Month: December 2015

Anti-Gay Bakers Read Mean Tweets and Mean Tweet Fail; The Guys of Coitus Magazine; Eddie Redmayne As Trans Ally

Anti-Gay Bakers Read Mean Tweets

I’m not even sure I know what to say about this. I do think I’m quite possibly the ONLY gay blogger who isn’t using bad sarcasm to put my own spin on this story and using it to my own advantage. So I’ll remain totally objective this time and I hope I’ll present this story to you with an unbiased post.

The bakers who were fined six figures for refusing to make a wedding cake for a same sex couple did a video where they read a few of the vicious comments they’ve received on social media from the LGBT community.

I can’t give you a direct excerpt from anyone because they are all so biased. And the sarcasm is so poorly executed.

You can view the video here. 

The comments are interesting.

Side note: Speaking in general, last night I came across a youtube video that a mainstream romance author and her husband did…with this mean tweet theme. They sat at their dining room table commenting on mean Facebook comments and tweets people had left for the woman author on social media and it really came off looking big time dumb. I’ve never read her books, and she might write good romances, but she’s not clever enough or funny enough to pull off the kind of sarcasm you need when replying to nasty comments on social media. Actually, it comes off looking more like big time author butthurt. So if anyone’s thinking about doing something “cute” like this, you may want to rethink that a few times. You might wind up proving the nasty comments right instead of wrong 🙂 

The Guys of Coitus Magazine

This reminds me of a book review I read a few years ago. A popular romance book review blog that’s known for slamming authentic books written by gay men gave a five star review to a gay romance book written by a woman, and in that book she referred to the two gay male characters as sharing “coitus.” …Because they were so deeply in love. The straight women readers loved it, and gay men were left wondering WTF is coitus? Do you fry it up in a pan with brown sugar and butter?

As a gay man, that would never even occur to me. What gay men, ever, shared “coitus?” But then again, I was writing gay fiction for years for gay publishers before I started writing m/m romance and straight people started telling me I was doing it all wrong…even though I’m gay.

Coitus is basically sexual intercourse…the “union of male and female genitalia.” At least that’s how it’s defined in the places where I’ve looked it up. In other words, I have never known two gay men who shared “coitus.” At least not in the traditional sense, and without a huge dose of vicious sarcasm.

In any event, it seems there’s a magazine called “Coitus” and they have photos of hot men. That’s all I know.

Beards, lumberjacks and scruff have been having something of a moment in 2015, but let’s not forget about the slender, youthful lads that never seem to stop coming of age.

You can check them out here. And here’s a link to the about page of Coitus Magazine.

One person in the comments seems as confused as I am about the word “coitus.”

Eddie Redmayne As Trans Ally

I’m dying to see The Danish Girl, starring Eddie Redmayne, where he plays a trans person. Aside from that, he recently made a statement where he says he hopes to become an ally to the trans community.

It’s been 15 years in the making and has come out at time when there has been such a shift in these issues coming to the mainstream.

The story is so beautiful and the people from the trans community I met in preparing for the part were incredibly generous. It has been a privilege and, while not in any way talking for the community, I’m trying to learn to be an ally.”

You can check that out here.

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Glee’s Mark Salling and Child Porn; The PC Police and Gay Passwords; Chelsea Manning Throws Shade At Caitlyn Jenner

Glee’s Mark Salling and Child Porn

I never watched Glee so I don’t know who Mark Salling is, however, this has been making news all week. I’ve seen him but never paid much attention.

Glee actor Mark Salling has been arrested for child pornography, TMZ reports.
The site reports that the LAPD’s Internet Crimes Against Children Task Force obtained a search warrant for his Sunland home on Tuesday (December 29) and found hundreds of images on the 33-year-old actor’s computer.
The PC Police and Gay Passwords
There is a romance author…not a m/m romance author; this one is mainstream romance…who posts the most PC nonsense on Twitter I have ever seen. She has this demure Cheshire cat Avi, she seems to know EVERYTHING, and she’s usually protected by a bunch of other minion PC officers. If you dare to even joke about anything they go on the attack faster than you can tweet about kittens. 
So this article made me smile. It’s about how “offended” PC straight people get when they see gay passwords that aren’t PC enough.
But the headache persists for one UK woman, who was outraged when she arrived at her elderly mother’s house for Christmas and discovered Virgin Media had set her up with an easier-to-remember, albeit potentially-offensive, password.

“Completely disgusted that my elderly mother has her Virgin wifi installed with THIS as her password?!” the woman tweeted with a photo of the password “gayfkers.”

Seems more profane than offensive to us, but it still might be a bit much for dear old gran.
You can read the rest here. The opinions vary, but many seem to think the reaction was exaggerated. 
I have been through this time and again with the PC police with regard to my own books…and I’M GAY.
Chelsea Manning Throws Shade At Caitlyn Jenner
I have a feeling Chelsea Manning is doing the clickbait thing here…trying to get much needed attention. I could be wrong, but only time will tell. The fact is that Caitlyn Jenner is a hot commodity right now and she gets attention without even trying very hard. 

In a tweet dated December 25, the transgender prisoner went on a tirade about Caitlyn Jenner, writing, “In 2015 @Caitlyn_Jenner ws the grinch who stole (& sold out) the trans movement. All I want 4 Xmas is Universal Trans Lib. #ChristmasEve2015”:

You can read more here about Manning and prison. There’s also a mention of Britt Midler’s nasty tweet about Caitlyn.  I didn’t even know Britt was going after Jenner. She should stick to singing Christmas songs.

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Porn Star Mario Romo Arrested; Alleged Hate Beating On Christmas; Indiana Gay Bar To Close

Porn Star Mario Romo Arrested

It looks as if another male porn star is going through difficult times. This one could be right out of a Tennessee Williams play.

Mario Romo, who got his start in the adult film industry as Sean Cody‘s “Francisco” in 2010 (and whose legal name is David Meza), has been indicted on multiple charges and stands accused of tricking a wealthy Texas man into a relationship, convincing him to name Meza as his legal heir, then murdering him.

In case you think this is unique, think again. I’ve been hearing these stories in the gay community for years. Of course there’s always an exception to the rule, but generally speaking whenever you see a twenty-something year old gay guy with a sixty, seventy, or eighty year old, you can almost be certain it’s not about heartfelt love and m/m romance. You’re just hearing these stories now because they’re being reported more often.

True story. I remember this young guy we knew from NY who was dating an older gay guy from New Jersey. At the time they met, the older guy had inherited a huge sum of money.  Of course then he invested all the money in bad dot com stocks, lost it all when the market crashed, and the young guy left him faster than you can tweet an inspirational quote about kittens. Some people were actually surprised the young guy left the older guy when he had a reversal of fortune.  

You can read the rest here. 

Alleged Hate Beating On Christmas

A guy in Virginia is alleging he was beaten in his home on Christmas night, “savagely.”

“I was thrown into my bathtub, and stomped in the face and jaw over and over while being called a ‘faggot,’” Inge wrote on Facebook.

He said the attacker, a man he barely knew, tackled him from behind and “slammed my fingers on my right hand into the door, breaking them and ripping them open.”

According to the comments, this one sounds suspicious. And Facebook is involved, which can make anything questionable. Facebook jokes are like crooked attorney jokes. They’re all true.  There’s more here, and I’ll follow up if I see anything else.

Indiana Gay Bar To Close

I have to admit that anything west of Philadelphia and east of Los Angeles is foreign territory to me, however, here’s yet another gay bar in Indiana that’s set to shutter like so many others. 

The narrow, pink-fronted Main Street bar with its dark-wood-paneled interior, currently billed as the oldest operating gay bar in Indiana, has seen a lot of history, from the days of bricks hurled through the front window to the legalization of same-sex marriage.

After Dec. 31, the Mark III Tap Room’s chapter in that history will close — at least for now.

It’s a long article and gives a little history about the bar, and also a few reasons for why it might be closing. However, with so many other gay bars closing all over the world, you can’t help but wonder if this is just another sign we’re seeing the final days of the gay bar in general.

Here’s the link. 

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When Her boyfriend Is Gay; Being Gay In 2015; No One Likes A Faggot

When Her Boyfriend Is Gay

Here’s an interesting post…about how straight women react when they find out their boyfriends are gay.

Each meme/person, in this case, has a different reaction. This one kind of gutted me.

My boy friend just told me he was gay. I wish he would have told me before I fell in love with him. 

You can check out the rest of the memes here. Some are more uplifting. But the one above really tugs at the heart strings.


Being Gay In 2015

Here’s a glance back over this past year about what it was like to be gay, and how various events unfolded. I think the most significant was the way SCOTUS ruled.

Everyone will long remember the Supreme Court decision granting marriage equality. But it’s easy to forget the equally important string of favorable decisions that led up to that ruling and the favorable decisions that followed. Court after court struck down state bans on same-sex marriage, often in eloquent language defending our rights. Nor did it stop there. As a sign of how serious the courts are, Kim Davis, America’s least beloved county clerk, was thrown in jail for contempt of court for refusing to issue same-sex couples marriage licenses. Nor has it stopped there. Just this month, the Supreme Court stopped an Alabama court from denying parental rights to a lesbian, signalling that the marriage case may lead to stronger protections for gay parents.

The rest of the article goes on to talk about other things, for example, will gay identity mean as much as it used to mean now that marriage is legal. There’s a link to another article there that focuses on the topic. It sounds like an argument I’ve heard many times before from older gay men about how gay culture will begin to disappear as more LGBT people…particularly gay men…assimilate into mainstream culture.
 
“People are missing a sense of community, a sense of sharing,” Eric Marcus, the author of “Making Gay History,” told the paper. “There is something wonderful about being part of an oppressed community.”

I think we’re caught somewhere in the middle, and I think it’s too soon to predict the outcome. There’s still a lot of work to do, but we did win equal rights in one of the most fundamental fights (if not the most) of our time: marriage. So when gay men do assimilate into the mainstream I’m not so sure that is such a bad thing anymore.

You can read this article here, and the other at the link above. There are a lot of interesting comments with varying opinions, which once again proves how diverse the gay community really is.

No One Likes A Faggot

Now this is definitely the kind of story that puts the old days of being gay and being oppressed into a different perspective. There’s absolutely nothing wonderful about it. It’s still happening, but not quite as often. 

It’s a story about a guy who was in such denial…and living with such fear…about being gay he had sex with another guy, and then what he did afterward is just gut-wrenching.

He reached out to me and told me he loved me. And I spit in his face.

I called him names like “faggot” and “queer.” I told him I wasn’t like him and never wanted to be. I said that I’d tell everyone he was lying and that he’d told me about being gay and I’d rejected him. I told him to leave and never come back.

You can read the entire story here. It’s well-written and it’s a subject I know happens and yet we never hear much about. But I do think kids in high school are dealing with this a little differently nowadays, at least compared to ten or twenty years ago. From what I see with my own nieces and nephews they don’t even care if you’re gay anymore.

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Ted Cruz On Gay Marriage; Gay Superheros/Comic Books; Former Marshall University Football Player and Gay Rights Case

Ted Cruz On Gay Marriage

I see a great many questionable things on social media about all of the political candidates running for President and when I see an article that looks real and looks valid I jump on it. Because MOST of what I see is either hype or propaganda. This looks real.

As far as I know, this is verbatim:

Cruz: “My view on gay marriage is that I’m a constitutionalist and marriage is a question for the states. And so I think if someone wants to change the marriage laws of their state, the way to do so is convince your fellow citizens — and change them democratically, rather than five unelected judges. … Being a constitutionalist is integral to my approach to every other issue. So that I’m very devoted to.”

Same questioner: “So would you say it’s like a top-three priority for you — fighting gay marriage?”

Cruz: “No. I would say defending the Constitution is a top priority. And that cuts across the whole spectrum — whether it’s defending [the] First Amendment, defending religious liberty, stopping courts from making public policy issues that are left to the people. …

“I also think the 10th Amendment of the Constitution cuts across a whole lot of issues and can bring people together. People of New York may well resolve the marriage question differently than the people of Florida or Texas or Ohio. … That’s why we have 50 states — to allow a diversity of views. And so that is a core commitment.”

Of course we all know that when Judge Jones ruled that a ban on gay marriage was unconstitutional, he basically legalized same sex marriage in the state of Pennsylvania. So far that decision in Pennsylvania has been fought and argued in the courts, particularly by one right wing Christian evangelist clerk, and a ban on gay marriage has been shot down each time as being unconstitutional. So all you need to know is there’s an argument about what’s constitutional or not.  It never was a simple matter.

There’s more here. The good news is that same sex marriage doesn’t even seem to be an issue anymore with any of these candidates in the upcoming general election. I think I’ve heard it mentioned once in the debates.

Gay Superheros

Here’s an article about how it’s becoming more and more popular to find LGBT characters in comic books.

In October, Alysia Yeoh, a transgender friend of Batgirl, and her girlfriend Jo were married in a simple ceremony unmarred by super-villainy; Peter Parker, perhaps better known as Spider-Man, attended the wedding of Max Modell, his scientific mentor and gay colleague; and Wiccan and Hulkling, a superpowered gay couple, joined a division of the Avengers along with Hawkeye and Songbird. In August, Wonder Woman officiated a lesbian wedding, and since June, fans have been treated to the monthly adventures of Midnighter, who is out about his heroic identity and his sexual orientation. That month also saw the first issue of “Stripling Warrior,” which features superheroes that are gay and lesbian — and Mormon.

It’s a good article, here’s the link. 

From what I gather all you need to know with this one is that the industry is realizing that in order to keep up with the times, and reader demand, they’re keeping the story lines relevant by incorporating LGBT characters into mainstream comics. Which will probably happen in mainstream fiction, too.

Former Marshall University Football Player and Gay Rights Case

The West Virginia Supreme Court is being asked if a former Marshall University football player can be charged with violating the civil rights of two gay men he is accused of assaulting after he saw them kissing on a city street.

The accused is 24 years old, he’s pleading not guilty, and the complaint alleges he jumped out of a car and punched them both in the face. Allegedly, there’s a video.

Here’s a link to the rest.  

There’s a also a photo of the accused, and a few comments.

It’s a shame…in general. He’s a nice looking man.

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Here’s a link to Amazon where the Rainbow Detective Agency books are listed. 

"Ticker" On Facebook; Gus Kenworthy’s Christmas Card; The Coolest Gayborhood

“Ticker” On Facebook

When I post things like this I only refer to me. I also think Facebook is a great  form of social media but not one  to be taken too seriously for anything other than social interaction. In other words it’s great for selfies and what you had for dinner…which is what it was intended to be.

I never really paid much attention to the “ticker” thing on Facebook that shows you what everyone is posting, liking, or commenting about. I’m usually too busy to care what other people are doing. What I see in my news feed on Facebook is what Facebook decides to show me on any given day. 

I never post anything political or offensive because I’m not all that political to begin with. If I see someone who is too political for my tastes…and it could be right wing or left wing…I usually stop following their updates. I enjoy interacting with social media friends and I think it’s important to respect their opinions. But when they become too aggressive I back off completely.

With that said, I think learning how to use social media in a general sense is important. We lose a lot of privacy and sometimes things get misinterpreted. The other night I “liked” an update on Facebook that was political, however, I wasn’t agreeing with the update I was “liking” so that my friend would see I’d been there. I didn’t even take it very seriously, and about three minutes later a woman I don’t even known sent me a PM asking me if I know what I just clicked “like” to.

I responded by politely telling her I don’t discuss politics on social media with anyone. It’s rule I don’t break. Yet she responded with a more aggressive PM about how I should know what I’m clicking “like” to. I warned her I don’t discuss politics and I blocked her right after that. There’s no point in going to battle with someone like that. It’s a waste of time. And then I started to wonder how she even knew I clicked “like” to that particular update.

It had to be the “ticker” feature on Facebook that’s running constantly all day long and stealing more of our privacy. I don’t really care all that much about it, but I did a quick search to see if I could turn it off so no one knows what I “like” or comment on. I found out that’s not possible…yet. So from now on I’ve decided to just click “like” to everything I see, randomly. I figure that if I do that I’ll confuse Facebook so much they won’t know what to think.

However, if you do care what people see, beware of the “ticker” feature on Facebook. There’s always someone out there somewhere spying on you and this feature only makes it easier for them.

Gus Kenworthy’s Christmas Card

This is adorable. But anything this guy does is adorable.

 It’s that time of year. We’re out shopping for gifts for our loved ones, singing Christmas carols, getting Santa aroused. Well, that last one’s true if you’re on the Queerty staff  Gus Kenworthy. The puppy-rescuing, Olympic medal-winning silver fox did his fans a solid this year with a photo taken on the lap of lucky Ole Kris Kringle. Note Kenworthy’s cheeky caption: “Sit on my lap and let’s talk about the first thing that pops up.” That’s not a candy cane, folks.

You can check that out here. 

That’s one lucky Santa.  

The Coolest Gayborhood


Here’s one of those voting contest things where you can vote on which city has the coolest gayborhood. I know many of you out there reading this blog are rolling your eyes because you probably don’t live in a gayborhood. Many gay men I know personally prefer NOT to live in, or even near, a gayborhood.  And, these places area also referred to as “gay ghettos.” I’m not sure if that’s PC or not to say, but I honestly don’t care about being PC too much anymore.

Gayborhoods don’t necessarily need rainbow-painted sidewalks to grab our attention. LGBT folks have always gravitated to the coolest parts in town, but now we need your help to find which city has the hippest gayborhood.

Here’s how you can vote. 

What I’m always wondering is how long these gayborhoods are going to stick around. In other words, will they wind up disappearing like the gay bars have in many places as younger gay men assimilate more?

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14th Gay Attack In Dallas; Gay History of Christmas; Yawn: The War On Christmas

14th Gay Attack In Dallas

They are calling a series of violent attacks in Dallas gay related.

The unnamed victim is believed to be the fourteenth in a series of robberies and brutal attacks targeting gay men in the area, where more than a dozen gay bars are located, since September.

Dallas police Assistant Chief Randall Blankenbaker told WFAA news that the victim was knocked to the ground, kicked and had his belongings taken from him during the attack around 10.30pm in the parking lot behind the Round-Up Saloon, a gay bar.

‘At least one of the suspects used offensive language in reference to the victim’s perceived sexual orientation,’ the police spokesman said.

It says police are referring to this as a “bias crime,” which is a hate crime. You can read more here. 

Gay History of Christmas

This has nothing at all to do with gay history…or even modern gay culture…as we know it. But it is a fascinating article about Saturnalia during Roman times.

Midwinter; fires are crackling, the home smells sharp of evergreen, candles flicker, glass glitters, the table sags. Drink flows like rivers and you and your partner snuggle up on a couch to shag and booze the holiday away.

But this isn’t Christmas: it’s Saturnalia, the ancient Roman festival dedicated to the fertility god Saturn around the first century BC. And it’s the true origin of Christmas.

There’s a lot more here. 

I really have been searching for LGBT related posts and articles that focus more on gay Christmas nowadays but so far I haven’t come up with anything substantial and I’m not sure why that is.

Yawn: The War On Christmas

Maybe this is why I’m not seeing anything about gay Christmas, or anything Christmas related, in gay presses.

This left wing negativity is typical of what I’ve been seeing.

Year after year, Oprah has led her legions of followers into a vast valley of credit card debt by giving them a laundry list of lavish holiday gifts to buy for themselves and their loved ones. Past items on Oprah‘s “Favorite Things” list have included iPads, $100 yoga pants, cashmere sweaters, designer handbags, Burberry coats and a 7-day Royal Caribbean cruise. Oh, and don’t forget that subscription to O Magazine and that DVD of The Oprah Winfrey Show: 20th Anniversary Collection as stocking stuffers! #ka-ching!
  
I think this article might be a good example of how gay presses as we’ve always known them might start disappearing in the near future. Why make everything so political all the time? Why be that douchey gay guy who makes the rest of us look bad? It’s Christmas. Fall out the holly. That’s all you need to know.

You can the rest of this here. There’s one comment and it’s not all that supportive.  

 
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