Day: July 28, 2018

More On Chelsea Handler Playing Gay Face; Gay Friendly Urban Beaches; Pride Is More Than Partying;

More On Chelsea Handler Playing Gay Face

Here’s an op-ed piece that questions why it’s okay for Chelsea Handler to play gay, but it’s not okay for Scarlett Johansson to play trans. He brings up some very valid points.

This seems like some sort of weird double standard to me. I think that Johansson was rightfully berated to take that role. But then why a week later, are we excited that Handler is going to be gay for pay? Roles for queer people are still few and far between, even on a show like Will & Grace. And while a straight actor, Eric McCormack, was cast as gay lawyer Will Truman way back in 1998, this is 2018. Shouldn’t that role given to Handler be played by a woman who identifies as a lesbian, or at least queer?

Here’s the rest. I agree with him. I’m always amazed by the people who say this is just about acting. This is NOT just about acting. If this were about acting than an actress like Meryl Streep would be able to play black characters. This is about respecting ALL marginalized groups, and not appropriating them. As more people begin to understand this, I think we’ll be seeing less of it in the future. 


Gay Friendly Urban Beaches

To be honest, I’ve been up and down the east coast and I’ve never been to a beach that wasn’t gay friendly. I think they’re talking about beaches that are mostly gay here.

From New York to Berlin, GayCities rounded up some urban beaches where it’s perfectly acceptable to sprawl on a blanket with a picnic and bottle of wine. In each of these places, there’s usually a place where the gays congregate–and more! We even found some locations where it’s ok to strip down completely–for a full sun (or moon) experience.

Here’s the rest.  They list 7 beaches you might want to check out. 


Pride Is More Than Partying

Here’s a nice piece about Pride and some of the important things that can get accomplished. 

By attending my Pride 2018 events over the past few months, you helped raise over $77k for TRUTH (TRans yoUTH), a youth-led partnership between the Transgender Law Center and the GSA Network amplifying the voices of trans and gender non-conforming young people, and creating safe spaces for them to share their struggles, learn empathy, and build public understanding.

You can read this one, here. There are some excellent photos, too. 


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Chelsea Handler Plays Gay Face for Will and Grace; Retirement Community Rejects Married Lesbian Couple; Baltimore Leather Bar Shutters For Good;

Chelsea Handler Plays Gay Face for Will and Grace

Well, here’s one more reason not to watch the Will and Grace reboot. I guess they couldn’t find a lesbian actress to play the part, so they took on a straight woman who’s been under fire for homophobic tweets.

Chelsea Handler is joining the next series of Will & Grace.
The US actress will play in a ‘high-powered lesbian’ in the new episodes, according to sources close to the show.

Here’s the rest. And here’s a link to something where Chelsea Handler was under fire for homophobic tweets.

Now let me get this right. Roseanne Barr Tweets something racist and she loses everything, and rightly so. But Chelsea Handler Tweets homophobic and she gets to play a lesbian on Will and Grace. Got it.

Retirement Community Rejects Married Lesbian Couple

Tony and I have always had a lot of older friends, and we’ve seen them deal with this sort of thing. It’s almost like being forced back into the closet when you’re in your 80s. We’ve seen our friends live happy lives in the LGBT community here in New Hope, only to wind up in heteronormative retirement communities where they have to watch everything they say or do. And that’s a fact. A friend of ours recently moved to one of these places. In other words, you have to stop being gay to survive in a heteronormative “family” environment like this otherwise you’ll deal with consequences. That’s a sad way to end up for any gay person, especially if you’ve lived your entire life openly gay.

In any event, this happened to a couple of married gay women.

Mary Walsh, 72, and Bev Nance, 68, were just looking for a new home where they could be surrounded by friends and could get some extra care if needed. But when they tried to become residents at the St. Louis-area Friendship Village senior living community, they were turned away because they’re married.

Here’s the rest. And don’t think this can only happen in places like St. Louis. It can happen anywhere. This is why we’re all going to have to start thinking about more LGBT friendly retirement communities. 

Baltimore Leather Bar Shutters For Good

Here’s another causality in the gay bar wars. But this time it’s a little different. This is about conflict of interest and not about competition with the Internet. 

“It is our sincere belief that the [owners are] actively manipulating the entire situation in hopes that they can void the lease and licensing agreements, thereby taking possession of all the assets of 4 Crazy Guys, LLC, not the least of which is nearly $600,000 worth of improvements to their building paid for by [us.]”

You can read the entire statement, here. They mention there are still other venues in Baltimore.


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