Month: June 2017

Bad, Hypocritical, Cheesy Hollywood Managers and Colton Haynes; Gay Congressman Introduces LGBT Pride Act; US Homophobic Killings Last Year;

Bad, Hypocritical, Cheesy Hollywood Managers and Colton Haynes

These things always bother me because these hideous, idiotic, hypocritical Hollywood managers will be the first ones to offer support to the LGBT community in public while in the background they are even more homophobic than the worst in the religious far right. When I read about things like this that happened to Colton Haynes only recently, it makes my blood boil. It’s still happening in homophobic Hollywood, even after all these years. And I feel the sorriest for gay men who don’t have the courage or intellect that Colton Hayes has. They must live horrible lives, thanks to these cheesy cliched Hollywood managers. I know first hand what it’s like to get really bad guidance and advice from greedy publishers and even bad literary agents, but no one, thankfully, ever told me I had to remain in the closet.

In any event, here’s the kind of Hollywood hypocrisy Haynes had to deal with…

‘I was literally told from the day that I moved to Los Angeles that I could not be gay because I wouldn’t work,’ Haynes said this week on the Sirius XM show Andy Cohen Live.

‘Then I was with my management team and a team of people that just literally told me I couldn’t be this way. They tried to set me up with girls.

‘I was rumored to date Lauren Conrad (The Hills) for six months because they were kind of angling a story. And then I dated every other young person which of course I didn’t date.

Haynes, who rose to fame on the MTV drama Teen Wolf, did not try and deceive any of the women he went out on ‘dates’ with. 

You can check this out here. It goes into a lot more detail about the hypocrisy of these Hollywood managers. And don’t for a minute think Colton Haynes is the ONLY one. There are more living the lie as I write this post.

Gay Congressman Introduces LGBT Pride Act

Openly gay Congressman Sean Patrick Maloney of New York recently introduced a bill for LGBT people in a way that no one has done before him.

‘Anti-LGBTQ violence is way too common – it happens when a transwoman of color is gunned down in the street, it happens when a young gay person is bullied into depression or takes his own life.’

Maloney, co-Chair of the Congressional LGBT Equality Caucus, adds: ‘We have to get more information on where this violence is happening and we have to be more aggressive about doing something to stop it – and this bill is a necessary first step.’ 

There’s more here. I’m for anything that helps protect any LGBT person in this regard.

US Homophobic Killings Last Year

According to this article, they aren’t even including what happened at Pulse.

But even if you exclude the victims from 12 June 2016, 28 Americans who identified as LGBTI were killed.

This was up 17% from 24 killed the previous year, and was the highest since 2012 when 25 were murdered.

With Pulse, the number is a staggering 77 people who were killed due to homophobia, biphobia or transphobia.

Here’s the rest. It gets even scarier.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field


It’s World Naked Bike Ride Time Again; A Lot of Babadooks At Pride; Gay Men Who Are Not Identifying As Gay Anymore; Straight Married Father Creeps The Toilets

It’s World Naked Bike Ride Again

There’s something about this one that fascinates me. And if you go to wiki commons where a lot of the photos are free to share legally you’ll find I’m not the only one. There are quite a few photos of previous World Naked Bike Ride events posted over there, without censorship.

The World Naked Bike Ride is a clothing-optional ride that happens every June. Founded in 2004, bikers from all corners of the globe gather to ride together en masse on human-powered transport to “deliver a vision of a cleaner, safer, body-positive world.”

You can check this out here. The photos posted are, of course, SFW on this site. But if you do a search for this over at wiki commons you’ll find the real photos. It’s not sexual either. It’s simply about enjoying nudity in public. There’s a difference. Unless you’ve been to a nude beach it’s not easy to understand this. But after the first ten minutes of being naked in public it’s just like anything else.

A Lot of Babadooks At Pride

I often think that P.T. Barnum was right when I see things like this. I posted about how The Babadook is quickly becoming a “gay icon” last week, and now I’m seeing that people who went to Pride events actually dressed up as The Babadook.

I guess you can get people to do anything if you put the right spin on it. I’ve seen the movie The Babadook. I made a point of seeing it last week after I posted about it. And frankly, I just don’t get all the hype, especially with respect to gay culture. I didn’t see one single thing in that movie that related to being gay, or dealing with gay culture.

Well, judging by some of the looks we witnessed at this year’s Pride festivities, he’s certainly well on his way. On the heels of a slew of new Babadook jokes that have made their way onto the Web this month, several Pride revelers decided to don their very best Babalewks.

Here’s the rest, with photos of people dressing as The Babodook, proving that there certainly were a lot of Babadooks at pride this year, and THEY showed up in many forms.

Gay Men Who Are Not Identifying As Gay Anymore

I don’t have any links to this, but I’m curious about it. Over the weekend I saw people who were genuinely promoting Pride events with their hearts and souls. They passionately believed in what they were doing, they have pride in Pride, and they can’t wait to share their excitement. It was nice to see them celebrating how far we’ve come, without hate or any hidden agendas. It was nice to see the genuine, honest support from the heteronormative community, too.

I also saw people who normally couldn’t care less about Pride events or anything LGBT related posting about it on social media. They do it for different reasons, to get people to think they care because it makes them look good. As disingenuous as that sounds, I get that, too. At least they’re doing something positive even if it doesn’t come from the heart. Some people don’t see anything wrong with exploiting a minority for their own personal gain. Mostly, Hollywood.

But what really surprised me were the posts and comments I saw on social media this week from openly gay men who claim they no longer identify as gay. I saw a lot of them, too. From what I gather it’s for political reasons…although I’m not totally sure about that either. And now I’m wondering if this is going to start trending, too. Especially as the political climate continues to devolve into nothing more than insult for insult. And these are all openly gay men who have always supported equal rights and everything that being gay stood for.

Straight Married Father Creeps the Toilets

Before I get into this, I left my own comment on this article.

  • Ryan Field

    I know it shouldn’t matter whether he’s married to a man or a woman. He’s a creep no matter what. But I think it’s nice to point out these little details now that same sex marriage is legal.

Someone else mentioned this detail in the comments. I hate when they say a guy is married and let us naturally assume he’s married to a woman.

Rant over.

This is creepy…

35-year-old Brent Hachborn says he didn’t mean to cause any trouble when he set up not one, not two, but three different spy cams in the men’s faculty bathroom at the James Hiller School in Ontario. He was only satisfying his latent bisexual urges, his lawyers argued.

The recordings were made between April 2015 and February 2016. Hachborn, a married father of two, was employed as a teacher at the school. Eventually, he was promoted to a vice principal position at a nearby school, but we would return to James Heller often to collect the tapes. 

Here’s the rest. You see what I mean about how they used the word “married,” as if there are no married gay men with two kids. I know it’s a tricky one because it shouldn’t really matter. But somehow it just does.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Abercrombie and Fitch’s Misguided Pride Tweet; Philadelphia Adds New Colors To Pride Flag; Texas Could Lose 2018 NFL Draft Because of Trans Bathroom Debates

Abercrombie and Fitch’s Misguided Pride Tweet

In what appears to be an effort to exploit Pride and sell more rainbow merchandise, Abercrombie and Fitch tweeted out a few things that set off a firestorm on Twitter.

As part of a collaboration with the Trevor Project, Abercrombie and Fitch teamed up for a campaign called Made For Love.

As promotional material, the fashion brand tweeted quotes from employees about Pride, as well as a link to the rainbow merchandise.

One tweet read: ‘”The Pride community is everybody, not just LGBTQ people.” – Kayla, merchandiser.’

People on Twitter did not respond well.

You can check it out here. The A&F tweets have been deleted, but someone took screen shots.

Philadelphia Adds New Colors To Pride Flag

If you didn’t know what all the colors of the pride flag represent, this one is interesting.

The iconic rainbow flag was designed by the late Gilbert Baker in 1978. Originally having eight colors, hot pink and turquoise being removed due to the lack of availability of those dyes, the now-famous flag consists of six colors. Red to represent life, orange to represent healing, yellow to represent sunlight, green to represent nature, indigo to represent harmony, and violet to represent spirit.

But Philadelphia is looking to make the flag have eight colorful stripes again – this time with the addition of black and brown.

There’s more here.  There’s a video, too. I don’t see anything wrong with it, but if you read the comments you’ll see that not everyone agrees.

Texas Could Lose 2018 NFL Draft Because of Trans Bathroom Debates

The transgender bathroom issue is something I’ve seen popping up all over and I don’t think it’s going to disappear any time soon.

Dallas may lose the chance to host the 2018 NFL Draft due to political debates surrounding transgender bathroom laws.

The Dallas Cowboys are among 22 cities pitching to host next year’s Draft, which comes with coveted investments.

But an anti-trans bathroom bill, expected to be debated in July this year, may put the NFL off the Texan city.

There’s more here. 

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Male Celebrity Bulges; Deaf and Gay Dickie Hearts; What Defines A "Jock" On Gay Hook Up Apps?

Male Celebrity Bulges

Here’s one that dates back, but I missed it back then and I think it’s kind of timeless. And, it’s a lot more fun than politics.

In May, Queerty readers voted overwhelmingly for Jon Hamm’s headline-grabbing schlong as the best celebrity bulge, with actor David Henrie’s poolside package coming in second, followed closely behind by Michael Fassbender’s sweatpants surprise.

You can check it out here, with photos. It doesn’t look as if anyone posed for these pics either.

Deaf and Gay Dickie Hearts

Here’s an interview with actor and filmmaker, Dickie Hearts, who has faced his share of challenges in life so far, and he’s done so with pride and tenacity.

Describe your first Pride.

For some reason, most of my Prides are vaguely hard to remember. All (half) kidding aside, I do remember my first L.A. Pride. It was 2011. I had just driven across the country from Virginia to Los Angeles. I was wearing a pink tutu and looking so fabulous that they let me cut the super-long line at the Abbey. I danced with a really hot firefighter guy. It was a great way to settle into the new gayborhood.

The rest is here. I always find it interesting that no one bothers to leave comments on the best articles, like this one. The only time you see comments is when there’s some kind of clickbait, or it’s something argumentative. I guess that’s the nature of the Internet, though.

What Defines A “Jock” On Gay Hookup Apps?

For people who are into hook up apps, here’s something about how the term “jock” is defined. It’s a collection of opinions from people who use hook up apps regularly. Some of them might surprise you.

Here’s one that I never would have imagined:

When you see that word [jock] it means the guy is guy isn’t out. Only my close friends know I am gay but nobody else does. I’ve always used it to let people know I’m not open to everyone. I just like getting BJ’s anyway. Am I doing it the wrong way?

You can check out the rest here.  Some are more literal.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Melissa Rivers on Dad’s Suicide and "13 Reasons Why"; Generic Truvada Approved; Russell Crowe and Nicole Kidman Are Possibles For Gay Conversion Drama

Melissa Rivers on Dad’s Suicide and 13 Reasons Why

I’ve posted about how well received the TV show 13 Reasons Why has been, and that’s not surprising because it’s well done all the way around and the story is captivating. The way they tell the story itself is captivating, however, psychology professionals and people who have had to deal with suicide personally are questioning whether or not it’s actually helping or possibly hurting. Some have been very vocal about this. I’m not qualified to draw any conclusions, however, if I had teenagers I wouldn’t let them watch it. I don’t think it portrays teenagers accurately and there are too many overlooked inconsistencies to make it believable.

With that said, Melissa Rivers whose dad committed suicide when she was only in college spoke about suicide and 13 Reasons Why recently.

How do you feel about “13 Reasons Why,” then?

I know this sounds terrible but I haven’t watched it. I just really don’t want to. Luckily my son has not had any interest in watching it, and I think because we’ve always had an open dialogue about how my father passed and suicide and that it’s not an option, there’s nothing you can’t get through as long as you talk about it. 

You can read the rest of the article here. It gets into more detail about suicide in general, and dealing with it.

Generic Truvada Approved

This should makes things less expensive for people who are taking Truvada, at least I hope so. You never know when it comes to healthcare in the US.

“Yes, the first generic for Truvada has been approved and will now be available in the U.S. Usually, it takes several generics before full cost-savings potential is reached though. Hopefully, this will help to expand PrEP availability for many.”

You can check the rest out here. So far one person left a comment about what it costs him now, and you would be amazed. At least he’s lucky enough to have insurance. A lot of people don’t realize that there are still millions of Americans who opted to pay the fine instead of getting Obamacare. Because the fine is more affordable. And that’s just wrong.

Russell Crowe and Nicole Kidman Are Possibles For Gay Conversion Drama 

I still find it hard to believe that anyone would think gay conversion therapy works. But they are out there and they are still ruining lives.

 Actor-director Joel Edgerton is busy putting plans into place for his next project, Boy Erased.

The drama is based on a memoir of a young gay man, Garrard Conley, who underwent so-called gay conversion therapy.
Deadline reports that Lucas Hedges, last seen in the Oscar-winning Manchester By The Sea, will take the lead role in the movie.

It also says Edgerton is courting fellow Australians Russell Crowe and Nicole Kidman to take supporting roles.

There’s more here. I’ll probably be posting more about this one.  

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Gay Teenager Only Wants Straight Men; First Transgender Deacon Ordained; High School Principal Comes Out As Trans

Gay Teenager Only Wants Straight Men

This is more common than I think most people realize, and not everyone is willing to admit it aloud.

He knows you can’t help who you’re attracted to, and that there’s no accounting for taste.

Still, that’s of little solace to a young teenager who’s distressed that he’s only attracted to straight guys; a classically self-defeating case of wanting what you can’t have.

“I’m always around straight guys,”Marcosoto987 writes on Reddit, “and they drive me insane.”  

You can read more here. I think part of his problem is that he hasn’t found out yet how diverse the gay male community is. In fact, there are many gay men walking around all over and you can’t tell if they’re gay or straight at a glance. He’ll learn.

First Transgender Deacon

I’m linking a lot less to these days because I’d rather read more stories about things like this. I’d rather read positive news about good people than negative nonsense about politics. And frankly, it’s getting hard to find stories like this at It’s all so negative, with looks shaming and body shaming. It’s getting creepy.

But I digress. This is inspirational.

The United Methodist Church has ordained a non-binary trans deacon.

On Sunday (4 June) M Barclay was commissioned by Bishop Sally Dyck at the Northern Illinois Conference.

Barclay, who identifies as neither male nor female and uses they as their pronoun, worked 12 years to achieve this. 

You can check that out here. 

High School Principal Comes Out As Trans

I’ve known a lot of trans people in my life and I always thought it was because I lived in New Hope, PA, where there’s a large LGBTQ presence. Evidently, I was wrong and I’m applauding the fact that we are now seeing transgender people everywhere.

A high school principal in Brookline, Massachusetts, US, has written a letter to parents in which he comes out as transgender.

Asa Cain Sevelius, principal of Heath School in Chestnut Hill, sent the email out on Wednesday evening.

It began: ‘Dear Heath Community, I am writing to all of you to share some powerful news about me. I am transgender.’

The 45-year-old told the Boston Globe that it was becoming obvious that his appearance was changing and he felt it best to say something.

You can read more about this here. There’s a photo, too.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


How The Babadook Became A Gay Icon; Russia’s Putin On Showering With A Gay Man; Nico Tortorella Talks Openly About Uptight People; The Cher Broadway Musical

How The Babadook Became A Gay Icon

If you don’t know anything about The Babadook, you might find this interesting. Evidently, he’s the newest gay icon. I have a feeling you’ll bee seeing a lot more.

Now, a boring heterosexual’s interpretation of The Babadook is that the monster is a devastating manifestation of grief: Even as we learn to survive traumatic loss, it lives on as a part of us. How literal! Meanwhile, gay Twitter and Tumblr advanced a much more elegant theory of the Babadook, which is that he’s a gay man. It all started back in October with this discussion on Tumblr. A true critical tête-à-tête:

There’s a more detailed explanation here. 

Russia’s Putin On Showering With A Gay Man

This supposedly comes from an interview that Putin did with Oliver Stone.

Stone then asked Putin whether he would shower next to a gay man in a submarine.

‘Well, I prefer not to go in the shower with him,’ Putin said.

‘Why provoke him?

‘But you know, I’m a judo master.’

Putin reportedly laughed while giving his answer.

Stone interviewed Putin for his upcoming four-part documentary called the Putin Interviews.

Here’s the rest. It gets even scarier than this.

Nico Tortorella Talks Openly About Uptight People

I’ve only read about Tortorella in articles like this. I don’t watch TV shows like Younger, and I’ve never seen him do anything else. But now I’m curious about him. He certainly seems to be passionate about what he believes to be true. And you can’t really blame him.

‘People are so fucking uptight about love. Love is supposed to be one specific way. You’re supposed to get married and have kids and that’s it – oh, and you’re probably supposed to marry the opposite sex. That just isn’t the case for so many fucking people.’

You can check it all out here.  I agree with him.

The Cher Broadway Musical

This is interesting. It was announced this week that they’ll be doing a musical based on Cher’s life. Evidently, Cher approved it and she’s giving it her blessing. From the way it sounds, it’s going to be along the lines of Jersey Boys, except with a lot of Cher’s music.

Cher is Broadway bound.

Well, the story of her life is – with three actresses playing Cher at different points throughout her life.

The longtime gay icon took to Twitter to confirm the news: ‘Just got off phone w/writer & director of musical. There will [be] performance in theatre with actors, dancers, singers!! It’ll [be] on Broadway 2018.’ 

You can read more about this one here. I think it’s a smart move on Cher’s part. The article doesn’t state whether or not she has any input, but I would imagine they aren’t going to do or say anything Cher doesn’t like.

I can’t help but wonder what the other so-called gay icons are thinking right now, especially The Babadook. 

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field