Month: February 2019

The Right Way To Measure A Penis; America's Fear of the Penis; Driver Fined $100 For Leaving Penis Shape; Kendle's Fire by Ryan Field

The Right Way To Measure A Penis

Apparently, there’s a dispute about how to measure a penis the right way. It’s not just as simple as taking one in your hand and measuring it with a 12 inch wooden ruler.

Researchers have been picking at these issues for decades, developing varied measurement tactics. But as fourteen respected urologists reported in an academic review of some of these approaches last year, “little data exists on the best technique to measure penile length.”

Here’s a link. They also claim doctors have been trying to gather penis size data since the 1940s, and they discovered quickly that it’s a lot more complicated than they thought it would be. It’s actually a very well written piece, and totally SFW. 

America’s Fear of the Penis

Well I’ve been posting about the lack of male full frontal nudity in films for ages, so this is no surprise to me. 

It’s an interview with French director, Gaspar Noé, who is known for his ability to cross certain lines. And it covers more than one topic. 

“The fear of the penis in the United States still shocks me,” he lets out during a phone exchange. “In many ways, the Western world is turning Victorian.”

You can check this out, here. As far as interviews go, this is excellent. If you’re seriously into film study…real film…you’ll enjoy this. 

Driver Fined $100 For Leaving Penis Shape

Tony and I have had to deal with Home Owners Associations over the years in a variety of ways, and this is a first for me. There’s actually an HOA in Tennessee that is trying to fine a woman $100 because her car left a penis shape in the snow. 

The woman, from Tennessee, had received a letter from her local association saying she had been fined $100 over a problem ‘involving my car and snow’.

Here’s the link to this one.  There’s a photo of the penis shape. 



Amazon Reader Review:

“This is GREAT story!! It’s wonderful in its exploration of sexuality and masculinity. The story is well done and beautifully done. The story flows beautifully and the characters are wonderfully written.”

Kendle's Fire by [Field, Ryan] 



Even though Kendle is an openly gay ex-Marine, he’s been questioning his masculinity all of his life. He’s always been what people expect a man to be, in spite of the fact that he’s never been completely comfortable living up to these expectations.

He also has a few secrets. The kind of secrets a man can only talk about with the most intimate people in his life. One of those people is his best friend and part time lover, Dale. And their relationship is not without a few unusual quirks and ironies either, especially when it comes to the way Kendle explains his relationship with Dale to his own parents. 

After a string of bad career decisions and awkward mistakes, it’s not until Kendle meets a young guy named Walter that his life begins to come together. It’s a journey filled with as much joy as heartbreak, with a few bittersweet twists in between. As Kendle opens himself up to new possibilities, he finds himself in the midst of life altering changes that leave him devastated. And there’s a point where he’s not sure he can get through any of it.





The Right Way To Measure A Penis; America’s Fear of the Penis; Driver Fined $100 For Leaving Penis Shape; Kendle’s Fire by Ryan Field

The Right Way To Measure A Penis

Apparently, there’s a dispute about how to measure a penis the right way. It’s not just as simple as taking one in your hand and measuring it with a 12 inch wooden ruler.

Researchers have been picking at these issues for decades, developing varied measurement tactics. But as fourteen respected urologists reported in an academic review of some of these approaches last year, “little data exists on the best technique to measure penile length.”

Here’s a link. They also claim doctors have been trying to gather penis size data since the 1940s, and they discovered quickly that it’s a lot more complicated than they thought it would be. It’s actually a very well written piece, and totally SFW. 

America’s Fear of the Penis

Well I’ve been posting about the lack of male full frontal nudity in films for ages, so this is no surprise to me. 

It’s an interview with French director, Gaspar Noé, who is known for his ability to cross certain lines. And it covers more than one topic. 

“The fear of the penis in the United States still shocks me,” he lets out during a phone exchange. “In many ways, the Western world is turning Victorian.”

You can check this out, here. As far as interviews go, this is excellent. If you’re seriously into film study…real film…you’ll enjoy this. 

Driver Fined $100 For Leaving Penis Shape

Tony and I have had to deal with Home Owners Associations over the years in a variety of ways, and this is a first for me. There’s actually an HOA in Tennessee that is trying to fine a woman $100 because her car left a penis shape in the snow. 

The woman, from Tennessee, had received a letter from her local association saying she had been fined $100 over a problem ‘involving my car and snow’.

Here’s the link to this one.  There’s a photo of the penis shape. 



Amazon Reader Review:

“This is GREAT story!! It’s wonderful in its exploration of sexuality and masculinity. The story is well done and beautifully done. The story flows beautifully and the characters are wonderfully written.”

Kendle's Fire by [Field, Ryan] 



Even though Kendle is an openly gay ex-Marine, he’s been questioning his masculinity all of his life. He’s always been what people expect a man to be, in spite of the fact that he’s never been completely comfortable living up to these expectations.

He also has a few secrets. The kind of secrets a man can only talk about with the most intimate people in his life. One of those people is his best friend and part time lover, Dale. And their relationship is not without a few unusual quirks and ironies either, especially when it comes to the way Kendle explains his relationship with Dale to his own parents. 

After a string of bad career decisions and awkward mistakes, it’s not until Kendle meets a young guy named Walter that his life begins to come together. It’s a journey filled with as much joy as heartbreak, with a few bittersweet twists in between. As Kendle opens himself up to new possibilities, he finds himself in the midst of life altering changes that leave him devastated. And there’s a point where he’s not sure he can get through any of it.





The Anti-Gay Wedding Cake Saga Continues With a New Bakery; Tunisian Government Wants To Shut Down LGBT Rights Group; Bigoted Christian Goes Undercover As Gay Man

The Anti-Gay Wedding Cake Saga Continues With a New Bakery 

Here’s a story about yet another anti-gay baker who is refusing to bake a wedding cake for a gay couple, based on her self-righteous religious beliefs. And this time the anti-gay baker put her feelings in writing.

“I really enjoyed our time together and I truly wish you the best but after realizing that your union will be of the same sex, I cannot with my spiritual conviction and beliefs, do your cake! I want you to know in saying that, I do love you in The Lord! Had I known before you left, I would have said something then!”

Apparently, this isn’t the first time the business has refused to bake wedding cakes for gay couples. 

Here’s the rest.  I’ll never understand the need to discriminate against anyone. If I’m in business, I’m going to serve everyone…the public. Because that’s what you do when you’re in business. You put your personal opinions aside, you act like a grown up professional, and you do your job. No one is stopping this woman from worshiping or practicing any religion.

Tunisian Government Wants To Shut Down LGBT Rights Group

On the global front, here’s what’s happening in Tunisia.

The Tunisian government is trying to shut down an LGBT rights group called Shams. The Human Rights Watch wants them to stop trying to shut down Shams.

“If organizations that defend human rights and sexual minorities are shut down, Tunisia’s image as an island of freedom and democracy in the region will take a big hit,” said Amna Guellali, Tunisia director at Human Rights Watch.”

Here’s a link for this one.  The article also mentions that Tunisia has been one of the few places where LGBT organizations have been able to operate openly. 


Bigoted Christian Goes Undercover As Gay Man

There’s a film out that’s poorly titled with the overused cliche, At the End of the Day, where an anti-gay professor goes undercover as a gay man.

The dean pressures Hopper to go undercover as a gay man and infiltrate the group to stop it from raising the funds it needs to build a shelter.

But there’s a twist. I haven’t seen the movie so I can’t comment. 

You can read more about it, here. There’s a clip as well. 



Amazon Reader Review:

“This is GREAT story!! It’s wonderful in its exploration of sexuality and masculinity. The story is well done and beautifully done. The story flows beautifully and the characters are wonderfully written.”

Kendle's Fire by [Field, Ryan] 


Even though Kendle is an openly gay ex-Marine, he’s been questioning his masculinity all of his life. He’s always been what people expect a man to be, in spite of the fact that he’s never been completely comfortable living up to these expectations.

He also has a few secrets. The kind of secrets a man can only talk about with the most intimate people in his life. One of those people is his best friend and part time lover, Dale. And their relationship is not without a few unusual quirks and ironies either, especially when it comes to the way Kendle explains his relationship with Dale to his own parents. 

After a string of bad career decisions and awkward mistakes, it’s not until Kendle meets a young guy named Walter that his life begins to come together. It’s a journey filled with as much joy as heartbreak, with a few bittersweet twists in between. As Kendle opens himself up to new possibilities, he finds himself in the midst of life altering changes that leave him devastated. And there’s a point where he’s not sure he can get through any of it.



UK TV Star Ryan Sampson Comes Out; People Are Divided Over the Details of Married LA News Anchor's Death; LGBT Discrimination Is Expensive; Kendle's Fire by Ryan Field

People Are Divided Over the Details of Married LA News Anchor’s Death

If you come from the mind set where you don’t believe there is any shame in being gay, the details of the death of LA news anchor, Chris Burrous, shouldn’t bother you. At least not the gay part. However, there’s a lot more to this story, and some people are outraged over it, and that’s partly because Burrous had a wife and a young daughter.

The man, who said he initially met Burrous on Grindr and had seen him four times previously for sex, tried to perform CPR on Burrous before paramedics arrived. 

Here’s the link. There are more details, and there are quite a few comments at the end.

I just think it’s a very sad story altogether, without judgment. A young girl lost her dad. May he RIP.


UK TV Star Ryan Sampson Comes Out

Here’s something you don’t see often. A UK TV star, Ryan Sampson, came out because people were trying to get him to engage in homophobic ‘banter.’ In fact, there’s nothing better than telling the truth, and knowing you can tell the truth. This is why it’s always so much better to keep it real, especially nowadays.

“So. I was on Instagram and I looked at my direct messages and it turned out someone was trying to rope me in to some (pretty creaky) homophobic banter. Huh! So, for clarity, here’s a pic of me and the boyf. Just to, y’know… straighten that one out. As it were.”

You can check this out, here. There are some great pics, too.

LGBT Discrimination Is Expensive

Apparently, the homophobia and discrimination against LGBT people in Kenya is hurting the economy.

Open for Business is an organization which gathers companies from across the globe advocating the idea that inclusion and diversity benefit the economy.

Here’s a link for this one. There are 3 major factors.


Amazon Reader Review:

“This is GREAT story!! It’s wonderful in its exploration of sexuality and masculinity. The story is well done and beautifully done. The story flows beautifully and the characters are wonderfully written.”

Kendle's Fire by [Field, Ryan] 


Even though Kendle is an openly gay ex-Marine, he’s been questioning his masculinity all of his life. He’s always been what people expect a man to be, in spite of the fact that he’s never been completely comfortable living up to these expectations.

He also has a few secrets. The kind of secrets a man can only talk about with the most intimate people in his life. One of those people is his best friend and part time lover, Dale. And their relationship is not without a few unusual quirks and ironies either, especially when it comes to the way Kendle explains his relationship with Dale to his own parents. 

After a string of bad career decisions and awkward mistakes, it’s not until Kendle meets a young guy named Walter that his life begins to come together. It’s a journey filled with as much joy as heartbreak, with a few bittersweet twists in between. As Kendle opens himself up to new possibilities, he finds himself in the midst of life altering changes that leave him devastated. And there’s a point where he’s not sure he can get through any of it.

UK TV Star Ryan Sampson Comes Out; People Are Divided Over the Details of Married LA News Anchor’s Death; LGBT Discrimination Is Expensive; Kendle’s Fire by Ryan Field

People Are Divided Over the Details of Married LA News Anchor’s Death

If you come from the mind set where you don’t believe there is any shame in being gay, the details of the death of LA news anchor, Chris Burrous, shouldn’t bother you. At least not the gay part. However, there’s a lot more to this story, and some people are outraged over it, and that’s partly because Burrous had a wife and a young daughter.

The man, who said he initially met Burrous on Grindr and had seen him four times previously for sex, tried to perform CPR on Burrous before paramedics arrived. 

Here’s the link. There are more details, and there are quite a few comments at the end.

I just think it’s a very sad story altogether, without judgment. A young girl lost her dad. May he RIP.


UK TV Star Ryan Sampson Comes Out

Here’s something you don’t see often. A UK TV star, Ryan Sampson, came out because people were trying to get him to engage in homophobic ‘banter.’ In fact, there’s nothing better than telling the truth, and knowing you can tell the truth. This is why it’s always so much better to keep it real, especially nowadays.

“So. I was on Instagram and I looked at my direct messages and it turned out someone was trying to rope me in to some (pretty creaky) homophobic banter. Huh! So, for clarity, here’s a pic of me and the boyf. Just to, y’know… straighten that one out. As it were.”

You can check this out, here. There are some great pics, too.

LGBT Discrimination Is Expensive

Apparently, the homophobia and discrimination against LGBT people in Kenya is hurting the economy.

Open for Business is an organization which gathers companies from across the globe advocating the idea that inclusion and diversity benefit the economy.

Here’s a link for this one. There are 3 major factors.


Amazon Reader Review:

“This is GREAT story!! It’s wonderful in its exploration of sexuality and masculinity. The story is well done and beautifully done. The story flows beautifully and the characters are wonderfully written.”

Kendle's Fire by [Field, Ryan] 


Even though Kendle is an openly gay ex-Marine, he’s been questioning his masculinity all of his life. He’s always been what people expect a man to be, in spite of the fact that he’s never been completely comfortable living up to these expectations.

He also has a few secrets. The kind of secrets a man can only talk about with the most intimate people in his life. One of those people is his best friend and part time lover, Dale. And their relationship is not without a few unusual quirks and ironies either, especially when it comes to the way Kendle explains his relationship with Dale to his own parents. 

After a string of bad career decisions and awkward mistakes, it’s not until Kendle meets a young guy named Walter that his life begins to come together. It’s a journey filled with as much joy as heartbreak, with a few bittersweet twists in between. As Kendle opens himself up to new possibilities, he finds himself in the midst of life altering changes that leave him devastated. And there’s a point where he’s not sure he can get through any of it.

Rami Malek Wins Best Actor For Playing Gay Face; New "Gay Cure" Documentary; Photographer's Hot Underwear Photos of Guys; Best LGBT Prom Photos of 2018; Uncertainty by Ryan Field

Rami Malek Wins Best Actor For Playing Gay Face

Once again the Oscars, and Hollywood, didn’t surprise anyone. Straight actor, Rami Malek, has won best actor for playing gay face in Bohemian.

Malek saw off competition from A Star is Born‘s Bradley Cooper, Willem Dafoe (At Eternity’s Gate), Viggo Mortensen (Green Book) and Vice star Christian Bale.

Here’s the link to this one. 

And here’s a little back story about Rami playing gay face. 

The new biopic of Queen’s audacious Freddie Mercury skirts around his sexuality—while straight actors think it’s their right to take on LGBTQ roles.

Here’s the link for this.  

And here is a link to a fascinating piece about gay face, in general.

It is what it is. 


New “Gay Cure” Documentary

This is rich. It’s about this guy who is the subject of a new “gay cure” documentary, who claims to be an “ex-gay,” but that he’s also still sexually attracted to men.

Once Gay premiered at the Emmanuel Evangelical Church in London February 11. The film follows the story of musician Matthew Grech, a singer noted for once appearing on a European version of The X Factor.

Here’s a link. It’s gets even better. He’s still hoping that God will make women turn him on.

Photographer’s Hot Underwear Photos of Guys

This is one of those rare art stories combining photography and gay culture you don’t see as much anymore. The twist to this story is the way the artist has applied his work to social media by gaining a huge following on Instagram. I like seeing artists do that. He also has a book and exhibition deal.

‘My underwater exploration has gone on for a couple years now. It started back in 2017 on Instagram.’

Here’s more. There are a few examples of his work. They are totally SFW, too.

Best LGBT Prom Photos of 2018

I like to post links to stories like this because most of the LGBT people out there never went to their prom. If they did, (like me) they pretended to be straight and their prom experience was heteronormative. Even today, with so many things changing, I’m certain there are still LGBT people who won’t get a chance to go to their proms, at least not openly. So it’s nice to see things like this happening now.

It all starts with the elaborate proposals, which can sometimes have consequences for LGBTQ students, and leads up to the big night.

You can read more about this one, here. 



Amazon Reader Reviews: “Duty or Love? That is the hard choice that Gus’s surviving dad, Henry, is trying to decide. This story revolves around a beautiful family that’s hit some hard times. You hope beyond hope alongside with Gus that Henry will choose love, no matter what.” 


Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]


When Gus Baldwin realizes that his gay dad is serious about marrying a much older man for safety and security instead of love, he concocts a plot that he hopes will change his dad’s mind. Even though his other dad has been dead for over a year, Gus wants his surviving dad to find love and happiness someday with a new husband. 

However, their financial situation is about as bad as it gets and they’re on the brink of losing their grand old Victorian home, and everything about their perfect lives is threatened. So Gus winds up putting his own marriage on hold with the guy he’s been in love with since high school. It’s so bad he’s even thinking of quitting college to help support his dad and his younger brother just so his dad won’t have to marry the older man. 

After Gus convinces his dad to take a road trip in their vintage 1950s station wagon to their getaway cabin in the mountains, along with his younger brother, his future husband, and their nineteen year old dog named Special, their lives change in ways none of them ever anticipated. And even though the future is still uncertain in some respects, they discover a few things about themselves on this trip they never could have predicted.

Rami Malek Wins Best Actor For Playing Gay Face; New "Gay Cure" Documentary; Photographer’s Hot Underwear Photos of Guys; Best LGBT Prom Photos of 2018; Uncertainty by Ryan Field

Rami Malek Wins Best Actor For Playing Gay Face

Once again the Oscars, and Hollywood, didn’t surprise anyone. Straight actor, Rami Malek, has won best actor for playing gay face in Bohemian.

Malek saw off competition from A Star is Born‘s Bradley Cooper, Willem Dafoe (At Eternity’s Gate), Viggo Mortensen (Green Book) and Vice star Christian Bale.

Here’s the link to this one. 

And here’s a little back story about Rami playing gay face. 

The new biopic of Queen’s audacious Freddie Mercury skirts around his sexuality—while straight actors think it’s their right to take on LGBTQ roles.

Here’s the link for this.  

And here is a link to a fascinating piece about gay face, in general.

It is what it is. 


New “Gay Cure” Documentary

This is rich. It’s about this guy who is the subject of a new “gay cure” documentary, who claims to be an “ex-gay,” but that he’s also still sexually attracted to men.

Once Gay premiered at the Emmanuel Evangelical Church in London February 11. The film follows the story of musician Matthew Grech, a singer noted for once appearing on a European version of The X Factor.

Here’s a link. It’s gets even better. He’s still hoping that God will make women turn him on.

Photographer’s Hot Underwear Photos of Guys

This is one of those rare art stories combining photography and gay culture you don’t see as much anymore. The twist to this story is the way the artist has applied his work to social media by gaining a huge following on Instagram. I like seeing artists do that. He also has a book and exhibition deal.

‘My underwater exploration has gone on for a couple years now. It started back in 2017 on Instagram.’

Here’s more. There are a few examples of his work. They are totally SFW, too.

Best LGBT Prom Photos of 2018

I like to post links to stories like this because most of the LGBT people out there never went to their prom. If they did, (like me) they pretended to be straight and their prom experience was heteronormative. Even today, with so many things changing, I’m certain there are still LGBT people who won’t get a chance to go to their proms, at least not openly. So it’s nice to see things like this happening now.

It all starts with the elaborate proposals, which can sometimes have consequences for LGBTQ students, and leads up to the big night.

You can read more about this one, here. 



Amazon Reader Reviews: “Duty or Love? That is the hard choice that Gus’s surviving dad, Henry, is trying to decide. This story revolves around a beautiful family that’s hit some hard times. You hope beyond hope alongside with Gus that Henry will choose love, no matter what.” 


Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]


When Gus Baldwin realizes that his gay dad is serious about marrying a much older man for safety and security instead of love, he concocts a plot that he hopes will change his dad’s mind. Even though his other dad has been dead for over a year, Gus wants his surviving dad to find love and happiness someday with a new husband. 

However, their financial situation is about as bad as it gets and they’re on the brink of losing their grand old Victorian home, and everything about their perfect lives is threatened. So Gus winds up putting his own marriage on hold with the guy he’s been in love with since high school. It’s so bad he’s even thinking of quitting college to help support his dad and his younger brother just so his dad won’t have to marry the older man. 

After Gus convinces his dad to take a road trip in their vintage 1950s station wagon to their getaway cabin in the mountains, along with his younger brother, his future husband, and their nineteen year old dog named Special, their lives change in ways none of them ever anticipated. And even though the future is still uncertain in some respects, they discover a few things about themselves on this trip they never could have predicted.

Another Twist In the Jussie Smollett Case; Kenya Delays Ruling On Banning Gay Sex; The Vatican's Gay Elite Exposed; Uncertainty by Ryan Field

Another Twist In the Jussie Smollett Case

I have no idea about this one, but I’m linking to it because I actually do find TMZ to be accurate. They’re big on clickbait, however, I don’t think I’ve ever seen anything that’s fake news there.

Jussie Smollett might have gotten the idea to stage his own attack after Lee Daniels talked about his cousin getting assaulted because he’s gay … at least that’s what some members of the “Empire” cast think.

Here’s the link. I’ve been impartial with this story since the beginning, and I still believe everyone is innocent until proven guilty.

Kenya Delays Ruling On Banning Gay Sex

Here’s a follow up on the Kenya story. Earlier this week I posted there would be a ruling in Kenya that would hopefully decriminalize gay sex, however, there’s a new twist.

The ruling, potentially a landmark decision for gay rights in Africa, was due to be issued on Friday, but the court said it needed until May 24 to reach a decision.

You can read more, here. Apparently, they need more time because of all the ‘paperwork’ involved. But if you’re straight just think about this the next time you try to ‘splain’ something to a gay person. They are now making gay people wait even longer in Kenya to decriminalize something that never should have been a crime in the first place. That’s wrong. 

The Vatican’s Gay Elite Exposed

If you’ve been following the news this week you had to have seen this story. It’s about a new book that is focused on the Catholic Church. 

I spent much of this week reading and trying to absorb the new and devastating book by one Frédéric Martel on the gayness of the hierarchy at the top of the Catholic Church, In the Closet of the Vatican: Power, Homosexuality, Hypocrisy. 


Here’s a link. I’ve posted about my own experiences with this kind of hypocrisy. At one time, I was very good friends with a high ranking bishop who had direct contact with the Pope, and I had no idea at the time he was even affiliated with the church. He completely duped me and many other friends. We thought he was just another gay guy living an ordinary life in New Hope. It wasn’t until years later that I discovered, by complete accident, that he’d been living a double life all that time.  





Amazon Reader Reviews: “Duty or Love? That is the hard choice that Gus’s surviving dad, Henry, is trying to decide. This story revolves around a beautiful family that’s hit some hard times. You hope beyond hope alongside with Gus that Henry will choose love, no matter what.” 


Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]


When Gus Baldwin realizes that his gay dad is serious about marrying a much older man for safety and security instead of love, he concocts a plot that he hopes will change his dad’s mind. Even though his other dad has been dead for over a year, Gus wants his surviving dad to find love and happiness someday with a new husband. 

However, their financial situation is about as bad as it gets and they’re on the brink of losing their grand old Victorian home, and everything about their perfect lives is threatened. So Gus winds up putting his own marriage on hold with the guy he’s been in love with since high school. It’s so bad he’s even thinking of quitting college to help support his dad and his younger brother just so his dad won’t have to marry the older man. 

After Gus convinces his dad to take a road trip in their vintage 1950s station wagon to their getaway cabin in the mountains, along with his younger brother, his future husband, and their nineteen year old dog named Special, their lives change in ways none of them ever anticipated. And even though the future is still uncertain in some respects, they discover a few things about themselves on this trip they never could have predicted.

Another Twist In the Jussie Smollett Case; Kenya Delays Ruling On Banning Gay Sex; The Vatican’s Gay Elite Exposed; Uncertainty by Ryan Field

Another Twist In the Jussie Smollett Case

I have no idea about this one, but I’m linking to it because I actually do find TMZ to be accurate. They’re big on clickbait, however, I don’t think I’ve ever seen anything that’s fake news there.

Jussie Smollett might have gotten the idea to stage his own attack after Lee Daniels talked about his cousin getting assaulted because he’s gay … at least that’s what some members of the “Empire” cast think.

Here’s the link. I’ve been impartial with this story since the beginning, and I still believe everyone is innocent until proven guilty.

Kenya Delays Ruling On Banning Gay Sex

Here’s a follow up on the Kenya story. Earlier this week I posted there would be a ruling in Kenya that would hopefully decriminalize gay sex, however, there’s a new twist.

The ruling, potentially a landmark decision for gay rights in Africa, was due to be issued on Friday, but the court said it needed until May 24 to reach a decision.

You can read more, here. Apparently, they need more time because of all the ‘paperwork’ involved. But if you’re straight just think about this the next time you try to ‘splain’ something to a gay person. They are now making gay people wait even longer in Kenya to decriminalize something that never should have been a crime in the first place. That’s wrong. 

The Vatican’s Gay Elite Exposed

If you’ve been following the news this week you had to have seen this story. It’s about a new book that is focused on the Catholic Church. 

I spent much of this week reading and trying to absorb the new and devastating book by one Frédéric Martel on the gayness of the hierarchy at the top of the Catholic Church, In the Closet of the Vatican: Power, Homosexuality, Hypocrisy. 


Here’s a link. I’ve posted about my own experiences with this kind of hypocrisy. At one time, I was very good friends with a high ranking bishop who had direct contact with the Pope, and I had no idea at the time he was even affiliated with the church. He completely duped me and many other friends. We thought he was just another gay guy living an ordinary life in New Hope. It wasn’t until years later that I discovered, by complete accident, that he’d been living a double life all that time.  





Amazon Reader Reviews: “Duty or Love? That is the hard choice that Gus’s surviving dad, Henry, is trying to decide. This story revolves around a beautiful family that’s hit some hard times. You hope beyond hope alongside with Gus that Henry will choose love, no matter what.” 


Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]


When Gus Baldwin realizes that his gay dad is serious about marrying a much older man for safety and security instead of love, he concocts a plot that he hopes will change his dad’s mind. Even though his other dad has been dead for over a year, Gus wants his surviving dad to find love and happiness someday with a new husband. 

However, their financial situation is about as bad as it gets and they’re on the brink of losing their grand old Victorian home, and everything about their perfect lives is threatened. So Gus winds up putting his own marriage on hold with the guy he’s been in love with since high school. It’s so bad he’s even thinking of quitting college to help support his dad and his younger brother just so his dad won’t have to marry the older man. 

After Gus convinces his dad to take a road trip in their vintage 1950s station wagon to their getaway cabin in the mountains, along with his younger brother, his future husband, and their nineteen year old dog named Special, their lives change in ways none of them ever anticipated. And even though the future is still uncertain in some respects, they discover a few things about themselves on this trip they never could have predicted.

The Truth About Gay Men On Reality TV Shows; Bisexual Teacher Gets Fired; Ryan Murphy New TV Series; Kendle's Fire by Ryan Field

The Truth About Gay Men On Reality TV Shows

There are certain reality TV shows out there that have always portrayed the most stereotypical gay men on the planet, which is becoming increasingly homophobic.  And if the reality shows aren’t portraying gay men as stereotypes, they are insulting all gay men with passive aggressive homophobia that straight people can’t even detect.

However, this sounds different. A reality show personality in the UK named Sean Lineker is talking about his experience on reality TV with regard to his gay relationship, on TV. What he says is actually true for most gay men, including me.

“I did find it difficult and awkward having a relationship with a man on TV,” Lineker tells Cocktails and Cocktalk. “I’ve been openly gay for a while, but doing it in the public eye is still difficult, as it’s not something all my friends and especially family have seen.”

You can read the rest, here. Everything he says is absolutely spot on. And there are photos. 


Bisexual Teacher Gets Fired

Here’s a story about a teacher named Nicholas Breiner who has been trying to help make a difference. According to this publication, after a student attempted suicide because of the way her parents reacted when she told them she was a lesbian, Breiner decided to come out as bisexual hoping that he might help other kids who are struggling with their identities. 

As terrifying as it was to admit, I had to value someone else’s well-being over my own privacy. After a lot of support from people I decided that 30 years was long enough to wait. Hey world, I am what I am.”

Unfortunately, he was fired not long after he came out. 

Here’s the link.  There’s a lot more. 


Ryan Murphy New TV Series

If my Facebook news feed is any indication of how much people love old time things and nostalgia, this show from Ryan Murphy should do very well. This is also part of that Netflix deal I’ve posted about before. 

Murphy announced the news on his Instagram account, describing the show as a ‘love letter to the Golden Age of Tinseltown’. 

Here’s a link. 





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Kendle's Fire by [Field, Ryan] 


Even though Kendle is an openly gay ex-Marine, he’s been questioning his masculinity all of his life. He’s always been what people expect a man to be, in spite of the fact that he’s never been completely comfortable living up to these expectations.

He also has a few secrets. The kind of secrets a man can only talk about with the most intimate people in his life. One of those people is his best friend and part time lover, Dale. And their relationship is not without a few unusual quirks and ironies either, especially when it comes to the way Kendle explains his relationship with Dale to his own parents. 

After a string of bad career decisions and awkward mistakes, it’s not until Kendle meets a young guy named Walter that his life begins to come together. It’s a journey filled with as much joy as heartbreak, with a few bittersweet twists in between. As Kendle opens himself up to new possibilities, he finds himself in the midst of life altering changes that leave him devastated. And there’s a point where he’s not sure he can get through any of it.