Month: October 2017

Harsh Kevin Spacey Coming Out Memes; Jason Dottley On Hollywood Sex Abuse; Colton Haynes and Jeff Leatham’s Wedding Video

Harsh Kevin Spacey Coming Out Memes

I get a lot of letters from gay men who are still in the closet, and they are in the closet for valid reasons. They find my books or this web site, and they contact me in private. Most live in small towns where there’s still a huge gay stigma, and some live in parts of the world where coming out could get them killed…literally killed. I correspond regularly with a closeted gay Amish man (one of the nicest people I have ever met) who has lived his life married to a woman and he has children. He’s lived a good life and a productive life. I think there are some valid reasons why people don’t come out of the closet. And I never judge.

But I do find this Hollywood hypocrisy thing confusing. There are gay men in Hollywood who came out in their private lives years ago, but they remain in the closet because they believe it might hurt their careers. Well, it might hurt their careers…I’m not sure about that. But I am sure they live in this privileged world where hypocrisy is a way of life. These are ambitious people who will stop at nothing to get what they want while the closeted gay guys who really can’t come out at all suffer in private and the brave gay men in Hollywood like Colton Haynes deal with the career issues alone. So I have very little tolerance for that kind of Hollywood hypocrisy…the kind where a gay man is open to all his friends and family, but remains in the closet so he can get the next movie deal or sign the next contract. That’s not fair to everyone else. Plus, it only continues to promote the shame that’s always been associated with being gay.

With all that said, Kevin Spacey has faced more than his fair share of backlash recently thanks to his unusual attempt at coming out. Under any circumstances this coming out announcement is not a huge surprise, but these are some really powerful circumstances. They are alleged circumstances that make this entire Hollywood sex abuse scandal even worse.

In case you haven’t heard yet: On Sunday, actor Anthony Rapp accused Spacey of making untoward sexual advances on him when he was just 14 years old. Spacey was 26. In response, Spacey issued a hasty statement saying he was drunk at the time and didn’t remember the alleged incident… Then he came out as gay. Surprise!

Here’s what Spacey said…

In my life I have had relationships with both men and women. I have loved and had romantic encounters with men throughout my life, and I choose now to live as a gay man. I want to deal with this honestly and openly and that starts with examining my own behavior.

First and foremost you don’t choose to be gay. I didn’t choose to be gay, and neither did my Amish friend who’s still living in the closet. People are born gay. Spacey just chose to pretend to be straight all those years. There’s a difference.  

You can read the rest here. There are comments. Of course there’s the usual victim blaming and shaming.  

Jason Dottley On Hollywood Sex Abuse With Men

I had a feeling we’d be hearing more about this sex abuse scandal in Hollywood. Jason Dottley was part of the Sordid Lives cast a few years ago, and now he’s speaking up.

On Monday, the 36-year-old entertainer posted a lengthy Facebook status update alleging widespread sexual harassment and abuse at the hands of industry professionals when he was a teenager trying to make it as an actor.

There’s more, plus the full statement, here. 

Colton Haynes and Jeff Leatham’s Wedding Video

On a more positive note, which I think most people need nowadays, here are some great wedding images that were taken in Palm Springs at Haynes and Leatham’s wedding. It’s actually a video.

The below video will allow you to gently re-enter polite society, firm in the confidence that you’re up to date on every breath Haynes has taken in the last 72 hours. We did this for you.

Here’s more. Even though the comments are a little cruel, I think it’s adorable and I’m still shocked this is now possible for gay men to do…get married. I hope it’s a long and happy marriage.  

Someone said they’re going to hyphenate their names.  

Altered Parts





Kendle’s Fire
A PG Rated Gay Romance


Said With Care


Best Wishes To Colton Haynes and Jeff Leatham; Kathy Griffin Tells All On Andy Cohen; Sexy People Have It Harder Getting Jobs; Asexuals Speaking Louder Now

Best Wishes To Colton Haynes and Jeff Leatham

Colton Haynes and Jeff Leatham just got married in Palm Springs, CA.

Haynes, 29, and Leatham, 46, — who coordinated in white tuxedo jackets and black bow ties — exchanged vows in front of 120 guests at a nighttime ceremony held at a Palm Springs hotel and officiated by their longtime friend Kris Jenner.

“It’s just amazing when you find someone who kind of teaches you to love yourself more,” Haynes tells PEOPLE. “The really great thing about being with Jeff is that since we got together my relationships with my friends have gotten better, my family relationships have gotten better. When you learn to really love someone, it’s completely life-changing. Now we have this beautiful life together and this epic journey ahead.”

There’s more here. I follow Haynes on Instagram and they seem like a nice couple. I wonder which hotel it was. I live in Palm Springs part time, and I’m just curious.  


Kathy Griffin Tells All On Andy Cohen

Evidently, Kathy Griffin is not going to disappear quietly into the sunset. She’s talking now, and she’s telling everything about good old Andy Cohen.  I know absolutely nothing about him.

Second time I did the show — same thing. So once again we’re alone in an office and he’s like, “You wanna do some coke?” He’s going to say he was kidding, but no, he was asking me to do cocaine with him. That made me very uncomfortable… That’s why I don’t do that show, and I don’t know why he gets away with that.”

There’s more here

Sexy People Have It Harder Getting Jobs

I’m not so sure about this one. I guess it could be true, but I hate to think employers can be this shallow.

It’s not easy being beautiful. Or is it?
That’s the takeaway from a new study published by the American Psychological Association that has found hot people have a much harder time landing entry level jobs than average-looking or downright ugly ones.
There’s more here. They give a reason why…but I’m still not sold on this concept. 
Asexuals Speaking Louder Now
This article is interesting because it talks about asexuality in more detail, without getting too long or confusing. It also discusses what it’s like to be asexual in a society that’s overly sexualized. And we really are, indeed, a society that is sexualized. 
I never really enjoyed my first sexual encounters, though they were interesting as a kind of fact-finding mission. Pretty much every encounter since, regardless of my relationship with the person in question, has been unsatisfying to the point of unfulfilling.

The Queer and Trans Gun Club; This Andy Cohen Dude on Cooper and Griffin’s Feud; Back When Dirty Words Were Illegal

The Queer and Trans Gun Club

Just when you think things can’t get more peculiar out there, you read this…

A group of LGBTI people in Rochester, New York have been learning how to properly shoot guns.
Trigger Warning Queer & Trans Gun Club was founded this past year as a response to the rise of extremist groups like the Alt-Right. The 18 dues-paying members are all LGBTI, and many are just learning about guns for the first time. Members meet once a month to shoot at still targets and clay pigeons.
Here’s more. The article states there are more clubs just like this in other places. I hope they’re careful, and I’m serious. This one worries me. 
Andy Cohen on Cooper and Griffin’s Feud 
I honestly still do not know who this dude, Andy Cohen, actually is. I’m not being snarky about that. I don’t know who the hell he is. I have never seen him on TV…or anywhere for that matter. All I know is he seems to be a gayer gay man than me or most people I know, and he’s friends with Anderson Cooper. In fact, from what I’m reading, he’s the gayest of us all. And now he’s fanning the proverbial flames in the ongoing feud between Kathy Griffin and Anderson Cooper. 
Still, Griffin didn’t let the moment pass her by. This morning (27 October), she tweeted about the exchange, calling Cohen ‘deeply misogynistic’. She also claimed he treated her ‘like a dog’ the 10 years he was her boss.
Here’s the rest. There’s some back story there. But I always tell people to remember one thing when it comes to this Kathy Griffin thing: Lenny Bruce. Lenny Bruce was a stand up comic who was once arrested for using the word cocksucker.  I may not like what Griffin did, and I would certainly never do that myself, but I support her right to do that with my last ounce of breath and I’m not even one of her biggest fans. 
Back When Dirty Words Were Illegal
Speaking of free speech and comics, here’s an article I found that talks about Lenny Bruce and his obscenity arrests. You couldn’t say cocksucker in public for fear of being locked up in jail. 
This is a fascinating article that someone like this Andy Cohen person will never promote. I can do this because I’m not selling out to anyone or anything when it comes to free speech in any venue. 
San Francisco was the perfect city for a performer looking to break down social mores; everything representing bohemia in 1961 America could be found along Broadway’s six blocks in North Beach: strip joints, gay bars and nightly jazz billowing out of murky doorways.
Not everyone was enamored, however. The local police and concerned citizens were looking to clean the place up, especially after the popularization of the Beat movement, of which North Beach was the West Cost epicenter. Tensions between police and artists grew quickly; interracial couples were targeted heavily, then the popular hangouts. In 1957, poet Lawrence Ferlinghetti was arrested for allowing copies of Allen Ginsberg’s epic poem, Howl, to be sold at his North Beach bookstore, City Lights Books. 
You can read this in full here, and I highly suggest you do that. 


A PG Rated Gay Romance


Said With Care

FREE Gay Fiction Excerpt: ALTERED PARTS; Are You Promoting Racism On Grindr? Do We Need Gay Bathhouses Nowadays?

FREE Gay Fiction Excerpt: ALTERED PARTS

I have a new release out this week titled, Altered Parts, and I wanted to post an excerpt. I posted the blurb yesterday.

There are links below. It will be available in paperback very soon. It takes a while to get that part of the process moving along.

You can check out the excerpt below this post. It’s a period piece set back in 1940, that’s a PG rated gay romance with a happy ending.

Are You Promoting Racism on Grindr?

Here’s an article about Grindr and what’s now being referred as “sexual racism.”

“Sexual racism is a larger problem within our community and impacts all dating apps, not just Grindr,” he told the Advocate. Grindr, he added, does “prohibit the use of offensive or racist language and encourage our community to report offending profiles through our app’s built-in system.”
You can check that out here. There are comments, and one guy in the comments wants to know if it’s sexist if gay men state they are not sexually attracted to women. It’s a valid question, considering what we’re dealing with here. 
Frankly, I can understand not using racist language. That I get, and I despise racist language. But if you’re not into a certain “type” sexually, there’s not much anyone can do about that. If there were something we could do about THAT there would be a lot less single people in the world and we’d all live happily ever after. 
Do We Need Gay Bathhouses Nowadays?
I guess they’re trying to bring gay bathhouses back to Minneapolis, and here’s how one PC gay reader responded to an article about it. 
All of my gay friends seem pretty set on getting rid of these stereotypes and images, or at least not having them define the LGBT community. Religion and all that aside, it demonstrated as a matter of both mental health and physical health that people are healthier if sex is not separated from love, affection, commitment.
It’s interesting because it’s almost as though we’ve entered a new gay PC version of the Victorian Era, where sex was frowned upon and everyone wound up doing it discreetly so no one would find out. I’ve read the entire quote and think this person is naive if they think that people who live heteronormative lives don’t have their fair share of sex just for the sake of sexual gratification. Not to mention the fact that not all gay men have the luxury of coming out, not even nowadays. So places like gay bathhouses provide them with an outlet, both socially and sexually. Whenever I see comments like this I always get the feeling the person isn’t very experienced, in general.
I’ve never been to a gay bathhouse, but, I never thought gay bathhouses defined the gay community either. They’re just a part of gay culture. And gay culture is highly diverse. 
You can check that out here. As you would imagine, this link has a lot of comments. And from what I’ve seen at a glance, bathhouses still have a place in some parts of the gay community. 
FREE Gay Excerpt: Altered Parts


When we reached the clearing at the end of the path where the house became visible, he grabbed my overalls and wrestled me to the ground. He pinned my back to the grass and climbed on top of me. As he sat on my chest he held my wrists back over my head and said, “When are you going to learn. I’m stronger than you are, Joe Buddy.” At first I wasn’t sure if he was making fun of my name by emphasizing Joe. A lot of people from other parts made fun of the way country people did things and I’d heard all the exaggerated stereotypes before.
Then he started laughing with me, not at me, and that’s when I knew he wasn’t serious. “You might be stronger, but I’m faster. And don’t you forget that, Clay Totten.”
He released my wrists and we rolled around on the grass again until I heard Aunt Ted call my name from the front porch. She must have noticed us wrestling because she walked to the gate and said, “Who’s with you, Joe Buddy? Honestly. Why on earth are you rolling around on the ground that way right before supper in such a crude, uncivilized manner? I thought I taught you better.”
We stopped wrestling and both stood up fast. I led the way over to the gate and said, “We were just fooling around. This is my new friend, Clay Totten. He’s from Wyoming and he’s on his way to Florida where he has kin. I asked him to stay for supper if that’s okay. He doesn’t have anywhere else to go. Can he stay? Please?”
Aunt Ted looked him up and down and said, “Of course it’s okay. We have plenty of food.” Then she walked even closer and shook her head. “You poor thing, you look like you need a decent meal. I’m Joe Buddy’s Aunt Ted. You just follow me into the house while Joe buddy puts on shoes and socks and I’ll make sure you get something decent to eat for a change.”
As Aunt Ted turned and headed back to the front porch, Clay sent me a look as if he was waiting for me to explain Aunt Ted. I just shrugged and said, “I think she likes you, and that doesn’t happen often. Pay her some compliments. Tell her she’s pretty. She likes that.”
Clay smiled. “Well, I think I like her, too. And that doesn’t happen very often either.”
If he noticed…or if he was even curious…that Aunt Ted had once been a man, he never said word. The only question he did ask when we reached the front door was, “Is your Aunt Ted from England?”
I laughed and said, “No. She’s born and raised here and never been off Buddy’s Mountain for longer than a day or two. She just talks that way like people in the movies. It drives my Aunt Matilda right up the side of the house sometimes. She’ll look at Aunt Ted with pinched lips and say, ‘Come down from your high horse again, Ted, you’re not in London, you’re on Buddy’s Mountain.’ But Aunt Ted doesn’t care. She keeps right on talking like Katherine Hepburn. She thinks it’s more sophisticated. She even has a name for it: transatlantic. We’re all used to it around here.”
“Well, she’s a tall one, but she seems nice enough.”
“Let’s go inside so I can put on my shoes and socks before supper,” I said. “Then I’ll introduce you to Aunt Matilda. They’re sisters, but they’re nothing alike.”
When he met Aunt Matilda he seemed a little relieved. Unfortunately, Aunt Matilda didn’t seem as relieved. While Aunt Ted showed Clay into the formal dining room, which is where we had supper every night at Aunt Ted’s insistence, Aunt Matilda pulled me into the kitchen and asked, “What’s his story? Where’s he from? I’m not sure about bringing drifters into the house, especially cowboys.”
I told her everything I knew about him, which I’m sure wasn’t enough to calm her worries. Then I said, “He’s a nice guy and I don’t think he has a place to stay. Can I keep him here tonight? Please, can I keep him?” I did not want to let that cowboy go, and I was ready to do anything to keep him around. After all, it wasn’t every day a person found a man like Clay Totten wandering around Buddy’s Mountain in tight jeans and cowboy boots.
Aunt Matilda had always been the more cautious one in the family, but she trusted me and she had a kind heart. She’d also always encouraged me to have friends being that I’d grown up as an only child. The times were different back then, too. People, in general, trusted other people a lot more. It was nothing to pick up a hitch hiker on the side of the road, or to offer assistance to someone in need. She raised an eyebrow and said, “I suppose it can’t hurt, but you keep an eye on him. There have been strange things going on around here with my tomatoes and that hay in the barn, and I don’t want any trouble.”
“I won’t let him out of my sight,” I said. That was the total truth. I couldn’t stop looking at him or his cowboy boots.
After we sat down to supper, Aunt Ted threw her right arm out and bent her wrist, a flamboyant move even for her. “We’re so glad you could join us for supper. I hope you like Boeuf Bourguignon, haricot vert, and fingerlings with raclette, Clay.”
Clay blinked.
I looked down and smiled. I was used to her.
And Aunt Matilda shook her head and said, “Don’t pay any attention to her, Clay. It’s beef stew, green beans, and potatoes with melted cheese.” She sent Aunt Ted a glance and said, “My sister has a tendency to embellish everything. You’ll get used to it, or not.”
Aunt Ted waved her off and said, “And my sister has a tendency to be common.”
Before Aunt Matilda could reply I spoke up. I didn’t want them to quarrel in front of Clay. “This looks wonderful. I’m starved. Could you please pass the bread, Aunt Ted?”
Aunt Ted reached for the bread but she looked at Aunt Matilda and smiled. “Here you go, dear. It’s a fresh baguette right from the oven.” It really was nothing more than white bread my Aunt Matilda had baked earlier that morning, but Aunt Ted seemed to take pleasure in emphasizing the word baguette.
Aunt Matilda just rolled her eyes and sighed.
During supper, Aunt Matilda tried to ask Clay a few questions about his past and where he came from, but Aunt Ted kept bringing up the women’s church meeting and throwing everyone off track. She wanted a new organ and not a picnic area and she wasn’t going to let that topic go for anything. As curious as Aunt Matilda was about Clay, she was more interested in getting the new picnic area. So while they bickered about whether it was more important to have good music or good picnic benches, Clay had three helpings of beef stew and more potatoes with melted cheese than I’d ever seen anyone eat. And I had a feeling this had been his first decent meal in a long time.
We had pound cake for dessert, and then after that I took Clay outside to see the car I was working on. I’d never won any awards in school, I was average at sports, but that car was the one thing in this world that filled me with a sense of pride.
He looked it over and said, “It’s great. Let’s go for a ride.”
I hesitated. “I haven’t taken it out yet. I’m still working on a few things.”
“Does it run?”
I shrugged. “Well, yeah I guess it runs. I just wanted to adjust a few things before I start driving it regularly.”
He opened the passenger door and climbed inside. I think if it had been a convertible he would have been the type of guy who’d jump over the door and into the seat like in the movies. He leaned over and looked at me through the driver’s window and said, “Stop being so cautious. We don’t have to go far. We’ll just drive it around a little.”
“I guess it couldn’t hurt,” I said. “I did fill it with gas yesterday. I just don’t want to go too far, just in case we wind up walking back home.” The only reason why I hadn’t driven it much yet was because there was still a knock when it idled, and I was afraid to take it out alone. As long as Clay was there I didn’t feel that fear anymore. I felt as if I could do anything as long as he was around.
It took a moment or two to start the old car, but once the motor turned over we cheered and he punched me in the arm. I knew it was his way of showing affection without actually being affectionate and I said nothing. I turned the wheel, headed down the dirt drive, and toward a road that would lead us up to the highest point on Buddy’s Mountain.
I hadn’t been up to the top of the mountain in about a year. We used to go up there all the time when I was younger and my aunts had more energy. Back when my grandfather had still been alive every single family holiday and summer event had been held up there. We’d gather in a gazebo my grandfather had built years earlier, for long picnics that often lasted well into the evening hours.
As we climbed to the top in the old car that day, I’d forgotten how intimidating the old dirt road could be. It wrapped around the edge of the mountain, without a fence or guardrail, and one wrong move on my part would have sent us both plunging thousands of feet to our deaths. I gripped the steering wheel tighter and leaned forward a little. And while I never took my eyes off the road for longer than a second, Clay stared out through the passenger window gaping at the view.
“I’ve never seen anything like this before,” he said. “It’s fantastic. Everything is so green.”
I smiled. I kept my eyes focused on the road and said, “The height doesn’t bother you at all?”
“Hell, no,” he said. “The higher the better. I love looking down. It gives me a thrill up my leg. Does it bother you?”
I gulped. “Let’s just say I’m always glad when we reach the top of the mountain and I’m on solid ground. I just don’t like being this close to the edge.”
“You’re doing just fine. Stop worrying so much. The road is wide enough for a huge truck, it’s very smooth, and you’re just thinking about it in an exaggerated way. Trust me, you’re okay.”
“That’s easy for you to say. You weren’t raised by two spinster aunts who wanted to prepare you for all the terrible, awful things that can happen in life. Trust me, they left nothing out.”
This time he looked away from the view and frowned. “At least you have them. You’re lucky. It’s a lot more than I had.”
After he said that, I wanted to find out more about his upbringing, but we had just reached the top of the mountain and he kept looking around with such wide eyes I figured I would save the deep conversation for a later date.
The moment I pulled up next to a large rock that wasn’t too far from the family gazebo, even before I turned off the motor, he jumped out of the car and ran to the edge of the cliff. I watched as he stood there with his hands on his hips and his long legs spread apart. I climbed out of the car and started toward him, noticing he looked as good from the back as he did from the front. His expression appeared so animated and thrilled with excitement I enjoyed watching his impressions of the mountain more than I enjoyed the mountain itself. I’d grown up there. I knew every inch of that mountain, including the views. It’s not that I didn’t love it, but seeing it all through Clay’s eyes made me feel as though I was seeing for the first time as well.

New Book Release: "Altered Parts" by Ryan Field; A 3-Way Sex Scene with Colton Haynes and Incest: American Horror Story; Clear Pumpkin Pie

New Release: Altered Parts by Ryan Field

I have a new release out today.  I actually wrote this book while on the road and during the time I spent in Palm Springs, CA, this summer. It’s a little different than what I normally write because it’s written in the first person, and it’s set in 1940. In short, it’s a PG rated gay romance, with a transgender minor character, and a very happy ending.

Have you ever wondered what it might have been like for two young men who fell in love in 1940? Well that’s exactly what happened to young Joe Buddy Barnes and a cowboy drifter named Clay Totten.

Even though he’s great at running his family’s general store and fixing machines, Joe Buddy can’t seem to figure out how to fix his own life. The fact that he lives way up on remote Buddy’s Mountain in Western North Carolina, with two spinster aunts, doesn’t help his situation either. Although his aunts devoted their lives to him, one aunt never got over a long lost love and the other was born a man who always identified as a woman.


Then one hot summer afternoon in 1940 everything changes. While Joe Buddy is swimming in the creek he accidentally meets a tall, dark cowboy from Wyoming named Clay. He’s a drifter who is only passing through North Carolina on his way to Florida, where he plans to enlist in the military.


There’s an instant connection, and Joe Buddy winds up bringing Clay home for supper that night because he feels sorry for him. However, Joe Buddy suspects there’s more to Clay’s story than he’s telling, and he persuades Clay to stick around long enough to find out. As each event unfolds, these two young men move forward in ways that neither one of them ever expected. And as World War II lurks in the not so far off distance, there are some interesting changes coming to Buddy’s Mountain you won’t want to miss.

You can check this out here at Smashwords.

And here’s the Amazon link. 

A 3-Way Sex Scene with Colton Haynes and Incest: American Horror Story

This is where a lot of TV loses me. I guess it’s because I come from the publishing industry where incest has always been taboo in the mainstream…for the most part. It’s there on the fringes, and I supposed there’s a fringe market for it.

In any event, this is the latest shock feature from the Ryan Murphy camp..and I use the word camp loosely. It’s more like clickbait at its finest.

Case in point: Kai’s batshit crazy plan to conceive a “messiah” baby with his sister Winter (Billie Lourd) to ensure the movement’s future. It’s not entirely incest, he explains, because as Detective Samuels (Colton Haynes) enters her, he will enter him. So Winter’s purity remains intact. Whatever that means.

You can check the rest out here. It’s not what you think it is. I’ve seen the episode.

A PG Rated Gay Romance

Clear Pumpkin Pie

Here’s something new and interesting. I’m not a huge fan of pumpkin pie, but I would try this.

Simon Davies, executive chef at the 3-star Michelin rated Alinea restaurant in Chicaco, set the autumnal world on its head when he started uploading photos of his latest creation: clear pumpkin pie.

You can check that out here, with photos.

What Kathy Griffin Called Anderson Cooper; The Babadook and Pennywise Get Married; Ellen Gives A Gay Guy A Big Surprise

What Kathy Griffin Called Anderson Cooper

I actually think that Kathy Griffin will go down in entertainment history as somewhat of a free speech icon…think Lenny Bruce. I’m not getting political about this one way or the other, so please don’t leave comments giving me your political opinion. This is not politics. I’m only talking about free speech and censorship. Of course there were consequences to what Griffin did. There usually are. However, I don’t even think Griffin realizes how much of an example she’s set for anyone interested in writing,  free speech, or comedy. Whether or not I like what she did doesn’t even matter. She made a bold move, she owned it, and I think she’s going to come out looking a lot better in time than she does right now. 

If you don’t agree with me, think Lenny Bruce again. There was a time when someone doing stand up comedy couldn’t even use words like fuck, cunt, or cocksucker. Bruce was actually arrested for using the word Cocksucker. 

Griffin is still speaking out, and good for her. That’s called free speech. In all honesty, I was never a Kathy Griffin fan…until recently when she started crossing the lines. I admire that. 

And given Griffin’s comments this week in a sit-down with The Daily Beast, that friendship (not to mention any remote chance of working together again) seems to be lost forever.
While much of the piece focuses on the comedian’s feud with “fame whore” lawyer Lisa Bloom (her words), Griffin does manage to work in a searing burn at Cooper, referring to him as “The Spineless Heiress.” She attributed the insult to “her gays.”

There’s more here. For the record, I wouldn’t have done what Griffin did. But this cocksucker…me… will defend Griffin’s right to do that with his last breath. And if you don’t know anything about Lenny Bruce, check out the link to wiki above. I’m not a huge fan of Wikipedia for the most part. I find it amateur and questionable at best. However, it’s fast, and there are some things you can trust. 

The Babadook and Pennywise Get Married

I’ve seen both movies and frankly I didn’t find either one the least bit scary. I think they’re amusing. The scariest part for me is that so many people actually think they were scary movies. It obviously doesn’t take much to scare people or get them excited. Facebook is a good example.

In any event, this is a lot funnier than scary. It’s a video and it’s not long.

Enemies of Dorothy wrote: The Babadook may be the newest a gay-icon, but he’s wasting no time before sharing this exciting news! #PennyDook Directed by Michael Varrati Written by and starring Ryan Fisher and Chris Bryant DP: Brandon Smithson Crew: Stephen Schiatta and Michael Cornacchia MUSIC: “The Engagement” by Silent Partner “Rage Black Sun” by TeknoAXE ————– Enemies of Dorothy Now Available on REVRY!

It’s interesting to note that I have not met one single person yet in real life…gay or straight…that thinks the Babadook is a gay icon. Most people don’t even know WTF the Babadook is. They know Pennywise, but the Babadook just passes them by. 

Here’s the link.

Ellen Gives A Gay Guy A Big Surprise

No. Ellen didn’t take off her pants. That’s not the surprise. This is totally different.

When Trent Bauer went to a recent screening of Ellen, he thought he was just going to watch his favorite comedian in the flesh.

What he didn’t know is his best friend Stephanie Knauer, also in attendance, had written Ellen to sing her friends’ praises:

Here’s the rest. If you’re the type of person who gets “the feels,” this should do it.

Said With Care


A PG Rated Gay Romance



Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field











Quid Pro Quo: Discounted Legal Fees For Gay Sex; Three Sexy Bears In A Honey Commercial; Females, Non-Binary Animators, and Sexual Harassment

Quid Pro Quo: Discounted Legal Fees For Gay Sex

This is not the first time I’ve ever seen something like this. This kind of thing happens all the time, and has been happening all the time for years. Like the Democratic politician in Washington, DC who used to keep his secret gay lover in a condo not far from where I live in New Hope. Even though this allegedly liberal Democrat was married (to a woman) with three kids in Washington, he never missed a weekend with his much, much younger rent boy. It’s nothing new.

This is also a good example of how men are sexually harassed, too. Although you never hear about THAT anywhere these days.

A man alleges St. Clair County Circuit Judge Ron Duebbert of Illinois offered discounted legal fees in exchange for sex while Duebbert was in private practice.
The man, whose identity is being withheld as an alleged victim of sexual assault, made the claims in an affidavit filed Monday (23 October).

There’s more here. It goes into more detail about the physical sexual harassment.

Three Sexy Bears In A Honey Commercial

I often find it amusing to make innocent “bear” references on social media to see how straight people will react. It’s amazing how they don’t know anything about gay culture…or gay bears. The gay guys all get it. But the straight people think I’m really talking about bears in the woods, even those who claim to know it all about “the gays.”  It’s interesting.

Rowse Honey is reinterpreting Goldilocks and the Three Bears in a decidedly fabulous way with their new ad series.

Aptly titled The Three Bears, the three-part series centers around three gay bears living together in a rustic cabin. Here’s the trailer for the series.

You can check that out here. It’s a good one.

Females, Non-Binary Animators, and Sexual Harassment

Here’s an example of how misguided the whole sexual abuse thing is with respect to men. They even say these things happen mostly to women, without even taking into consideration the fact that most men will NEVER discuss this topic aloud. Men (even gay men) have been trained to keep these things to themselves, especially when it involves a woman sexually harassing a man. And women do sexually harass men. I’ve experienced that myself so don’t even try to argue that point with me.

In any event, this article talks about how those who are part of more marginalized groups experience more sexual harassment. This could be true. I don’t know. I just know that men, in general, don’t like to discuss these things aloud and I’m not sure there’s ever been a valid study.

I don’t doubt this kind of abuse happens to women all the time. I’m sure it does happen. This entire Hollywood sexual harassment scandal is starting to remind me of the sex abuse scandals in the Catholic Church…that Hollywood’s filled with corruption. I’m only suggesting we include men, too. Otherwise, we (men) are going to have to begin using the word misandry a lot more in defense.

More than 200 female and gender nonconforming animators have signed an open letter to the animation community at large, urging ‘clear and enforceable’ sexual harassment/assault policies in every studio.
In the letter, they also write that they’d like to see an update to the Animation Guild constitution that would allow the Guild to ‘censure, fine, suspend or expel’ members who violate these policies. In addition, they would also like to see male colleagues ‘start speaking up and standing up for us.’
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