Month: October 2019

When ‘Homosexual’ Became ‘Gay’; Voters Split On Having A Gay President; Ryan Field Books

When ‘Homosexual’ Became ‘Gay’

Whenever I’m working on a novel that is set in the past it’s always difficult to find a word for gay people. I don’t like the word homosexual, and the word gay had nothing to do with same sex love or relationships prior to the 1970s. It’s not easy. Mostly, I avoid it and try to show rather than tell.

With that said, I’m linking to an article now that talks about gay history, ONE Magazine, and when the word gay actually became common usage for gay people. The focus is actually on a letter written by the editor of ONE magazine, Jim Kepner. This was way before my time so it’s all interesting to me.

In 1969 the Christopher Street resistance marked the liberation of America’s 20-year-old Homophile Movement from heterosexual authority, and put forward the name Gay as a banner for the “new consciousness” – which of course was not entirely new.

It’s a very fascinating piece you can read, here.  They even mention some history of the word homosexual. The term ‘heterosexual authority’ is interesting, too. We’re still dealing with that, and sometimes in the most unlikely places…like the film industry and book publishing to name just two, where heterosexual authority is still quite common and gay people are always under their control. And yet they’ll still tell you they are ‘allies.’ 

Voters Split On Having A Gay President

I’m still shocked that we actually have an openly gay man running for President, and he’s being taken seriously this time. If nothing else, Pete Buttgieg is making history at this very moment and we have made progress. However, this article questions whether or not the entire country is ready for an openly gay President. 

According to a POLITICO/Morning Consult poll of registered voters, 50 percent of respondents said they were either definitely or probably ready to have a commander in chief who is openly gay, compared with 37 percent who said they were either definitely or probably not ready.

What’s really interesting to me is that we may have already had a gay President…or two…and no one even knew that. 

Here’s a link to the full article. 

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Twitter Wars: Gender Pronouns Confused This Guy; Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, Mark Zuckerberg, and Porn Site’s Femdom Humiliation; Ryan Field Books

Twitter Wars: Gender Pronouns Confused This Guy

If you don’t know anything about pronouns, you might find this helpful. I see people doing gender pronouns more and more, both on social media and in real life, and I’ve been using gender neutral pronouns unless I know for certain which pronouns to use. I haven’t used gender neutral pronouns (they/them or Ze/Hir) with fiction because I don’t want to confuse readers, but I do make the pronouns clear in every book I write now.

With that said, a guy on Twitter was having an exchange with a woman, he seemed interested in sex with her, and then he saw gender pronouns in her bio and became uninterested.

It is a popular practice for people to share their pronouns when introducing themselves, whether in conversation, on their social media bio or in their email signature.

For people who are trans, non-binary or gender non-conforming, this is an effective way to let people know how they should be addressed. Increasingly, cis people are also often sharing their pronouns to show support to the trans community and to normalise the act.

Here’s a link to read the rest. I’d also like to ad one thing: Twitter is NOT a dating site.

Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, Mark Zuckerberg, and Porn Site’s Femdom Humiliation

I watched clips of Ocasio-Cortez interrogating Mark Zuckerberg and I found them amusing. Apparently, I’m not the only one because this happened.

Among clips of sweaty bodies writhing in ecstatic union, Pornhub users might just spy a video of Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez’s blistering interrogation of Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg from the House Financial Services Committee hearing on October 23. Either that or someone was having fun in Photoshop.

Here’s more. There’s a photo. If this doesn’t take you away from politics and make you at least smile, there’s no hope.

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Rachel Weisz To Play Elizabeth Taylor In Biopic; Europe On Gay Marriage and Civil Unions; Ryan Field Books

Rachel Weisz To Play Elizabeth Taylor In Biopic

I remember reading once that Elizabeth Taylor used to block all biopics about herself because she believed she was her own commodity while she was alive and she didn’t want anyone exploiting her life in any way. She took total control over that, and rightly so.

Now that Taylor is gone I guess they can do whatever they want to do, because actress Rachel Weisz has been selected to play Taylor in a new biopic.

The one interesting twist that might save this film is the focus on AIDS and Taylor’s dedication to raising awareness during a time when most people were avoiding the entire topic of HIV/AIDS. Taylor was fearless in those days, and I hope they capture that in this film.

The Oscar-winner went on help found amFAR in the mid-80s. She is credited with persuading Ronald Reagan to acknowledge the disease for the first time in a speech in 1987 and testified before the US Senate and House for the Ryan White Care Act.

Here’s the rest. I will probably see this just because of the focus on the film. And who knows? Maybe Weisz will be great. She is brave. Playing Elizabeth Taylor isn’t going to be easy. 

Europe On Gay Marriage and Civil Unions

Here’s a recent update on where Europe stands on same sex marriage and civil unions. 

Same-sex marriage is now legal across the vast majority of Western Europe. One prominent exception is Italy, which has historical ties to the Roman Catholic Church. In spite of these ties, Italy began recognizing same-sex unions in 2016. Switzerland also offers same-sex couples the option of civil unions, but not full marriage. 

Here’s more. There are many facts and statistics, especially with regard to the more backward countries of Central and Eastern Europe. It’s actually an update of a post that was pubbed in 2015. 


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10 Best Gay Nude Beaches; Gay Frat Brothers Talk About Greek Life; Ryan Field Books

10 Best Gay Nude Beaches

I’ve always loved nude beaches. The first time I went I wasn’t sure what to expect, but the interesting thing I discovered is there isn’t really much to expect. People go to nude beaches, they remove their clothes, and then it’s just like every other beach. With the exception that there aren’t any noisy kids running around at nude beaches. But the truth is you don’t even realize you’re nude after a while.

When we gave you The World’s 10 Best Gay Beaches it became clear you wanted to skip the tan lines and feel the heat. If you’re looking for clothing optional options that include sun, sand and surf get thee to a nude beach!

Here’s a link to 10 nude beaches. 

Gay Frat Brothers Talk About Greek Life

If you ever do a search for gay fraternity brothers, or something similar, you’ll find a good deal of information out there. It’s obviously a popular gay fantasy, but no one ever explores the real life aspects of being gay an being part of a fraternity. So this article is much more realistic in that sense.

Fraternities can often be hotbeds of bigotry and toxic masculinity, and some gay frat brothers have horror stories to share. But others have fared better with Greek life, like the Reddit user who has had an “amazingly positive experience” in his frat.

Here’s the link to read more.  The stories aren’t what you might expect them to be. I think it’s a good example of the fact that being gay is not just about sex and sexuality.

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Brandon Jackson Thinks Playing Gay Face Hurt His Career; Sexy Gay European Red-Headed Calendar; Ryan Field Books

Brandon Jackson Thinks Playing Gay Face Hurt His Career

About 10 years ago, I was working with a publisher who did something that shocked me a little. There’s no need to mention names now, but it’s an interesting reflection for me. This publisher was new to romance (arrogant and clueless) and didn’t fully understand the romance market or gay fiction in general (obtuse), so she acquired a book that was considered male/male romance written by a straight male author who had never written a m/m romance before, and I don’t think he’d ever read one either. In all his straight male privilege, he was as clueless as the publisher. He simply wanted to cash in on a popular trend, and the publisher saw nothing wrong with him doing this. The publisher was one of those know-it-all types who did whatever she wanted to do and she wound up alienating many people.

In this straight male author’s quest to promote this gay book, he took on a fake name and identity…something Scottish and very ridiculous…and he hocked his straight male version of a m/m romance far and wide. He pretended to be a gay male author, and saw nothing wrong with it. His ultra liberal girlfriend who also wrote for this publisher helped him promote this book. I cringed when I saw what he was doing, and I cringed even more when I saw how the publisher was helping to promote him. Although I couldn’t say anything at the time, things were never the same with me and this publisher again. I lost respect for them, and I completely blocked the straight male author from every aspect of my life. Total dismissal. I was done.

His book eventually tanked, which they always do, and he went back to writing heteronormative fiction, which they always do. This publisher has since shuttered and closed its doors. The only reason I’m mentioning this is because I wanted to show some of the disrespect I’ve seen for gay men in my publishing career. And it continues to happen with stories like the one below.

With all that said, here’s another reason why it irritates me whenever I see a straight actor playing gay. This is not the first time I’ve seen this happen either.

 Brandon T. Jackson, known for acting in Tropic Thunder and the Percy Jackson franchise, is now claiming his career is on a downward spiral as a punishment from God for playing a gay character and wearing a dress on screen.

You can check out the rest here. 

Sexy Gay European Red-Headed Calendar

On a much lighter note, this looks entertaining. It’s a sexy calendar that’s focused only on red heads, created by the excellent photographer, Thomas Knights. 

As a red-head himself, he was all too aware of how people with ginger are often mocked, bullied or stereotyped

You can read more and check out photos at this link. They’re really very good. I love them. 

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Colin Firth and Stanley Tucci Play Gayface; Support For Guy Who Hates His High-Pitched Voice; Ryan Field Books

Colin Firth and Stanley Tucci Play Gay Face

I have no doubt Tucci and Firth will be up for Oscars for playing gay face in this film, and frankly, I’m tired of posting about these things. I do believe this will change in time. From what I’ve been told, black face was acceptable at one time. The Prime Minister of Canada dressed up in black face not too long ago, which of course was wrong even at that time. He has since apologized. But, sadly, it took time for people to realize just how wrong it was to do that. And that’s how it’s going to work with gay face.

Firth and Tucci are the lead actors in Supernova, a British film focusing on a romance between two life-long partners as they travel around England in an RV after Tucci’s character begins experiencing early-onset dementia.

Here’s the link to more about Firth and Tucci playing gay face. 

I just wonder sometimes how openly gay actors like Rupert Everett feel about straight actors playing gay face nowadays. I would think that Rupert Everett would have been perfect for one of these parts. Everett has voiced his opinions about being openly gay in Hollywood.  This is an interesting link, too.

Rupert Everett has opened up on homophobia within the film industry, claiming that gay people are treated like “second class citizens”.

Support For Guy Who Hates His High-Pitched Voice

I think we all have something about ourselves we dislike, and most people don’t like the sound of their own voices. I don’t like the sound of mine. I think it’s too deep. This guy is just the opposite. It’s a Reddit thread where a guy talks about how much he dislikes his own high-pitched voice.

“I honestly just want to become mute or rip my vocal cords apart,” the user added. “I would have better chances dating. I’m becoming increasingly self-conscious about it. And I’m actually scared of meeting guys in real life because of that. I’ve tried voice-lowering techniques, but they don’t seem to work. I hate my voice with a passion. Anyone else relates?”

Here’s a link to the rest.  People were very supportive.

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16 Gay Activists In Uganda Arrested and Given Anal Exams; The Horrors of Being Gay in Chechnya; Ryan Field Books

16 Gay Activists In Uganda Arrested and Given Anal Exams

Here’s yet another horror story from this backward, vicious country that treats gay people like sub-human beings.

Ugandan authorities confirmed yesterday the arrest of 16 LGBTQ people by police in Kampala on Monday.

You can check it out, here. They not only arrested them, they also forced them to take anal exams. 

The Horrors of Being Gay in Chechnya

And here’s more about what’s happening in Chechnya, another backward country where they’ve been rounding gay people up, torturing them, and detaining them for the last few years. This time it finally made it to the mainstream news, and this is a first hand account of what’s been happening.  

“The first day they took me and locked me in the cell in our city police station,” Ricky said. “Then they took me to another place.” After that, the torture began.

At first, they were just beating me. They punched me and then they hit me with electric shock. They did waterboarding, which was the worst,” Ricky told ABC News in a recent interview.

What they are doing is despicable. Here’s the link to read more. 

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The "Masc 4 Masc" Debate Continues; Hong Kong Ban On Same Sex Marriage; Ryan Field Books

The “Masc 4 Masc” Debate Continues

These stories continue to dominate present day gay culture, and I think they’re worth sharing. People do take them seriously.

A new video, which is obviously designed to be triggering, has been making the rounds on social media. It asks a group of six gay men to what extent they agree or disagree with the statement, “I prefer masculine men.” And the internalized homophobia and coded misogyny is so thick it’s almost palpable.

Here’s a link to more. You can watch the video. It’s interesting. 

Hong Kong Ban on Same Sex Marriage

Here’s a piece about what’s happening with same sex marriage in Hong Kong…or rather, not happening. 

Weeks after legislators ruled out the possibility of same-sex marriage on the Chinese mainland, a court in Hong Kong similarly rejected an opportunity to expand the definition of marriage to include same-sex couples.

Here’s the link. They will appeal, and unfortunately it sounds just like every other country in the sense that it’s going to be a fight to the finish. 

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The Word "Queer" Was Used As A Slur Against Pete Buttigieg; Jonathan Groff Dressed As Mary Poppins; Ryan Field Books

The Word “Queer” Was Used As a Slur Against Pete Buttigieg

This is what an elected official in Tennessee recently said about Pete Buttigieg.

“We’ve got a queer running for president, if that ain’t about as ugly as you can get,” Sevier County Commissioner Warren Hurst said to the crowd after telling them to “wake up.”

You can read the rest, here. The county where this guy was elected issued apologies. But that still doesn’t change anything about the word he used. The word “Queer” is still a pejorative for many homophobic people, and it always will be. 

Jonathan Groff Dressed As Mary Poppins

I like this article for several reasons, one of which is that there’s always been speculation that Mary Poppins was a lesbian. The author of Mary Poppins, PL Travers, was most likely a lesbian and even though it’s rarely mentioned people have been discussing this for a while. I posted a few things about it a while back. 

I also like Jonathan Groff and I haven’t seen him in the news in a while. He’s in a new Broadway production of Little Shop of Horrors, and he’s a huge, serious fan of Julie Andrews. 

In fact, he was able to prove his love of the actress stretches back to his earliest years. When he was aged 3, he was so obsessed with the movie Mary Poppins, his mom allowed him to dress as the character for Halloween, complete with lipstick, trademark hat, and bag.

Here’s more, with a seriously adorable video of Groff. 

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More ‘Call Me By Your Name,’ Once Again; Surviving Conversion Therapy and Embracing Queerness; Ryan Field Books

More ‘Call Me By Your Name,’ Once Again

This is one of those movies and books that I absolutely refuse to watch or read, and it never seems to go away. I’m not getting into my own personal opinions. Instead, I’ve linked below to several reviews I’ve found helpful.

However, the straight male author who wrote the first story is now promoting a sequel, because obviously one just wasn’t enough. 

Titled Find Me, the story picks up 10 years after the first story, and finds Elio dating an older man named Michael. Oliver has married a woman and their union is on the rocks as he dotes over his love for Elio. Elio’s father Sami also has a significant role in the book, as he engages in an affair with a younger woman.

For all I know it might be the best story ever told, however, it’s NOT a gay romance. It’s a heteronormative book written by a straight male author, with gay content. There is a difference.

Here the link to more. 

And, here’s one review from the New Yorker. 

The elision of the characters’ mental lives renders “Call Me by Your Name” thin and empty, renders it sluggish; the languid pace of physical action is matched by the languid pace of ideas, and the result is an enervating emptiness.

Here’s one from The Boston Globe

“Call Me by Your Name” isn’t about an older man and a younger man. It falsely romanticizes an exploitative relationship between a grown man and a teenager. These manipulative relationships cause lasting damage, as I know from my own experience.

This review refers to it as the straightest gay movie ever. 

What would happen if all gay teens discovered their sexuality without a conflict with family and social milieu? ‘Call Me by Your Name’ depicts such a scenario – and it’s pretty dull

There are more reviews similar to these with a simple search.

Surviving Conversion Therapy and Embracing Queerness

Now here’s an LGBTQ story that’s relevant and genuine. It’s a personal piece written by someone who has been through all kinds of fresh heteronormative hells…even conversion therapy. And yet they still come out with a strong, bright spirit. Their name is Seth Owen and I highly recommend reading this, in full. 

I’ve heard my family disparage queer folks for as long as I can remember. My mom and grandma would call people like me “funny” — that was their word for it — and would scrunch their faces the same way I do when I eat broccoli. My dad would scream “faggot!” at the TV.

Here’s the link. This is the kind of real, genuine LGBTQ content that inspires me.  

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