Passive Aggressive Homophobia and Cultural Appropriation
Yesterday I got into a slightly heated discussion with a couple of authors who weren’t gay males, and it was about homophobia. It doesn’t matter what the details are because it didn’t go far, and I decided to delete my comments and block those authors. It wasn’t worth my time and I don’t want to be associated with people like that. I’ve reached that point in my life.
But I do see this kind of homophobia happening all the time so I figured I’d link to a few pieces. I think one of the most important things to remember is that if you’re not a gay man, you don’t school the gay man about what it’s like to experience homophobia. Not even if you are an author published with a small time e-press. That’s about as simple as it gets, and yet there are straight women and men who still feel the need to do that.
In any event, here’s a great piece that talks about homophobia and cultural appropriation.
I know that every man and his dog in business wants to benefit commercially from the “pink dollar” and the general joy over the legalisation of same-sex marriage, but sometimes you can get carried away.
I think this is something that bothers most gay men. Whenever they see non-gay people exploiting gay content for attention and monetary gain, it’s worthy of more than a cringe. It’s also another form of homophobia. Here’s the link for more.
And this article talks about passive aggressive homophobia. It’s really amazing how some (not all) non-gay people, even the most liberal, actually believe that homophobia always involves aggressive behavior or violence. Homophobia comes in a variety of forms.
The problem is that in films like the leading character is only deemed sympathetic when he is squeaky clean — as opposed to being complicated, real, quirky, flawed or sexual. No here!
There are other links for passive aggressive homophobia with a simple search. But right now it’s not all that common and we’re all still evolving so there aren’t that many in-depth pieces. I can promise you one thing, though. Whenever you’re a non-gay person and you try to school a gay person on what it’s like to be gay, that’s homophobia, too.
Man Lured Gay Men To Hotel Rooms and Robbed Them
Here’s another dismal story about hook up app culture. Gay men were lured to a hotel with Grindr messages.
Once they arrived, instead of the expected Grindr date, they were confronted by a man demanding their money and other valuables.
You can read it all, here. You really can’t be too careful nowadays, especially with hook up apps. I think Grindr and all hook up apps are great things, but you still have to proceed with caution. It’s really not all that different than it was before hook up apps back when gay men would cruise places like rest areas and state parks. In fact, in some ways things are better now because in the past most gay men would never even report crimes like these.
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