Month: May 2017

Ending Bisexual Confusion Once and For All; Kathy Griffin’s Depraved Decapitation Fantasy About Trump; Can LGBT Characters Be Punchlines?

Ending Bisexual Confusion Once and For All

I have to give him credit for at least trying to end the confusion.

So what’s the issue?

Convincing people that he’s really, truly bisexual, not gay.

“People just think people will use it for a transition to, ‘Oh, I’m gay,’” Clark explains. “That’s a challenge that I have.”

He continues, “I feel like, for me personally, it doesn’t need that much explaining. If you like dudes, OK that’s what you like. If you like girls, that’s what you like. I just happen to like both. It doesn’t seem like that hard of a concept to grasp to me. That’s what’s annoying.”  

You can read the rest here. I get what he’s saying, and I understand what he’s trying to do. But I’m pretty sure most of this will fall on deaf ears with other people. In any event, I’m glad he’s speaking out about it. It’s time.

Kathy Griffin’s Depraved Decapitation Fantasy About Trump

I thought it was bad enough when Kathy Griffin tried to take over for Joan Rivers on Fashion Police. That didn’t end well, and neither will this latest stunt she’s pulled.

The problem with comedy is that the execution has to be clever, and the comedian has to be smart, otherwise it’s not going to work. So when Kathy Griffin decided to parody a terrorist and decapitate Trump the way she did it says a great deal about her intellect. I haven’t seen this kind of comedy fail since the last time I went to amateur night at a local coffee house and some idiot tried to pull off a joke about child porn. And for the record, I would be saying this about anyone who pretended to decapitate any political figure in the US, Democrat or Republican. Especially when we’re living in times when gays are being pushed off roof tops and innocent journalists are actually being decapitated by terrorists.

And I’m not the only one who never wants to see or hear from Kathy Griffin again. I saw this trending on Twitter earlier and I did not see one single user support what Griffin did. Even the most dedicated Trump anti-Trump people frowned at this, without reservation. This isn’t about politics, this is about human decency.

Like a cat leaving a dead canary at your doorstep, Kathy Griffin has a present for you: Donald Trump’s head.

TMZ shared a photo of Kathy Griffin appearing to hold aloft the decapitated, bleeding skull of Trump by his bloodstained combover. It definitely makes a statement. 

If you haven’t already seen this, you can check it out here. There’s a photo of Griffin holding up a blood soaked replica of Trump’s head by his hair.

What really gets me, and what I don’t understand, is that it’s not as if there aren’t enough Trump jokes. It’s an endless array of comedy material with Trump. So far I don’t think anyone’s put Trump in a Romper. And this is the best Griffin can do?

Can LGBT Characters Be Punchlines?

As a writer I’m always curious about these things, and about how far I can go with my characters. Here’s a short quote from Billy Eichner about dealing with gay characters in comedy.

Saying gay people shouldn’t be the punchline is basically saying don’t make people the punch line, which I think is ridiculous. The whole point of comedy is on some level to make fun of ourselves and put everything into an absurdist context. To me, all facets of life are completely absurd. It’s all about context, and bottom line: Is it funny? You can make a mean joke and it’s fine if it’s funny. If it’s not funny, then it’s just purely mean.”

I have to agree with that one, and in this case I think this quote supports my comments above about Kathy Griffin.

You can check out the source here.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Fred Karger: "An Openly Gay Republican Runs For President"; Christians Help A Gay Teen; NYC Waiter Allegedly Fired For Being HIV Poz

Fred Karger: “An Openly Gay Republican Runs For President”

I’m sure this is still news for most people out there. I’m also sure many didn’t even know that a man named Fred Karger was the first openly gay man to run for President in 2012. I think he started the campaign in 2010. I followed his campaign here on the blog at the time, and I found it fascinating and historic. Historic for obvious reasons, and fascinating because the media all but completely ignored him…especially the LGBT presses. Here’s a link to all of my older posts where I think I followed the most significant stories.

I’m still not totally sure why Karger was so ignored. It was news; it was history. Even though he ran as a Republican, he supported equality, gay marriage, and every other issue we all support. In fact, he’s worked endlessly to fight and expose the most powerful anti-gay marriage groups in the world. He’s been one of the most aggressive activists fighting for equality in recent years. Karger supported gay marriage while every other candidate at the time was still saying they wanted to leave it up to the states. And I haven’t seen Karger exploit or profit from anything he’s done.

In any event, there’s a new video up on YouTube about Karger. It’s a documentary by filmmaker John Fitzgerald Keitel who was with Karger throughout his campaign. You can check that out here. 

Christians Helping A Gay Teen

Here’s something that happened on Reddit. It’s about a gay teen who was questioning his religious convictions, and his conflicts with being gay.

How can God make one of his own people gay? I really do want to believe in God and I have for so long in my life but having this built-in sin, so to speak, has really put a strain on my relationship with God. I am 19 now and am still trying my hardest to believe in God but I feel a shame every time I go to Church because I know I can never get rid of this sin.

After he posted this a lot of people replied in ways you wouldn’t expect. I’m not particularly religious, however, I thought this one was interesting.

 “As a parent of an LGBT kid, I know first hand how badly the religious environment has treated our gay brothers and sisters; and for that I deeply and genuinely apologize,” another person writes. “I have a sneaky suspicion that my LGBT brothers and sisters are going to be at the heart of some of most powerful transformation the church is going to experience over the next few years.”

There’s more here. The world is changing.

NYC Waiter Allegedly Fired For Being HIV Poz

This is one of those legal stories about which I don’t like to speculate, so I’m only linking to the facts as I saw them.

A former server at popular Chelsea restaurant Buddakan claims he was fired for being HIV-positive.

Talking to New York Post, 27-year-old Jack Mountford says he “loved” working at the Asian eatery on 9th Avenue; a popular destination for celebs like Hugh Jackman and Bruce Springsteen.

Mountford, an actor and dancer, started working at Buddakan in February 2013. He quickly rose from server to “closer,” selling expensive bottles of wine and turning over tables.

You can read more about it here. It goes into a lot more detail.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex
In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Gus Kenworthy Strips To His Underwear; Racism Problem In the Gay Community; A Performer In Blackface At A Gay Pride Festival?

Gus Kenworthy Strips To His Underwear

Here’s more about Gus Kenworthy. It’s another excellent example of how he’s always doing wonderful things for other people.

With Pride Month mere days away, online underwear purveyors MeUndies is rolling out a campaign that goes above and beyond the pandering ads sure to be fettering the weeks to come.

Their new “Celebrate” briefs arrive with plenty of fanfare: a campaign starring Olympian Gus Kenworthy, writer B. Scott, and musician Big Freedia,  among others. 

You can check out a few photos here. They’re actually pretty good, and the company is donating $1 to the LA LGBT Center.

Racism Problem In the Gay Community

There was a poll taken about racism in the gay community and the results are a little shocking.

The survey found that 80% of black men, 79% of Asian men, 75% of South Asian men, 64% of mixed race men, and 100% of Arab men have experienced some form of racism in the LGBTI community. Whether it be getting called racial slurs on dating apps or just feeling ignored by others in the community, the vast majority of gay men of color have seen these issues first hand.

You can read the rest here. The hook up apps sound as if they are the worst places. And, someone who once dated that Milo Y guy made a few comments you’ll find interesting.

A Performer In Blackface At A Gay Pride Festival?

When I’ve ranted about the way straight actors in Hollywood portray gay characters in gayface, I have often said that if any other race were treated the same way gay men are treated there would be huge uproars. But I never thought I’d see the day it would happen in RL, and that a gay person would actually do something like this at a gay pride event.

I think it’s wrong.

The United Kingdom’s Durham Pride festival is facing backlash after booking a white Beyonce impersonator to perform.

Leanne Harper is a white performance artist who applies dark makeup to her face in order to look more like Beyonce.

You can check out more here. There’s a photo. Now if we could only get this kind backlash when Hollywood does this to gay men in films and TV shows we might take another step forward toward full equality.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Does Gay Erotica Have a Bad Name? Luxembourg’s Openly Gay First Husband; Online Gay Cruising Before Grindr

Does Gay Erotica Have A Bad Name?

Sometimes I see people who claim to be authors of gay erotica post excerpts on social media from their books. I blink and cringe in most cases, especially when I see poorly written words and phrases like, “tight rosebud,” and “the burrs of his voice fuzzed with sleep.” Then there’s, “thrust of a too-large weapon.” I could go on, but I’d rather not. Some of it is too painful to repeat, because they aren’t joking around. These alleged authors are serious, and in most cases proud of themselves.

So when I noticed that this article talks about how poorly gay erotica is written in so many cases, I finally found some validation to post something about it.

Perhaps the vast majority of erotica is just too poorly written to elicit anything but a chuckle. As a reader, you’re jerked out of the material at every mention of a “man-scabbard” or “throbbing flesh-sheath.” 

I’ve written a lot of gay erotica in my time and I’ve even mentioned this in my novels with characters…where my characters laugh and joke during their own sex scenes about bad gay erotica. I did it quite a bit in The Virgin Billionaire series with Jase and Luis. I’m sure I’ve made a few mistakes in my time as a writer, however, I can tell you for certain I have never, ever used words like “puckered rosebud, man slit, thrusting ram rod, or mystic horn,” unless I was clearly going for a laugh. And I never will.

With that said, this whole piece is about erotica that IS NOT poorly written. It’s a video game about gay erotica, intended for gay men.

Sharp, well-written, and peppered with witty Joss Whedon-like dialogue, the game features characters that are well-rounded and believably goofy — and that somehow winds up making their sex scenes that much more, erm, engrossing once they finally materialize. 

You can check this out here. I don’t know much about the game itself, but it looks interesting. They go into a more detailed description.  

Luxembourg’s Openly Gay First Husband

For some reason I don’t understand, we never see anything about the openly gay First Gentleman in Luxembourg.

As the wives and partners of world leaders – including Melania Trump, Brigitte Macron and Queen Mathilde of Belgium – gathered for a group photo opportunity, they were joined by Luxembourg’s ‘first gentleman’ Gauthier Destenay

Destenay is the partner of Xavier Bettel, the Prime Minister of Luxembourg. The men married in 2015 after marriage equality was passed in the country. 

You can read more here, and there are photos. It’s interesting to note that he’s not only the only gay man in the photos…he’s the ONLY man there.

And, as someone in the comments pointed out, why is First Husband in quotes in the headline? That was my first thought, too.

Online Gay Cruising Before Grindr

Here’s an article that reflects on what life was like for gay men cruising the web pre-Grindr.

“For gay men, the birth of online chat rooms changed everything,” Blum reflects in his new think-piece Cruising Online Was Actually Fun Before Grindr Ruined Everything. “The gay-friendliness of your hometown didn’t matter; all that mattered was that you had a stable dial-up connection and access to a keyboard.”

You can check this out here.   It will take you back to a more innocent time.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


The Magical Fairytale Bromance Photos Of Trudeau and Macron; Hot Naked Male Model Demonstrates His Ball Sack Dryer; Blind Gay Guys Reveal How They Knew They Were Gay

The Magical Fairytale Bromance Photos Of Trudeau and Macron

The two leaders met for what seems to be one of the most well-planned photo ops of the year, and the bromance crowd is eating it up like candy.

We feel a bromance coming on.

39-year-old French President Emmanuel Macron and 46-year-old Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau met in Taormina, Sicily, at the G7 summit yesterday and it was absolutely magical.

The two men, who are currently competing for the unofficial title of Sexiest World Leader, leisurely strolled through colorful Sicilian gardens whilst chatting about important world matters and looking incredibly hot. 

You can check out the photos here. I don’t know anything about either of them. I just find the whole fascination with “bromance” fascinating. I also wonder if they would be objectifying two women leaders this way. Because it’s okay to do it to men now.

Hot Naked Male Model Demonstrates His Ball Sack Blow Dryer

Here’s something new in the tech world for guys who aren’t satisfied just towel drying their nuts. It’s actually some kind of device that blow dries a guy’s ball sack until it’s silky smooth dry.

Wonderful things they can do nowadays.

The latest episode of Conan introduces us to the latest in cutting-edge technology: The indispensable “Dyson Ballblade.” 

You can check this out here, and there’s a demonstration video, too. I’m not sure about the name, though… “The Ballblade.”

Blind Gay Guys Reveal How They Knew They Were Gay

I never thought about this much, and I think that’s because it never occurred to me that people might assume that being gay is a visual thing. Pay attention. Being gay includes all the senses, including that 6th sense we rarely ever hear discussed.

Reddit user RedzandBluez explains, “When I was 11 or 12, I didn’t really understand the difference between boys and girls. To me, they were the same except that men turned me on and women didn’t.”
“I did not know about body parts (breasts, vagina, penis, etc.) and yet, I was attracted to my same sex. Because of my unique situation, I can tell you that being gay is not a choice.”

He adds: “When I meet someone, what I go by is their voice, their smell, their kindness, and their willingness to help me when needed.” 

You can read more about this here. I kind of feel sorry for blind gay people now. I think it’s a shame this even has to be discussed, especially after reading the comments. No one ever asked a straight blind person how they knew they were straight…as far as I know.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


ABC "Dirty Dancing" Remake Reviews; John Barrowman Written Out of "Arrow;" Trans Author Thinks Being A Gay Man Is A"Consolation Prize Because They Couldn’t Be Women"

ABC Dirty Dancing Remake Reviews

When I wrote my gay parody novel, Dancing Dirty, back in 2009, the one thing I never wanted to do was try to compete with the original. It was a parody…with too much gay sex…and an erotic gay romance that has a happy ending. I even set my version in the 1970s with campy disco clothes and music for a specific reason. I wanted it to be a fun story, with a lot of camp and kitsch, the same way SNL parodies similar situations every single Saturday night.

I’m afraid I can’t say the same about the Dirty Dancing remake that was on TV the other night. Evidently, from the reviews I’ve been reading, I’m not the only one. Twitter went berserk with baby in the corner tweets. This is from Rolling Stone.

So how do you re-create that magic? The short answer is: You don’t. The long, much more painful answer is: You wait 30 years, you throw together a three-hour-long remake, and you put it on ABC – and then after even a cursory check of Twitter, you realize that you should not have even attempted it. This is one Baby that should have stayed in the corner.

You can read the rest here.  I should also add that I don’t think the remake was a reflection on the actors. They were fine.

John Barrowman Written Out of Arrow

I’ve posted a lot about John Barrowman here on the blog over the last few years, and he’s one of those people I wish I would run into by accident at Ralf’s when I’m out in our rental condo in Palm Springs. And trust me I have never been starstruck. But I love everything he does, and I love the way he handles himself on social media. He treats his fans with more respect and dignity than any other celebrity out there. I’ve never seen him insult his fan base with political rants. In fact, I’ve never seen him do anything where he didn’t put his entire heart into it. So this is discouraging news.

John Barrowman took to Instagram late Thursday (24 May) to talk to fans about his deliciously evil character of Malcolm Merlyn being killed off of Arrow.

‘By now you know that Malcolm Merlyn is no more,’ he began.

‘I know they’ve done it off-camera but I’m here to tell you I won’t be coming back next season. I want you to know how wonderful it has been for the last five years to be part of the Arrow universe and all the shows connected to it.’ 

You can read the rest here. I’ve checked out his Facebook video announcement and his fans are not happy about this. There are over 1,000 comments of support…including me.

Trans Author Thinks Being A Gay Man Is A “Consolation Prize Because They Couldn’t Be Women” 

I can’t help thinking this is one of those publicity stunts unheard of authors often use when they want to get attention for a book. I’ve seen it happen too many times. But I could be wrong. That’s been known to happen, too.

‘When I realized I fancied guys I thought, “Oh, I know what that is, there’s a word for when a boy fancies other boys. I must be a gay guy”,’ she said.

She now sees her life as a gay man as a ‘personal misdiagnosis’ and says, ‘I think that there are a lot of gay men in the world who had the same personal misdiagnosis, because we didn’t have the information that we have now.

‘I think there are a lot of gay men out there who are gay men as a consolation prize because they couldn’t be women. That was certainly true of me.’

You can read the rest of this here. There has been backlash. It’s not something I would ever say about Trans people…or anyone.

Kendle’s Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Memorial Day Weekend New Release: Kendle’s Fire; Straight Guy’s "Sense 8" Homophobic Rant; Taiwan Legalizes Gay Marriage; Hot, Shirtless Naval Academy Plebes

Memorial Day Weekend New Release: Kendle’s Fire

Here’s my latest release, Kendle’s Fire, that can be found in most places where e-books are sold, and you can get it in paperback on Amazon. It’s not an erotic romance, but it is a sexy pg-rated romance, and I get into a few issues dealing with masculinity and how men are expected to act and behave at all times. That’s actually a huge part of the storyline, and for the main character, Kendle, it’s a huge part of his life.

Even though Kendle is an openly gay ex-Marine, he’s been questioning his masculinity all of his life. He’s always been what people expect a man to be, in spite of the fact that he’s never been completely comfortable living up to these expectations.

He also has a few secrets. The kind of secrets a man can only talk about with the most intimate people in his life. One of those people is his best friend and part time lover, Dale. And their relationship is not without a few unusual quirks and ironies either, especially when it comes to the way Kendle explains his relationship with Dale to his own parents. 

After a string of bad career decisions and awkward mistakes, it’s not until Kendle meets a young guy named Walter that his life begins to come together. It’s a journey filled with as much joy as heartbreak, with a few bittersweet twists in between. As Kendle opens himself up to new possibilities, he finds himself in the midst of life altering changes that leave him devastated. And there’s a point where he’s not sure he can get through any of it.

Here’s the Amazon link And  huge thanks to my cover artist who nailed it this time.

Straight Guy’s “Sense 8” Homophobic Rant

I’ve posted about gay content in “Sense 8” before, and about the male full frontal nudity. I’m still watching it and I haven’t finished season 2. I like the show because of the music, content, and the characters. They lose me sometimes with the story, but I always catch up at one point or another. And it really is the first TV show I can remember where a real trans person play a trans character. It also gets into closeted actors who are terrified to come out. There’s really nothing bad I can say about it.

With that said, a straight guy doesn’t seem to agree with me.

No, in real life not almost every single person is either a tra*ny, gay or the like. In fact I haven’t even met a single gay person in my life because guess what, they are actually quite rare.

I am currently watching season 2 and it feels like the entire show is revolving around the sexuality of lito at this point. It starts getting annoying quite frankly, which is a shame because the concept of the show is interesting.

No I am not homophobic by the way, but the sheer volume of content related to one sexual preference or another is getting very boring.

That’s a very typical comment coming from someone who has always had the privilege of being able to identify with heteronormative characters on TV shows. If you’re gay, you don’t get that privilege very often.

You can read the rest here.

Taiwan Legalizes Gay Marriage

If you don’t know about this, please check it out. Just because gay marriage is now legal in the US doesn’t mean LGBT people in other countries are getting the same equal rights.

Taiwan will become the first place in Asia to legalize same-sex unions.

The highest court ruled laws that prevent same-sex couples from marrying are unconstitutional and a direct violation to a person’s right to equality.

Here’s the link. You can also read some of the tweets people wrote.

Hot, Shirtless Naval Academy Plebes

If you can’t take at least a moment to stop and smell the flowers, at least take a moment to admire these shirtless, oiled Naval Academy Plebes. I don’t think you’ll be disappointed, it’s SFW, and it’s all in good fun. The plebes look as if they’re having a blast.

Hundreds of hot, sweaty Naval Academy plebes lathered in oil worked together to scale a 21-foot obelisk yesterday.

The annual tradition happens in mid-May at the United States Naval Academy. Freshman students can’t begin their summer until they’ve taken off their shirts, climbed the slicked down edifice whilst being sprayed by a giant hose, and replaced the underclassman’s “dixie cup” hat at the top of the monument. 

You can read more here, and you’ll want to spend a few minutes checking out the photos. All innuendo aside, it really is some fantastic photography.

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field