Month: November 2017

Gays Falling For "Call Me By Your Name"; "Queer Places" by Elisa Rolle; Justin Trudeau's Tearful Apology To Gay People

Gays Falling For “Call Me By Your Name” 

I get DMs on social media all the time from other gay men who want to share something in private because they’re afraid of getting backlash if they share it in public. I do the same thing, too. It’s just easier and more comfortable. We talk about our culture and our lives all the time behind the scenes, which can be cathartic nowadays.

With that said, someone sent me this link the other day and I thought it was pretty much spot on. I’ve been wondering many of the same things myself. It’s a piece about the book and movie, Call Me By Your Name, and it questions why so many gay men are praising it.

The book was penned by a straight author who says that he has never had a gay relationship in his life, and it tells the story of two apparently heteroflexible but largely hetero-leaning men who seem to experiment with same-sex sex only furtively in their lives. The film is even straighter.

And yet this book/movie is being promoted, widely, as the ultimate gay romance movie. I don’t get that. There’s nothing gay about it.

To repeat, this is strange! Why has Call Me by Your Name attained such an iconic “gay” status when it is anything but? When its main characters seem almost aggressively isolated from gay culture or politics? When its precocious protagonist has to be reminded that it’s gauche to make fun of people who are openly gay? 

You can check the rest out here. It’s not a totally negative piece.

My biggest issue with Call Me By Your Name is the barely legal story line with a 17 year old boy.

Queer Places by Elisa Rolle

Now for a completely different topic, and one that totally celebrates queer culture. I rarely read print books these days, but this one just came in and I wanted to share it. I don’t know how Elisa does this or where she finds the time, but it’s amazing. And I’m serious. Amazing.

It’s a comprehensive non-fiction book with facts and history that’s filled with information. Here’s part of the blurb from Amazon.

Queer Places, developed in 3 volumes, United States of America (1), United Kingdom (2), and Rest of the World (3), is a mix of travel guide and historical trivia; while I tried to give as much as possible the necessary info for you to find the queer places to explore, the book is above all a tool to help you deciding if you want to really visit the place. Queer Places gives you the background of the location, who lived there, who loved the place and made it unique. It gives you an address, sometime a website, and other nearby queer places. 

And here’s the link.  This will be on my coffee table for a long, long time.

Justin Trudeau’s Tearful Apology to Gay People

I love this guy, and this is the reason why. Whenever it surfaces that a US politician has “evolved” on gay marriage, that’s not good enough for me. That’s an insult. I want to hear an apology, the same kind of apology other minorities receive for the injustices that have been done to them. Gay people never get that from US politicians.

But this time Justin Trudeau knocked it right out of the proverbial ballpark, and he’s gained a lot more respect as a result.

“It is with shame and sorrow and deep regret for the things we have done that I stand here today and say, We were wrong. We apologize. I am sorry. We are sorry.”

And that’s why I love Justin Trudeau. That’s all it takes, just one honest apology. In fact, I think he may be the first one who ever did apologize.

Here more. 

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Gays Falling For "Call Me By Your Name"; "Queer Places" by Elisa Rolle; Justin Trudeau’s Tearful Apology To Gay People

Gays Falling For “Call Me By Your Name” 

I get DMs on social media all the time from other gay men who want to share something in private because they’re afraid of getting backlash if they share it in public. I do the same thing, too. It’s just easier and more comfortable. We talk about our culture and our lives all the time behind the scenes, which can be cathartic nowadays.

With that said, someone sent me this link the other day and I thought it was pretty much spot on. I’ve been wondering many of the same things myself. It’s a piece about the book and movie, Call Me By Your Name, and it questions why so many gay men are praising it.

The book was penned by a straight author who says that he has never had a gay relationship in his life, and it tells the story of two apparently heteroflexible but largely hetero-leaning men who seem to experiment with same-sex sex only furtively in their lives. The film is even straighter.

And yet this book/movie is being promoted, widely, as the ultimate gay romance movie. I don’t get that. There’s nothing gay about it.

To repeat, this is strange! Why has Call Me by Your Name attained such an iconic “gay” status when it is anything but? When its main characters seem almost aggressively isolated from gay culture or politics? When its precocious protagonist has to be reminded that it’s gauche to make fun of people who are openly gay? 

You can check the rest out here. It’s not a totally negative piece.

My biggest issue with Call Me By Your Name is the barely legal story line with a 17 year old boy.

Queer Places by Elisa Rolle

Now for a completely different topic, and one that totally celebrates queer culture. I rarely read print books these days, but this one just came in and I wanted to share it. I don’t know how Elisa does this or where she finds the time, but it’s amazing. And I’m serious. Amazing.

It’s a comprehensive non-fiction book with facts and history that’s filled with information. Here’s part of the blurb from Amazon.

Queer Places, developed in 3 volumes, United States of America (1), United Kingdom (2), and Rest of the World (3), is a mix of travel guide and historical trivia; while I tried to give as much as possible the necessary info for you to find the queer places to explore, the book is above all a tool to help you deciding if you want to really visit the place. Queer Places gives you the background of the location, who lived there, who loved the place and made it unique. It gives you an address, sometime a website, and other nearby queer places. 

And here’s the link.  This will be on my coffee table for a long, long time.

Justin Trudeau’s Tearful Apology to Gay People

I love this guy, and this is the reason why. Whenever it surfaces that a US politician has “evolved” on gay marriage, that’s not good enough for me. That’s an insult. I want to hear an apology, the same kind of apology other minorities receive for the injustices that have been done to them. Gay people never get that from US politicians.

But this time Justin Trudeau knocked it right out of the proverbial ballpark, and he’s gained a lot more respect as a result.

“It is with shame and sorrow and deep regret for the things we have done that I stand here today and say, We were wrong. We apologize. I am sorry. We are sorry.”

And that’s why I love Justin Trudeau. That’s all it takes, just one honest apology. In fact, I think he may be the first one who ever did apologize.

Here more. 

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Armie Hammer's Gone From Twitter Over A BuzzFeed Piece; More On Republican Joe Barton; Angela Lansbury's Gay Husband

Armie Hammer’s Gone From Twitter Over A BuzzFeed Piece

After a highly critical piece on BuzzFeed, Hammer deleted his Twitter account. I really hate linking to the story now, but I thought it was interesting because authors have been dealing with this kind of criticism on the Internet for years. And I thought it was interesting that the Internet is now throwing this kind of shade at Hollywood.

Is Twitter now such a rough-and-tumble place that even a man as manly as Armie Hammer can’t survive there? On Monday, after calling a BuzzFeed piece about him “bitter AF,” Hammer peaced out of the social network. He’s hardly the first person to have fled the platform—the Twitter hiatus has been a certifiable Thing this year, the online equivalent of a juice cleanse—but his reasons for fleeing seem a little less admirable than the usual ones. You hear about the abuse from trolls, the toxic news cycle, interference with work, which are all reasonable excuses to step back from Twitter either temporarily or for good. Stacked up against those, “BuzzFeed wrote an article I didn’t like” is some pretty weak sauce.


Here’s the link to that.

More On Republican Joe Barton

Unfortunately, the sex scandals seem to be continuing everywhere.

Now, the Washington Post has gotten its hands on a transcript of a recorded phone conversation between Barton and the woman he sent the explicit material to after their affair had ended.

There’s more here.

Angela Lansbury’s Gay Husband

I had no idea Angela Lansbury had a gay husband. She recently commented about it in an interview. When she married him, she was only 19 and barely legal, and he was 35 years old.

He wanted to marry, he was fascinated with me, but only because of what he had seen on the screen, really.
It didn’t injure or damage me in any way, because he maintained a friendship with me and my future husband.
But it was a shock to me when it ended, I wasn’t prepared for that. It was just a terrible error I made as a very young woman. But I don’t regret it.”

Here’s the rest. There’s a link that will lead you to the entire interview.

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Egypt Jails 14 Gay Men; Adam Lambert's Censored Gender Fluid Cover; Porn Star Hugh Hunter Declines GayVN Nominations

Egypt Jails 14 Gay Men

If you ever wonder why I rarely bother getting into political discussions, this is why. My only focus, and the only thing I’m willing to go up on that hill for, is this kind of injustice against LGBTI people.

Egypt has jailed 14 more men for homosexuality in the continued hunt to eliminate the LGBTI community.
They were all sentenced to jail for three years for ‘abnormal’ sexual relations.

Here’s the rest.  There’s more, and there are more articles that follow it.

Adam Lambert’s Censored Gender Fluid Cover

Lambert explains how his first album cover wasn’t received well, so it was changed.

He continued, explaining the existence of two covers for the album.
‘I was feelin my gender fluid (and fully photoshopped) glam rock fantasy. The powers that be released a second cover for retailers who felt ‘uncomfortable’ w the original. (Even though i was still fully painted.)’

You can check this out, here. I’ve had this kind of censorship happen to me with publishers…who either don’t understand gay men, or they only know what they’ve been told about gay men. It’s interesting. It’s usually very harmless, and a few years later we laugh about it.

Porn Star Hugh Hunter Declines GayVN Nominations

Hunter wants nothing to do with the GayVN nominations, and he is calling them out on racism for a variety of reasons.

“It now appears as if the GayVN Awards have chosen to make this racism and bigotry more blatant in their return to the awards arena. As I browsed through the GayVN award nomination categories and its endless list of nominees I noticed a category which immediately struck my sensibilities as wrong and, quite frankly, turned my stomach.”

Here’s more. There are over 35 comments with this one. 

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Egypt Jails 14 Gay Men; Adam Lambert’s Censored Gender Fluid Cover; Porn Star Hugh Hunter Declines GayVN Nominations

Egypt Jails 14 Gay Men

If you ever wonder why I rarely bother getting into political discussions, this is why. My only focus, and the only thing I’m willing to go up on that hill for, is this kind of injustice against LGBTI people.

Egypt has jailed 14 more men for homosexuality in the continued hunt to eliminate the LGBTI community.
They were all sentenced to jail for three years for ‘abnormal’ sexual relations.

Here’s the rest.  There’s more, and there are more articles that follow it.

Adam Lambert’s Censored Gender Fluid Cover

Lambert explains how his first album cover wasn’t received well, so it was changed.

He continued, explaining the existence of two covers for the album.
‘I was feelin my gender fluid (and fully photoshopped) glam rock fantasy. The powers that be released a second cover for retailers who felt ‘uncomfortable’ w the original. (Even though i was still fully painted.)’

You can check this out, here. I’ve had this kind of censorship happen to me with publishers…who either don’t understand gay men, or they only know what they’ve been told about gay men. It’s interesting. It’s usually very harmless, and a few years later we laugh about it.

Porn Star Hugh Hunter Declines GayVN Nominations

Hunter wants nothing to do with the GayVN nominations, and he is calling them out on racism for a variety of reasons.

“It now appears as if the GayVN Awards have chosen to make this racism and bigotry more blatant in their return to the awards arena. As I browsed through the GayVN award nomination categories and its endless list of nominees I noticed a category which immediately struck my sensibilities as wrong and, quite frankly, turned my stomach.”

Here’s more. There are over 35 comments with this one. 

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Armie Hammer Is Sick of This Question; Steve Grand's Two Beefcake Calendars; You Have to See Channing Tatum In Drag

Armie Hammer Is Sick of This Question

And I’m sick of Armie Hammer.

No links.

No comments.

End of rant.

Steve Grand’s Two Beefcake Calendars

Steve Grand didn’t just make one calendar with half naked selfies. He made two.

Steve Grand, the openly gay country singer who gleefully parades around in superior jockstraps, is giving fans exactly what they want this holiday season: He’s releasing not one but two fleshy calendars to ring in the New Year.

You can read the rest here. I’m not sure if the proceeds from these calendars are going to charity or not. Other calendars of this kind usually raise money for charities that benefit important causes. I’m not sure who benefits from this one.

You Have To See Channing Tatum In Drag

This is amusing and brilliant. I like it because it challenges the norm with a different kind of gender bending. I think we need that, without shame or judgment.

The actor, no stranger to parading around in drag, is prominently featured in the new video for Pink’s “Beautiful Trauma,” which features the duo playing a button-up couple experimenting outside their comfort zone with various transgressive delights: crossdressing, BDSM, dancing….

Here’s more.  You can’t watch the video at that link, though. But you can see it on You Tube. I think it’s fantastic. Just the sets alone are excellent.

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Armie Hammer Is Sick of This Question; Steve Grand’s Two Beefcake Calendars; You Have to See Channing Tatum In Drag

Armie Hammer Is Sick of This Question

And I’m sick of Armie Hammer.

No links.

No comments.

End of rant.

Steve Grand’s Two Beefcake Calendars

Steve Grand didn’t just make one calendar with half naked selfies. He made two.

Steve Grand, the openly gay country singer who gleefully parades around in superior jockstraps, is giving fans exactly what they want this holiday season: He’s releasing not one but two fleshy calendars to ring in the New Year.

You can read the rest here. I’m not sure if the proceeds from these calendars are going to charity or not. Other calendars of this kind usually raise money for charities that benefit important causes. I’m not sure who benefits from this one.

You Have To See Channing Tatum In Drag

This is amusing and brilliant. I like it because it challenges the norm with a different kind of gender bending. I think we need that, without shame or judgment.

The actor, no stranger to parading around in drag, is prominently featured in the new video for Pink’s “Beautiful Trauma,” which features the duo playing a button-up couple experimenting outside their comfort zone with various transgressive delights: crossdressing, BDSM, dancing….

Here’s more.  You can’t watch the video at that link, though. But you can see it on You Tube. I think it’s fantastic. Just the sets alone are excellent.

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A PG Rated Gay Romance

Russell Tovey's Sexy Feet; Married Gay Couple Have Sex With A Woman; Straight Guys Who Love To Be Bottoms

Russell Tovey’s Sexy Feet

This is actually a link to one of those multiple news items that cover several different stories at once, but one is a photo of Russell Tovey giving a foot massage to another guy.

Russell Tovey didn’t mind the feet

Here’s the rest.  Those of you who are into men’s feet will like it, and those of you who pretend that you aren’t into men’s feet will like it even more. You have to scroll down.

Married Gay Couple Have Sex With a Woman

I have to admit this is something I have never seen happen in my entire gay life. And I can promise you that if I went up and down my friend list in real life and asked every gay couple I know if they would do this, they would either scream or laugh in my face.

But I suppose anything is possible…

Chris and Matt had been together for eight years when they decided to it was time spice things up. So they did what any monogamous gay couple does… they invited a woman named Cait into their bedroom. Now, they’re a bisexual thruple and, they say, they couldn’t be happier!


You can check this out here. There are 44 comments from readers as of right now and you don’t want to miss a single one.

Straight Guys Who Love To Be Bottoms

Well, this story I do get. In fact, I’ve seen this several times in my own real life with straight guys.

More and more straight men are into bottoming, at least according to one prominent sexpert.

It’s a phenomenon known as pegging and it’s the idea of a woman performing anal sex on a man, usually with a dildo or strap-on.

Here’s the rest. I don’t understand what’s so shocking about this one. If done correctly, any man, gay or straight, can enjoy bottoming.

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Russell Tovey’s Sexy Feet; Married Gay Couple Have Sex With A Woman; Straight Guys Who Love To Be Bottoms

Russell Tovey’s Sexy Feet

This is actually a link to one of those multiple news items that cover several different stories at once, but one is a photo of Russell Tovey giving a foot massage to another guy.

Russell Tovey didn’t mind the feet

Here’s the rest.  Those of you who are into men’s feet will like it, and those of you who pretend that you aren’t into men’s feet will like it even more. You have to scroll down.

Married Gay Couple Have Sex With a Woman

I have to admit this is something I have never seen happen in my entire gay life. And I can promise you that if I went up and down my friend list in real life and asked every gay couple I know if they would do this, they would either scream or laugh in my face.

But I suppose anything is possible…

Chris and Matt had been together for eight years when they decided to it was time spice things up. So they did what any monogamous gay couple does… they invited a woman named Cait into their bedroom. Now, they’re a bisexual thruple and, they say, they couldn’t be happier!


You can check this out here. There are 44 comments from readers as of right now and you don’t want to miss a single one.

Straight Guys Who Love To Be Bottoms

Well, this story I do get. In fact, I’ve seen this several times in my own real life with straight guys.

More and more straight men are into bottoming, at least according to one prominent sexpert.

It’s a phenomenon known as pegging and it’s the idea of a woman performing anal sex on a man, usually with a dildo or strap-on.

Here’s the rest. I don’t understand what’s so shocking about this one. If done correctly, any man, gay or straight, can enjoy bottoming.

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A PG Rated Gay Romance