Month: July 2017

They’re Asking Peter Thiel To Speak Now; The Pervy Gay Landlord Who Had Sex In Tenant’s Bed; The Homophobia Will Young Faces

They’re Asking Peter Thiel To Speak Now

Even though this article is snarky and one-sided, I don’t want to focus on that tone. I’m genuinely curious about what Peter Thiel has to say about President Trump’s transgender ban in the military. And I’m not getting snarky, and I’m not going to exaggerate facts. As I know it to be true at this moment, the President tweeted that he wants to enforce a ban on transgender people in the military. That’s a fact.

And people are curious about what Peter Thiel thinks of this. He’s a high profile gay billionaire who openly supported Mr. Trump.

Peter, it’s time not just to worry but to stand up. We’d love to hear publicly from you about these attacks on our equality–and yours.

You can read more here. The rest of the article discusses facts that could be questioned, but the one thing I know to be true, and which I’m going to focus on, is that the President wants to enforce a ban on transgenders in the military once again. And the problem with that is it’s not possible to trust Mr. Trump any longer. Even if there was a glimmer of hope that he might leave the equal rights we’ve fought so hard for all these years alone, it vanished the day he tweeted about the transgender military ban.

Sometimes things are just that plain and simple, especially if you’ve been fighting for something all of your life. Even though I identify as a gay man, I do consider myself part of the entire LGBTQ+ umbrella. 

He can’t be trusted. And I’m not the only one who feels that way. My inboxes on social media have been lighting up with PMs and DMs from other gay people who were silently waiting to see how the President would handle the LGBTQ+ community, and now we know for certain.

The Pervy Gay Landlord Who Had Sex In Tenant’s Bed

I posted about this one a while ago…so long ago I’m not even going to link to it. In short, a gay landlord was caught having sex in his tenant’s bed, thanks to security cameras. (I love them. I have them all over my house now.) And the tenant pressed charges.

Here’s a follow up…

Pierce and DiGiulio said they moved out of the apartment soon after they caught their landlord using it for hook-ups, but not without sending the tape to police.

Colorado Springs Police Department then charged Quijada-Lara with criminal trespassing and misdemeanor obscenity.

Quijada-Lara made a plea deal with police and is due for sentencing on the felony count on 22 September.

There are a lot more details here in case you didn’t catch the original story. I find it interesting because I’m a landlord and I would NEVER, ever even enter my tenant’s apartment without 24 hours notice, and permission to do so from the tenant. And that’s in my lease.

The Homophobia Will Young Faces

We all face this at one point or another. The reason I have comment moderation here is because of the homophobic comments I sometimes get even here on this web site. I’ve been thinking about getting rid of comment moderation again, but after reading this I’m not so sure.  

British singer Will Young opened up about shocking past experiences of homophobia, including knife threats.

The 38-year-old songwriter also said he’s confronted homophobic people head-on.

He told i News: ‘I’ve had to run away from knife threats, hide in shops. I’ve also taken people on.’

You can check out the rest here.  I never had to deal with anything that dramatic, but I don’t doubt that he did.

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field


How Lesbian Porn Helped This Gay-Leaning Queer Guy; Trump Kisses Lesbian Police Officer; Italian Gay Activist Vincenzo Ruggiero Murdered

How Lesbian Porn Helped This Gay-Leaning Queer Guy

A man who identifies as queer who was the victim of a sexual assault found an unusual way to deal with side effects that left him traumatized.

“Though I’m a gay-leaning queer man, the first step toward reclaiming my sense of sexuality came when one of my friends, a queer woman familiar with my situation, casually introduced me to some bomb-ass lesbian-produced queer porn after brunch one Sunday.”

The site she recommended featured feminist, inclusive porn, not the hardcore girl-on-girl stuff most people think of when they think about lesbian porn, and it completely changed Kelly’s perspectives not just about sex, but also about lesbian erotica.

I can’t comment because I honestly don’t know what gay-leaning queer man means. And I’m not going to try. But I think it’s also a good example of how some gay men identify as queer and others don’t. To clarify: queer does not include all gay men or women, only those who identify that way.

You can check out the rest here.  You’ll want to read the comments, too.

Trump Kisses Lesbian Police Officer

It’s no secret I’m totally against the transgender ban in the military that Trump wants to enforce. But I think the main focus with this story is that a brave woman received an award for doing something heroic. And I don’t think that should be confused with exaggerated speculation about a kiss.

Crystal Griner, the lesbian Capitol Police officer who helped stop June’s mass shooting at a congressional baseball practice, was awarded a Medal of Valor by President Trump.

The Medal of Valor, the highest honor that public safety officers can get, was given to Griner and four other officers on Thursday 27 July.

You can check that out here, where they get into a kiss Trump gave Griner. There are all kinds of speculations with this one, but I choose to focus on the brave woman and the award she received. She deserved it, and the praise that goes along with it.

With that said, it’s impossible to trust what Trump’s going to do next after the transgender ban tweets. And that’s just me basing my decision on the information that Trump gave me.

Italian Gay Activist Vincenzo Ruggiero Murdered

This is an unusual crime of jealousy, and there’s also footage of the murderer shoving Ruggiero’s body into a car.

35-year-old navy officer Ciro Guarente confessed to murdering 25-year-old gay activist Vincenzo Ruggiero today (29 July).

Ruggiero went missing 7 July in the area of Giugliano in Italy, with friends and family desperate to find him.

You can read the rest here. Guarente’s partner is a transgender woman, and she was also Ruggiero’s housemate. She did a facebook video you can see at this link.

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Documentary On Tokyo’s All Male Gay For Pay Brothel; WTF? Gay Men Are Great Babysitters? G-Rated Gay Romance, "Said With Care" By Ryan Field; My Profile Pic

Documentary On Tokyo’s All Male Gay For Pay Brothel

There’s a new documentary out titled, Boys For Sale, that’s focused on a gay for pay brothel in Tokyo. What’s interesting for lack of a better word is the male prostitutes don’t all identify as gay.

“I’m detached,” says one of the men, asked how he can have sex with other men when he identifies as straight. “My mind goes blank.”

Many of these sex workers were homeless or orphaned following natural disasters or personal ill fortune.

Others simply needed money and weren’t dating at the time. 

Here’s the rest. You’re not going to hear many happily ever after stories with this one. It gets into HIV in Japan and trans people, too.

And for those of you who want to judge gay for pay sex, there are plenty of hetero prostitutes as well.

WTF? Gay Men Are Great Babysitters?

Here’s one about some poor, misguided researcher who truly believes that because gay men don’t procreate they make the best babysitters. It’s actually the first time I’ve ever heard this.

“If we consider an ancestral environment, for example,” Jimenez pontificates, “when having kids was very risky, especially multiple kids, having an extra pair of hands definitely would have come in handy.”

He points to the island of Samoa in Polynesia as an example. The culture there recognizes a third gender called fa’afafine. The fa’afafine are assigned a male gender at birth, they are attracted to men, but they exhibit both female and male traits. Jimenez noticed that they tended to take on “uncle-like” roles in families.

Aside from the fact that most of the gay men I know will go out of their way to avoid kids, a lot of gay men are marrying and starting their own families now. Maybe this is a parody piece. I’m not sure. But if it’s not a parody piece someone should tell this poor guy.

Here’s the rest.  

G-Rated Gay Romance, “Said With Care,” By Ryan Field

Most of the books I’ve released this year with Ryan Field Press have not been erotic gay romance novels. They’re G-rated new adult gay romance novels. (New adult means they cover the ages of college years to someone’s 30s, not that it’s adult content…it’s a genre like YA.) And there’s not really a set reason for that, other than the fact that I wanted to do something a little different, and these particular books didn’t need sex scenes in them. That’s hard to explain, but I wanted to clarify this in case anyone was wondering.

With that said, here’s a new release for late summer titled, Said With Care. I won’t give out any spoilers, but there is a HEA ending and I get into a lot more detail with some of the minor characters. One character even has a transgender best friend he meets for lunch all the time.

When Corbin Hadley returns to his family home for the holidays with the young woman he’s planning to marry, he still identifies as straight. The fact that he was seeing a guy at school named Bruce was only a temporary phase. Corbin has no intention of spending the rest of his life as a gay man.

Although Corbin embraces his decisions willingly, he soon discovers his perfect heteronormative family has been keeping a few secrets from him, especially his mom and dad. And when the young woman Corbin is planning to marry accidentally discovers he’s been keeping Bruce a secret from her, Corbin is forced to deal with a few realities he never thought he would have to address.

When he finally learns the truth about his family, will the secrets everyone’s been keeping from him change his life for the better? Or will he risk losing the love of his life because he doesn’t want to face the truth?

Below are links. It will be available in print very soon, and it’s also being distributed on iTunes and most places were digital books are sold, including Kobo. I’ll post a few excerpts, soon.

And… here’s the newest profile photo on the sidebar. It’s really me, and it’s the most recent, taken about a week ago. People are always asking about that and I have to admit that I do fall short in the photo department. But I think that’s because I don’t like being photographed, and also because I don’t think it should matter one way or the other what an author looks like. It’s about the books and the words, not the author’s photo. I’m not an actor and what I look like shouldn’t be important. In any event, that very unprofessional photo really is me, and I will work on this in the future to get a better one. But I do like the gay bear shirt I’m wearing. I got that in Palm Springs at the gay bear store 🙂

Another Questionable Article About the Transgender Ban In the Military

Another Questionable Article About the Transgender Ban In the Military

I’m going to try to keep this short, because I normally don’t write posts in the middle of the day. But this topic is fresh and I’ve seen this article and several others like it circulating all over social media and I wanted to address it in my own post. That’s why I have my own web site to state my opinion and say what I believe to be true. I don’t waste my time arguing and ranting about these things on social media.

The article is titled, Transgender Ban Isn’t Fair, Neither Is War. 

If you know better, the first line is all you need to know about how this article is slanted in one direction.

The ban on transgender service that President Trump reaffirmed was there for eight years under Obama. It was there in his first term and his second term. And the media said nothing.

While this isn’t untrue, the logic is convoluted because there’s been a transgender ban for years, not just under President Obama. It was President Obama who broke that proverbial glass ceiling. It’s true that no one said anything, because the media was not making this top priority. The media, liberal or conservative, still focuses on heteronormative news, not LGBTQ+ news. And for the record, no one talked about trans people. Trans people hid in dark corners on the fringes up until recently just like gays did. That’s a fact and I’d like someone to try to dispute that for me.

In any event, the article goes on to slam Obama with more wet water, and then it says this:

45% of transgender persons in the 18 to 44 age range are suicidal. This is a serious risk for personnel who are around weapons or operating machinery or aircraft. If this were the only issue, it would be enough to justify the medical ban. 

First, what about the rest of the trans people who aren’t suicidal? Should they be banned, too? And there’s a lot of mental illness out there with people who identify as heteronormative. Mental illness is not exclusive to trans people. So I would imagine that it only stands to reason that anyone entering the military should be evaluated by professionals first, and if they are rejected it’s because of a physical or mental illness, not because they are transgender.

Plus, I hate to state the obvious here, but evidently some people need the obvious: who wouldn’t be suicidal if they’re banned from society? Those of you who disagree with me, think about that for a moment. Imagine living YOUR life in a state of constant shame. All you want to do is serve your country and you’re not even allowed to do THAT now.

After this, the article then continues to dispute the Rand report with regard to how much money is spent on trans people in the military, but not very well. In fact, here’s another excellent piece that supports the Rand report…a report that was commissioned by the Pentagon itself that states the medical cost is NOT as bad as Trump is saying. And I checked this in more than one place, and all agree.

The bottom line is that this article is trying to make this about identity politics, and that’s not totally what it’s about. It is to a certain extent, but this isn’t something new. Obama didn’t invent transgender people. Transgender people have been around since the beginning of time only no one ever spoke about them openly. Like gay men and lesbians, they’ve been hiding in shame all this time. A brand of shame that’s been perpetuated by a heteronormative society who had no tolerance for them. J. Edgar Hoover could have been transgender for all we know. There are enough rumors and allegations still circulating about him.

It’s really interesting to see how the article goes on to talk about dysfunction. Do they know that there have been gays in the military since the beginning of time? You just didn’t know about them. Do they even bother to think that there have been transgender people in the military as well? They just didn’t talk about it openly, because they couldn’t talk about it openly. It’s almost laughable to think that there are people who believe that being transgender in the military is something new.

Then there’s this gem:

Once upon a time we understood that we were part of something greater. And that we could not achieve greatness without each other. Identity politics has shredded that sense of aspirational community. It has replaced it with the conviction that we are oppressed by each other.

Yeah, well once upon a time gays hid in the closet in shame or killed themselves, transgenders got the shit kicked out of them, and lesbians were called “old maids.” Thank God that much has changed in the last decade or so. And thank God we’re sick and tired of listening to this same old spin on wet water. Identity politics…if there is such a thing…hasn’t shredded anything. And for the record we have, indeed, been oppressed by each other, especially the LGBTQ+ community. I’m not transgender, but I do know what it’s like to get legally married in the state of Vermont, by a Vermont Supreme Court Justice Beth Robinson, and then drive home from Vermont to the home where we’ve paid taxes for years only to not be recognized as legally married at the time. If that’s not oppression, tell me what oppression is. I’d like to know.

They can spin and twist Trump’s ban on trans people in the military any way they want, but it’s just not holding up anymore. It might have worked ten or twenty years ago. But things are different now. Who doesn’t have an LGBTQ+ relative, neighbor, boss, or uncle? Who doesn’t have someone close to them who is part of the LGBTQ+ community? I’d like to meet you just so I can point out that you only think you don’t know anyone LGBTQ+. Because I would bet anything that you know them, you just don’t know about them…YET.

Maxwell Q. Klinger From MASH and the Transgender Military Ban; Joint Chiefs On Trump’s Military Ban; Trans Healthcare Cost Compared To US Viagra Budget

Maxwell Q. Klinger From MASH and the Transgender Military Ban

Ever since Donald Trump tweeted about the transgender military ban I’ve seen a lot of people joking around about the old TV show character from MASH, Maxwell Q. Klinger. Even though MASH is before my time, I’ve seen old reruns and that character always bothered me…to the point where it’s often difficult to watch the reruns. I know it was meant to be funny, and it was funny for its time. My own mom did her college thesis on the TV show MASH. But the whole point behind that character is that Klinger purposely dressed up in women’s clothing so he could get a discharge from the military, which is actually a good example of what we’ve been fighting for all these years.

The character’s original defining characteristic was his continuous attempts to gain a Section 8 psychiatric discharge from the Army, by habitually wearing women’s clothing and engaging in other “crazy” stunts. His first appearance was in the fourth episode, “Chief Surgeon Who?“; in that episode’s original script, Klinger was an effeminate gay man, but the writers later agreed that it would be more interesting to have Klinger be heterosexual, but wear dresses in an attempt to gain a Section discharge.

You can read more about Klinger here. I’m not knocking MASH or the character. I’m glad there was a Klinger character so that I can reference it now. It was appropriate for its time and the subject matter was accurate. But those aren’t times I’d like to relive, or even joke about now. And I don’t blame our straight allies for joking about it. They’ll never know what it’s like to be banned or kept from something because an entire society considered them mentally ill. You have to live through that to understand the full magnitude of it. And that’s exactly the way gays and trans people were treated in those days.

Joint Chiefs On Trump’s Military Ban

Here’s something that’s at least slightly reassuring. It’s something…for now.

There will be ‘no modifications’ to the US military’s transgender policy, the chairman of the joint chiefs said.

Marine General Joe Dunford had said, in a message to the top military officers, the armed forces will continue to ‘treat all of our personnel with respect’.

Yesterday President Donald Trump announced a ban on transgender people serving ‘in any capacity’.

The Pentagon or senior military officers were not aware of the announcement.

You can check this out here. Frankly, after this, I wouldn’t trust anything from President Trump for the next three or so years he’s in office. I’ve seen people compare this to DADT. Yes, DADT was awful. However, this was worse because this ban means Don’t Tell, Ever. And what’s even worse is that Trump did this after Trans people were allowed into the military. He just took that away from them in 140 characters on Twitter.

Trans Healthcare Cost Compared to US Viagra Budget

I have heard the comments about the cost of healthcare for trans people in weak attempts to make President Trump’s horrible decision look viable, and so far I have seen facts and figures that dispute each one. And here’s another.

Allure, which cites two different studies, one from the New England Journal of Medicine, and another commissioned by the Department of Defense, shows trans health care would cost the military between $2.4 and $8.4 million a year.

This would be 0.0014% of the military’s overall budget.

That is a tenth of the $84 million a year it spends on erectile dysfunction medication, half of which goes directly on Viagra.

There’s more here.

 Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Trump’s Ban On Transgenders In the Military, Costs, and How It Sets Us Back; Trump’s Military Ban and the Mexican Wall; Charlie Sheen Accused of Passing HIV To Gay Lover

Trump’s Ban On Transgenders In the Military, Costs, and How It Sets Us Back

When I was a kid I remember hearing a story told by someone who managed to dodge the draft. And this was years after he dodged the draft. He was still bragging about how he’d done it. From what I recall, he dressed up in drag and he claimed he was a transgender person, because at that time transgender people were not allowed in the military.

In fact, according to this article it wasn’t until 2015 when transgenders were allowed in the military.

The Pentagon announced Monday that it will allow transgender members of the military to serve openly starting next year, marking an end to a long-standing policy that barred them from the armed forces.

That article dates back to 2015, and you can read more here.

With that said, Donald Trump is about to set us all back years with his tweets about banning transgender people from the military, again. Just the sheer arrogance of giving someone something and then taking it back is sickening. And the irony alone is astounding. Men were pretending to be trans years ago to avoid the military…cowards…and now we have brave real trans people who want to serve their country.

President Trump messaged Wednesday that he has decided to bar transgender individuals from serving “in any capacity” in the U.S. armed forces, a policy that could affect thousands of Americans now in uniform and others hoping to serve.

In a decision he disclosed on Twitter, Trump said the military would not “allow or accept” transgender service members, reversing a policy begun by the Obama administration last year. 

You can read the rest of that one here. 

There are also a few misconceptions going around that some people evidently believe to be true. I’ve researched them all and so far everything I can find means that Trump has banned ALL transgender people from the military. And in doing this we’ve all plunged back more than two decades. This is worse than Don’t Ask Don’t Tell. And the arrogance I’ve seen from people who don’t understand the first thing about being a trans person is even more sickening.

Here’s one misconception about how much it costs to have trans people in the military. I’m sure you’ve all heard the argument by now that it costs too much to have trans people in the military, but this article challenges that opinion.

However, an analysis by the Rand Corporation last year found that the costs of allowing transgender people to serve in the military would have a “minimal impact” on the budget, amounting to $2.4 million to $8.4 million each year, or 0.04 percent to 0.13 percent of the military health care budget. That’s little more than a rounding error when compared to the total U.S. military budget of roughly $700 billion.

Trump’s Trans Military Ban and the Mexican Wall

I know I’ve always said I’m not political on this blog, however, I am political about LGBTQ+ issues. Frankly, I don’t care whether or not anyone agrees with me. My fight has always been concentrated on LGBTQ+ issues, and that’s not going to change any time soon. I posted about legalized marriage for years, and now I’m going to post about this ban.

I knew there had to be something political behind all this. There usually is. Don’t Ask Don’t Tell was politically motivated as well.

A Politico report suggests House Republicans planned to pass a spending bill that included the cash necessary to build his proposed and much-ballyhooed wall, but an internal disagreement over trans troops put the future of that bill on shaky ground.

According to insiders, members of the House GOP were afraid they wouldn’t get enough votes because, as Politico reports, “defense hawks wanted a ban on Pentagon-funded sex reassignment operations — something GOP leaders wouldn’t give them.” 

Here’s the rest. 

Charlie Sheen Accused of Passing HIV To Gay Lover

Keep in mind this is all alleged at this point, and it’s coming from a questionable source.

RadarOnline reports that the 51-year-old actor could be facing some serious jail time after being accused of passing HIV to a male partner during sex.

According to the celebrity gossip rag, the man, whose identity is being withheld, was able to trace his infection back to a tryst he had with Sheen. Now, he’s purportedly suing. 

You can check the rest out here. There are a lot of opinions with this topic and you can read some of them in the comments. The main reason I posted about this article was to show you those opinions. Most are valid and worth reading.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Anne R. Allen’s "Controversial" Post About How Writing Fiction Evolves; Beloved Gay Israeli Pop Star Dies; People Are Pissed At the Thought of Prince George Being Gay

Anne R. Allen’s “Controversial” Post About How Writing Fiction Evolves

In the early Internet days, during a time when there were tons of literary agent blogs from which to pick and choose, I read an interesting post by a literary agent about how fiction evolves. In short, she said that a great many of the classic novels we know and love from the past would most likely never be published today because no one would bother to read them. At the time I didn’t quite get that, but I do now. And it’s a topic that always creates controversy from those who have not been published yet.

It’s really not a “controversial” post, but I put that in quotes because so many people seem to want to argue this point.

To put this in a different perspective, writing fiction is a lot like comedy. The jokes that were funny 100 years ago…or even 50 years ago…just aren’t as funny today. Communication and language evolve over time. Everything changes.

In any event, here’s an excerpt from Anne R. Allen’s Post…

Reading the classics of world literature is a great way to educate yourself and learn how the power of words can expand the mind and increase our knowledge of the human condition. We can learn a huge amount from them. All writers need to read the masters.

But it’s not a good idea to imitate them when we write our own books–or assume that reading War and Peace will teach us everything there is to know about writing fiction.

You can read the entire post in full, here. One of the things I’m always conscious of when writing fiction for current markets is the way I add technology. I’m writing about new adults for the most part and if I wasn’t up on current tech advances my characters wouldn’t be very relevant. Of course if you’re writing about senior citizens you might think that’s a different story…but not always. My own mom was 80 years old and she was reading e-books on her iPhone just a few years ago.

Beloved Gay Israeli Pop Star Dies

This is sad news about Amir Fryszer Guttman. I’m not overly familiar with his work, but I remember reading about him a few times while searching for various blog posts.

On Sunday, Guttman was vacationing on the beach in Atlit with his family when his 9-year-old niece began struggling in the water. Guttman dove in to help her. He grabbed the girl and lifted her in the air, letting himself bear the brunt of the waves.

When they were eventually pulled to shore by a group of surfers, the child was fine but Guttman had stopped breathing. He was rushed to a nearby hospital, where he was later pronounced dead due to organ failure. He was 41-years-old. 

There’s more here. RIP.

People Are Pissed At the Thought of Prince George Being Gay

This kind of thing always bothers me, and I see it come from ALL directions. I’ve had reactions to blog posts I’ve written here about the possibility that Richard Burton may or may not have been gay. The instant you even suggest that someone who isn’t supposed to be gay just might be gay certain people go berserk. As if it’s a crime to be gay, or there’s so much shame in being gay. And I find that mindset insulting and stupid. Because there’s NOTHING wrong with being gay.

In the photo, Prince George, who turned four last week, is dressed in a chic red checkered shirt and navy shorts with a slight bend in his knees and his hands on his face. It is perhaps one of the cutest things we’ve ever seen.

But leave it to some internet trolls to ruin it. Shortly after the picture went viral, people began speculating about the child’s sexuality, even cracking jokes about it: 

Here’s the rest.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Straight Man Sexually Assaulted By Older Gay Man; Sam Stanley and a Man 34 Years His Senior; How Newspapers Reported Partial Decriminalization of Gay Sex In 1967

Straight Man Sexually Assaulted By Older Gay Man

This isn’t something we like to hear about, but it happens sometimes.

Five years ago, Byers, who identifies as straight, stopped by a friend’s house for a visit. The friend was an older gay man who he viewed as a father figure. Up until then, 20-year-old Byers and the 60-year-old man enjoyed a plutonic friendship, and he would often turn to him for advice and guidance.

During this particular visit, however, things felt different. As soon as he arrived, the man gave Byers a glass of Bacardi 151 and sat down beside him. They got to chatting. But soon, he started inching his way closer to Byers. 

You can read all about what happened here. Some of the comments are peculiar, though.

Sam Stanley and a Man 34 Years His Senior

I’m always surprised at how so many people find these stories unusual. All of my adult life I have seen older gay men with younger gay men and their relationships have lasted for the long term. In fact, one couple we know where the age difference was about 20 years got legally married the same time we did. And, unfortunately, the younger one just passed away this Christmas after a cancer diagnosis. But they had over 30 wonderful years together and no one even paid attention to the age difference.

Queerty had a chance to chat with the May/December love birds, who currently run a luxury B&B in Sicily called Casa Piccolo Paradiso, about their relationship, the challenges of being in an intergenerational relationship, people’s response to their surprise engagement announcement, and their future wedding plans.

Here’s the full interview.

How Newspapers Reported Partial Decriminalization of Gay Sex In 1967

I think this is timely, given the state our media is in these days.

In the 9 July 1967 weekend edition after the law was first voted on in the House of Commons the News of the World wrote:

‘This week we take our stand against one of the most pernicious measures ever put before Parliament, the Sexual Offences Bill to legalize homosexual acts between consenting male adults in private.’

Here’s the rest.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Sexy Gay Nintendo Bears; DILFs of Disneyland; How Lesbians Helped Fight AIDS

Sexy Gay Nintendo Bears

If you’re into bears…

Yes, the searingly unfunny repartee writes itself when it comes to the work of Argentinean artist Leonardo Gutierrez. He’s obsessed with Nintendo’s Super Smash Bros and compulsively turns out pieces that turn Mario, Luigi, Pikachu and Kirby into brawny, big-bellied bears. 

Here’s the rest. The photos are not too bad.

DILFs of Disneyland

I’m actually a fan of anything Instagram. And I follow all kinds of things. I’ll have to check this one out myself.

Need proof? After nine months of darkness — that’s a decade in dog years! — the DILFs of Disneyland Instagram account is back in action.

Promising the “hottest dads at Disneyland & California Adventure,” the account will make you say “aww” nearly as many times as it makes you say “aww damn.”

There’s more here. 

How Lesbians Helped Fight AIDS

On a much more serious note, this is something that never seems to get as much attention as it should. Now there’s a new book out titled, The Pox Lover, that goes into detail about what it was like to be an activist in the early days of AIDS.

“In my own circle in New York City, lesbians were very involved in AIDS activism and ACT UP,” d’Adesky says. “That was also true wherever I traveled.” Just don’t try to relegate their involvement to the friendly lesbian nurse stationed in the intensive care unit. “We were not simply caretakers. That’s a complete erasure of our contributions. We were equal with the gay men who were moderating the conversation.” 

You can check this one out here. I think it looks like a fascinating book. I don’t remember much myself about that time because I was too young, but I’d like to know more about what it was like back then.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Queen Elizabeth’s Favorite Gay Anthem; Can You Guess the Sexual Orientation Of A Stranger? School Tried To Ban Kid’s Queer Art

Queen Elizabeth’s Favorite Gay Anthem

I don’t think I’ll ever forget the first time I was in a crowded gay nightclub and the ABBA song, Dancing Queen, started to play. I had to hold on to the bar. The entire room went berserk. Everyone ran to the dance floor and threw their arms in the air. Shirts came off; lights began to flicker. I’d never seen anything like it before. And it’s still that way, to this day, each time I’m in a gay nightclub and Dancing Queen starts playing.

Evidently, Queen Elizabeth knows what I’m talking about.

It’s being widely reported that at a dinner party recently, “Dancing Queen” came on after the speeches had been made.

Queen Elizabeth then loudly sated: “I always try to dance when this song comes on, because I am the Queen, and I like to dance.”

Here’s the rest.  

Can You Guess the Sexual Orientation Of A Stranger?

Frankly, I don’t really care about the sexual orientation of a stranger.

But it seems some people do, so there’s this:

That was the challenge presented to a roomful of strangers in a video that’s quickly gone viral, in which participants were asked to wager where each of their peers falls on the sexuality spectrum.

Produced by Watchcut Video, the short film finds all five participants scrambling to assign labels to one another based on their appearance and the answers they offer to a series of rapidfire questions.

You can check this out here. I still don’t get why it’s so important to know the sexual orientation of a stranger.

School Tried to Ban Kid’s Queer Art

It always amazes me when I think about all the wrong things I learned in high school about publishing and writing…all wrong. It wasn’t until I was college that I started to understand how the art of publishing and creative writing actually works. In fact, the amateur level of knowledge I still see in high schools these days when it comes to anything in the arts makes me cringe. So if there’s anyone out there who is in high school and you’re experiencing anything like this, please know that it does get better once you get out of high school.

“After starting my concentration, the school vice principal came to me after my art teacher informed the administration about my ‘potentially sensitive’ concentration subject,” Jasper told Pride. “He said that although he had ‘no problem’ with the LGBTQ theme, there is a ‘time and a place’ for ‘these things’ and that it did not belong in public schools.”

You can check this one out here. In spite of what the vice principal said, the kid went on to be selected in a prestigious college art exhibit. You can also see a few examples of his work. It’s really very good and way too sophisticated for that high school vice principal. And I don’t think this is just about queer art either. I think many talented kids across the board experience this kind of frustration in schools all over the US.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field