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]



While the book is easily readable, it also addresses emotions stereotypes and relationships. I would have preferred it be 3 times as long and tragically most guys don’t find happy endings as depicted.. but in a short book, it provides food for thought, clarity and insight.. far more and better expressed than 99% of gay fiction . I don’t think it could have been done better.


Kendle's Fire by Ryan Field







An Unsolicited Review for "Sleepless In San Francisco" by Ryan Field; Hockey Star Brock Weston Comes Out As Gay; Ryan Field Books

An Unsolicited Review for Sleepless In San Francisco by Ryan Field 

For me, speaking as an author and as a reader, the best reviews always come from readers and from those who weren’t solicited to write the review. For me, an unsolicited review means there’s no hidden agenda with either party involved. In other words, the reviewer isn’t trying to get anything from me, and I’m not trying to get anything from the reviewer. And I like that, and I appreciate that.

With that said, here’s a new review for Sleepless In San Francisco that was completely unexpected and unsolicited. The reviewer was kind enough to let me know about it on Twitter.

It’s a fairly long review, and here are two separate excerpts.

This gay erotic romance is loosely based on Sleepless in Seattle.

This is an erotic retelling of a popular het romance, so it’s not rife with “feels and jitters”

You can read it in full here. I really like the web site, too. They do a nice job with everything there, and it’s simple to navigate. 



Hockey Star Brock Weston Comes Out As Gay

Here’s another story about someone coming out as gay in the world of sports. This time it’s college hockey player, Brock Weston. And his story is a little more emotional than others. For many guys it happens this way. 

“I was so upset after going out one night that I threw my phone at the wall, punched a hole in my door and was bawling uncontrollably. I knew I could not live like that any longer.”

Here’s the link. He gets into the homophobic locker room talk and some of the other things he’s had to hear over the years. We all know what that’s like. But things are changing. 









“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”



Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]



While the book is easily readable, it also addresses emotions stereotypes and relationships. I would have preferred it be 3 times as long and tragically most guys don’t find happy endings as depicted.. but in a short book, it provides food for thought, clarity and insight.. far more and better expressed than 99% of gay fiction . I don’t think it could have been done better.


Kendle's Fire by Ryan Field









Ryan Murphy’s "Hollywood" on Netflix; How To Use Gay Grindr Safely; Ryan Field Books

Ryan Murphy’s “Hollywood” on Netflix

I’ll check this out just like I check out every other Ryan Murphy series or movie, and I truly hope this time I’ll watch until the end. I wasn’t thrilled with Versace, but I did love the Bette Davis/Joan Crawford project. This looks like something that could be entertaining. 

The limited series focuses on an aspiring group of performers (some fictional, some based on real people like Rock Hudson) who come to post-World War II Hollywood in hopes of making their dreams come true. 

You can read more here, and watch the trailer. It looks excellent, and it drops on May 1. Perfect timing if this quarantine continues, which it will in most places. 

How To Use Gay Grindr Safely

I’m sure most people don’t need this, but I do see a lot of gay men on social media who always seem a bit clueless when it comes to things like this. Many of whom are still single. It will take you through a step by step process on how to use Grindr properly. 

The app helps users find other gay men by utilizing their mobile’s GPS technology. Users can log on to instantly see other Grindr members in the area, share pics, stats, chat or arrange to meet. Grindr is available for free on iPhone, Android, and Blackberry devices. 

Here’s the link. And if you’re not interested there’s no need to comment with an opinion on hook up apps. You can just move on quietly.







“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”



Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]



While the book is easily readable, it also addresses emotions stereotypes and relationships. I would have preferred it be 3 times as long and tragically most guys don’t find happy endings as depicted.. but in a short book, it provides food for thought, clarity and insight.. far more and better expressed than 99% of gay fiction . I don’t think it could have been done better.


Kendle's Fire by Ryan Field

August Reynolds Comes Out As Gay; Ellen’s Staff Revolts Against Her; Ryan Field Books

August Reynolds Comes Out As Gay

I’m not even totally sure who August Reynolds is, but he recently came out as gay and it’s making the news. But this time it’s a little different because he plays a gay character on TV in a new NBC show called Council of Dads.

“I knew that I could not portray this gay man honestly without letting you all know that I am a gay man myself. I’ve never done that with the people that I’ve worked with.

Here’s the rest. He’s actually 46 years old. But it’s never too late to come out. 


Ellen’s Staff Revolts Against Her

Here’s more about the ongoing saga of Ellen DeGeneres and her staff. These people do not sound happy. And it really does make you think twice about Ellen and the image she’s always tried so hard to sell to the world. 

Even worse, instead of calling up her own employees with the needed skills, DeGeneres paid a non-union company to do the work.

Here’s more. DeGeneres gets paid $50 million a year. 








“A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he’ll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who’s husband died last year. I enjoyed this story.”

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about “Altered Parts”
“Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina.”



Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]


While the book is easily readable, it also addresses emotions stereotypes and relationships. I would have preferred it be 3 times as long and tragically most guys don’t find happy endings as depicted.. but in a short book, it provides food for thought, clarity and insight.. far more and better expressed than 99% of gay fiction . I don’t think it could have been done better.


Kendle's Fire by Ryan Field