Month: September 2019

UK Home Office and Failure To Erase Convictions For Gay Sex; Pete Buttigieg’s Mom Shares His Childhood Pics; Ryan Field Books

UK Home Office and Failure To Erase Convictions For Gay Sex

Here’s a piece where the focus is on what used to happen to gay men in the UK if they had consensual sex. They were treated as if they were criminals, and shamed and humiliated for doing what was completely natural. In short, they did nothing wrong but that didn’t matter. They were arrested and convicted for being gay men.

In 2012, after years of fear and persecution and degradation, a bill called Protection of Freedoms promised to delete these horrendous convictions for consensual gay sex. However, according to this article it still hasn’t been fully executed.

A Freedom of Information request submitted by The Guardian revealed that fewer than 200 of these wrongful convictions have been officially erased since the scheme was introduced seven years ago – a failure rate of 71 percent.

Here’s the link. I highly suggest reading this one.

Pete Buttigieg’s Mom Shares His Adorable Childhood Pics

This story is much lighter, and much more positive. Pete Buttigieg’s mom has decided to share Pete’s childhood photos with the world and people can’t seem to get enough.

Anne…Pete’s supportive Mom…is also asking people to donate money to his campaign. And rightly so. These campaign contributions can either make or break a candidate. It’s very important.

She then goes on to share a couple of photos of Pete as a young boy, recounting how careful he has always been with his dollars.

 The photos are adorable, and the article goes on to give some basic facts and back story about Pete and what he’s doing right now. There’s a video of Anne, too.

Here’s the link.  You’ll want to see this one. I’d like to see him move forward in this race. I’ve seen people comment that they like Pete but they don’t like his husband. But that doesn’t make any sense to me at all. When people voted for Harry Truman they didn’t get Bess Truman as their President. They got Harry. So let’s keep that distinction clear.

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Downton Abbey’s Rob James-Collier Thinks Playing Gay Face Hurt His Career; A Gay Sugar Daddy and Sugar Baby Arrangement; The Downton Abbey Movie’s Gay Story Line; Ryan Field Books

Downton Abbey’s Rob James-Collier Thinks Playing Gay Face Hurt His Career

Here’s another interesting story about a straight actor who played gay face on Downton Abbey recently.

This is what Rob Jame-Collier is saying now about playing gay face…

He said: “Because Thomas Barrow is gay and is, essentially, the bad guy for much of the show, a lot of people within the industry can only see you as that. They might not be in a rush to see you as a heterosexual love interest. That takes time.”

Here’s the rest.   Tell that to all the openly gay actors out there who can’t get any parts, gay or straight. 

Here’s another link from Out Magazine. The quote below pretty much sums up my opinion. 

Excuse us if we don’t exactly emphasize with a straight, cis actor complaining about how playing gay hurt his burgeoning Hollywood career two years after saying the playing a gay character was a “privilege.”

A Gay Sugar Daddy and Sugar Baby Arrangement

I do find these stories fascinating for some reason. I’m not even sure why. This time it’s about a Sugar Daddy who’s allegedly scamming a Sugar Baby. And remember, this is all from Reddit.

One guy’s story of being invited into a sugar daddy/baby arrangement has Redditors horrified — and for good reason.

Here’s a link to more. Wait until you read about what the Sugar Daddy wants this guy to do.

The Downton Abbey Movie’s Gay Story Line

I have to admit that I don’t plan to see the Downton Abbey feature film in theaters. I didn’t like the way the gay character was handled during the series…for many reasons. It does, however, sound as if things have improved slightly. 

Thomas Barrow, Downton Abbey‘s valet-turned-butler, whose dark journey during the series saw him take some wrenching steps to try and “cure” himself of homosexuality, received a much more hopeful treatment in the new feature film of the same name.

Here’s the link. 

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Gay TV Reality Chef Gets Hate Mail; Don’t Tell Mayor Pete How To Be Gay; Ryan Field Books

Gay TV Reality Chef Gets Hate Mail

This one is about a reality chef from The Great British Bakeoff. Even though I don’t bake I actually love this show and I remember this guy well. It’s the kind of show you can binge watch and never give up. I think there are something like 7 or 8 seasons now. The people are so nice.

In any event, this is the kind of hate mail this chef got…

This week, he shared a letter he received from someone claiming to be a “huge fan” but who was “deeply offended” to learn he was gay when he appeared on…

Here’s the rest.

Don’t Tell Mayor Pete How To Be Gay

Here’s an opinion piece in response to comments made by Pete Buttigieg about the gay media…Buttigieg doesn’t usually read the gay media. And he has his reasons. It’s not a totally negative piece but it is a bit self indulgent…in an amusing way. For one thing, the author seems to think gay men in Washington DC are more vicious than gay men in other places, and I’m not sure if he’s been to New York or Boston.

I guess this all left me a little miffed. I honestly had this fantasy image in my head of him reading my columns out loud to that one-eyed dog of his. 

You can read it in full here. It’s really another good example of how diverse gay men are in many respects. It’s also a bit amusing because he’s telling us how to be gay, again.

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Gay Radio Host Allegedly Sends Gay Slur Tweet To Himself; Judy Garland the Ultimate Gay Icon; Ryan Field Books

Gay Radio Host Allegedly Sends Gay Anti-Gay Slur Tweet To Himself

This is one of those stories where the word “allegedly” is important to remember. A gay radio host in New Orleans, Seth Dunlap, received an anti-gay Tweet that referred to him with a well known gay pejorative that begins with the letter “F.” But there’s a twist to this story you’ll find stunning.

Now, according to a police report, the station claims Dunlap tweeted the slur himself by accessing the station’s official Twitter account through his personal cellphone. Not only that, but he allegedly threatened to go “scorched earth” if they didn’t pay him $1.85 million in damages.

Here’s the link for this one. It goes into a lot more detail, and I hope there’s a follow up on this one. I’m curious to see if the allegations are true or not.

Judy Garland the Ultimate Gay Icon

I’ve posted before about how I don’t understand the concept of gay icons. It’s just something that passes me by completely because I never had a ‘gay icon,’ so this story is interesting to me on a personal level. I love certain performers…like Justin Guarini. I love everything about his performances and his voice. But I wouldn’t say he’s my ‘icon.’ 

In any event, this article talks about the upcoming Judy Garland biopic, and it gets into why gay men have always been so infatuated with Garland. 

Journalist, author and self-confessed Garland devotee Robert Leleux wrote in the New York Times 2012 that the LGBTQ+ community’s love of Garland – which he dubbed “Judyism” – was becoming “little more than a cultural memory”. 

Here’s the link. I remember Tony and I going to a party about 10 years ago and it wasn’t the most thrilling party I’d ever been to. However, at midnight the host disappeared for about an hour, and then he returned dressed up as Judy Garland, in drag, and he put on a floor show right there in his house. He was actually very good, too. He looked better as Judy than he looked as himself. 

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The Gay Sex Ban In Singapore Is Challenged; Royal Barry Wills Architecture and Design: "Contemporary Colonial"; Ryan Field Books

The Gay Sex Ban In Singapore Is Challenged

Here’s a story from the global front that I didn’t even know existed. Obviously, there’s a gay sex ban in Singapore. And one guy is trying to challenge it.

A 61-year-old retired general practitioner in Singapore has filed a legal action against the government to end the country’s ban on gay sex.

Here’s the entire story. I hope he’s successful. Unfortunately, there are still other countries with gay sex bans.

Royal Barry Wills Architecture and Design: “Contemporary Colonial”

This is way, way off topic for me, but I wanted to post something about the architect, Royal Barry Wills, to see if I could get any information about him. Tony and I own a rare Royal Barry Wills home and I can’t seem to find any information about his contemporary designs. There are tons of articles about his traditional designs, but very little about his contemporary designs.

Wills was born in Melrose, Massachusetts, and in 1918 graduated from M.I.T as an architectural engineer. From 1919 until 1925, he worked as a design engineer for the Turner Construction Company of Boston, while engaging in his own architectural practice on the side. To advance his business, he regularly published sketch plans and elevations in the Boston Transcript

He’s actually one of the most well known architects of the 20th Century and most famous for his traditional Cape Cod designs. But no one seems to know much about his contemporary designs. I found a few things on the web, but not all that much.

When Tony and I bought the house 17 years ago we were told it was the design of a well known architect, but at the time we didn’t care much about that. We just liked the house and totally forgot about it. Then recently, someone contacted us and they told us it’s actually a Royal Barry Wills design called “Contemporary Colonial,”  and we’d like to know more about it. There’s just not that much info about the contemporaries. So if anyone out there knows anything about these designs please feel free to contact me. You can either comment here, or e-mail me. My e-mail is on the sidebar in the “About” section.

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Ryan O’Connell On Being Gay and Disabled; Pete Buttigieg Clarifies Criticism of Gay Media; Ryan Field Books

Ryan O’Connell On Being Gay and Disabled

I really like this guy. He has a great TV show on Netflix called Special that I binge watched voraciously, and I love the comments me makes in public. This is the kind of gay content we should be getting all the time.

Writer, actor, and disability advocate Ryan O’Connell spoke to students at the University of Washington this week about the unique struggles he’s faced as someone who is both gay and disabled.

Here’s more. It’s definitely worth the click. 

Pete Buttigieg Clarifies Criticism of Gay Media

I posted about Buttigieg and the gay media earlier this week, and here’s a follow up story about it where he explains his comments about the gay media. 

 “Just to be clear: LGBTQ media plays an increasingly important role, especially at a time like this. I had a grumpy moment where I was thinking about some of the coverage that I do get frustrated with that seems to tell people how to be gay. 

Here’s a link to the rest. They certainly do scrutinize everything this man does. Once again, I think it shows how diverse gay men really are. You don’t tell us how to be gay. WE tell you. 

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Top 5 Gay Leather and Fetish Events; Trans Actress Quits Twitter Because of Bernie Sanders Supporters Bullying Her; Ryan Field Books

Top 5 Gay Leather and Fetish Events

I always post about things like this because I get sick of the uptight goodie-goodie people on social media who always seem to pass judgment. This week I saw a piece about a guy who sucked his girlfriend’s toes and so many people commented negatively…or with disgust. The guy has a foot fetish and there’s nothing wrong with that. He loves his girlfriend’s feet so much he sucks her toes. Big deal. You wouldn’t think that would matter to anyone, especially because EVERYONE, if they were honest, would admit they have a special little kink of their own. But they will pass judgment all the time.

In any event, rant over. Here’s the latest news for leather and fetish events.

Starting at the end of September and leading up to Halloween, there are lots of chances to get down and dirty with thousands of fellow kinksters. These are not costume parties—leather, fetish, and any form of erotic self-expression is an act of liberation, as much as it is a celebration, and participants are very serious about having their fun. So let your inhibitions free and take a walk on the wild side!

You can read it all right here. I’ve never been to any of them, but I’ve always wanted to check them out. 

Trans Actress Quits Twitter Because of Bernie Sanders Supporters Bullying Her

This is one reason why I don’t get political on social media. The other reason is I don’t find it productive. I have seen a lot of social media over the years, but I have never once seen anything get accomplished over a Twitter war.

Pose actress Angelica Ross has taken a break from Twitter after she was attacked by supporters of 2020 Democratic presidential contender Senator Bernie Sanders (I-VT).

Here’s a link to this one. 

I hope she doesn’t let the bullies intimidate her for too long. That will only give me more power. 

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Riverdale Ave Books Author Call For Submissions; Gay TV Director Talks About Being Widowed Twice; Ryan Field

Riverdale Ave Books Author Call For Submissions

I’m sharing this because I love everything Riverdale Ave Books publishes, and I wish I had time to submit a story myself. I’m swamped right now and I don’t have time, but if I did this is definitely something I would love because it’s a challenge. It’s out of my genre but it’s something I love reading for personal pleasure.

At one time there were many calls for submissions like this, however, I don’t see them very often anymore. So if I were a newer writer and just starting out I would jump at a chance to get into a book like this. 

So here are the details. It’s pretty simple to follow. Copied directly from my inbox…


Retold Fairy Tales Where The Villain Wins

Sometimes it’s so very good to be bad. And why shouldn’t the villains have their chance at love? If Maleficent can have her happy ending –can’t some of our other favorites?
Riverdale Avenue Books is looking for retold fairytales with a specific twist – the villain is now the hero/ine and has the happily ever after. Wolves win over those who might harm them. Witches seduce and enchant. And good little boys and girls? Well, theirs are the motivations that come into question. Familiar and foreign tales are welcome, just put the villain at the center of your story.
LGBTQ+ and underrepresented characters/voices are welcome and encouraged.
All submissions will receive an acknowledgment email and a response by or before September 7, 2019. Please inquire about reprints. Original, previously unpublished work is preferred. Payment is prorated share of the epub, print and audio royalties split evenly among all contributors, a pdf and print copy of the book. Rights are for seven (7) years, reusable with permission and notification.
(EDITOR’S NOTE – We already have Beauty and the Beast, the Little Mermaid, Hansel and Gretel, Rumplestilskiein, and Cinderella. Please do not submit retold versions of these)
All submissions should:
  • Be submitted as a Word document
  • Be between 4000-8000 words long (query for longer stories)
  • Be proofread and edited
  • Include a HEA or HFN ending
  • Use Times New Roman 12 point and underline italics
  • Use ### or *** centered for scene breaks with a blank line above and below
  • Include title, last name and page numbers in the upper right-hand corner using the ‘header’ feature.
Expected publication: November/December 2019
Submission deadline: October 4, 2019
Put Villains Win Anthology in the subject line
Send submissions via attachment to
Lori Perkins,
Publisher Riverdale Avenue Books

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Gay TV Director Talks About Being Widowed Twice

This is a good article that explains what it’s like for gay men when they lose a spouse or a life partner. I’ve seen it happen with gay couples I know and it’s very hard for the survivor. In fact, in many cases, especially with older gay couples, the surviving partner often passes away within a year’s time. Many just can’t get over the loss and the grief is too hard to overcome.

I’m also a very big fan of Norman Buckley’s Work.

 One gay man’s tribute to his first partner has touched many after appearing online. Norman Buckley, 63, is a successful TV producer and director, best known for directing Pretty Little Liars and Gossip Girl. He’s the younger brother of the performer, Betty Buckley.

You can read it in full, here. 

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Grindr Profiles That Turn Gay Guys Off; Openly Gay Federal Appeals Judge Confirmation; Ryan Field Books

Grindr Profiles That Turn Gay Guys Off

Here’s more from the hook up app front. This time it’s about what really turns gay guys off with Grindr.

Not everyone judges a guy’s profile by the photo — some users actually read the bio and then swipe away because of one of the clichés recently pilloried in the r/askgaybros subreddit.

You can read the rest of it, here. The comments are interesting, too. 

Openly Gay Federal Appeals Judge Confirmation

I haven’t been following this story too much, but it’s interesting. I hear nothing at all about it in the mainstream news. 

In an unexpected role reversal, President Trump is trying — for a second time — to confirm a gay U.S. prosecutor to a federal appeals court despite objections from Sen. Kamala Harris (D-Calif.) over his qualifications for a lifetime judicial appointment.

According to this source, Patrick Bumatay, who’s an attorney in California, could become the highest ranking openly gay federal judge in the US. 

You can read the rest at this link.   It’s the Washington Blade, a source I’ve been reading for years and a source I believe to be accurate all the time.

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Is Gay Captain America Coming?; Guy’s Erection Would Not Go Down; Ryan Field Books

Is Gay Captain America Coming?

I think this is a sign the world is changing. I wouldn’t have been posting this 10 years ago. I wouldn’t even have considered it 20 years ago. 

Still swimming in cash after the boffo box office performance of Avengers: Endgame,Marvel has signaled it will add three diverse new Captain Americas to its cinematic universe: one female, one black and one gay.

Here’s more. 

Guy’s Erection Would Not Go Down

This one is scary. A guy was just visiting friends and all of a sudden he got this massive erection. He wasn’t aroused and there was no viable reason for this erection. It was bigger and firmer than his usual erections, but extremely painful.

“We were all just sat around and it just came on. I tried to get rid of it but couldn’t,” he told SWNS of the “embarrassing” moment.

Here’s what went down. It’s really very serious. 

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