Month: October 2015

Gay Couple Humiliated In Restaurant; VAT and HIV; Power Bottom Appreciation Day

Gay Couple Humiliated

During an anniversary dinner, a gay couple was shown the door in a Dublin restaurant because other customers didn’t like the way they were holding hands. One customer referred to them as “disgusting.”

“My partner and I were in a Dublin city centre restaurant celebrating our second anniversary and we were being physically tactile with each other. Not kissing the faces of each other or anything, but holding hands and looking into each other’s eyes.”
“A waiter came to out table and told us that customers at another table were complaining about us. He suggested that we stop showing each other physical affection.”

It only devolved from there. Here’s the rest.

It still happens, and not just in Dublin. Tony and I pick and choose our restaurants…like everything else we do…with care to avoid things like this happening. I’d rather be on the offensive than the defensive at all times. It’s a way of life.

VAT and HIV

This is interesting. I’d never heard about it before this article…

VAT (visceral adipose tissue) is a type of hard fat that can affect people with HIV, surrounding the organs and making it difficult for people to do things like bending over to tie their shoes. Many people don’t know that VAT is different from regular fat. When you think about stomach fat, you normally think about the doughy fat around your midsection that usually can be addressed by a healthy diet and exercise. But VAT doesn’t work that way. It can be challenging to reduce VAT with exercise and healthy living alone.

You can read more about it here. There’s also a web site link for VAT.

Power Bottom Appreciation Day

I didn’t know this either, which is obviously why I missed posting about all last week. So you’ll have to mark the calendar for next year. But it’s actually a part of gay culture…according to wiki…I’d never heard mentioned before.

Halloween might be considered the national gay holiday, but you should treat your bottom to a fancy dinner tonight because October 30 is Power Bottom Appreciation Day.

According to the all-knowing Wikipedia, which is always right about absolutely everything, Power Bottom Appreciation Day first originated in the 1980s by “snickering gay men at cocaine-fueled Pampered Chef parties.”

Here’s the rest of the article.

There’s also a list of other LGBT+ holidays.

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Wil Wheaton and HuffPost; "Heteroflexible" Boy George Sleeping With Prince?

Wil Wheaton and HuffPost

To be honest I’m not totally sure who Wil Wheaton is but he has a lot of followers on Twitter and he wrote an eloquent blog post about writers not getting paid for content contributed to HuffPost…and publications like them. HuffPost isn’t the only one. These publications claim you’ll get “exposure” in exchange for your written works.

I absolutely agree with everything in Wheaton’s post, and I think I’ve even posted about this topic a while back.

I’m not talking about sharing a blog post or something you’ve written for smaller web sites or personal bloggers. If your good author friend has a small blog and you decide to write a blog post for them without getting paid I think that’s excellent. That’s called support. My blog is not for profit and I’ve had guest posts here (but not often) and I didn’t pay the authors either. I’ve also contributed to small blogs for free and I have no regrets.

But I think there’s a huge difference between contributing your written content for free to a small not for profit blogger as opposed to any huge multi-million dollar publication that can afford to pay you.

I’m not copying and pasting Wheaton’s content, but you can read the entire post here. The main point for me is that writers deserve to get paid for their hard work and their contributions. If you choose to do otherwise, that’s up to you.

“Heteroflexible”

It seems as if there’s a new PC term almost daily for yet another group that’s a little different. This time it’s “heteroflexible.” In my own lame attempt to define it, I think it’s about a straight guy with a girlfriend who wants to bring other men into their bedroom for sex…once in a while and only when he’s in the mood. But please don’t quote me on that. I know and understand as much about this as I do asexuals. Which is nothing at all.

This happened after he explained himself to the girlfriend…

She said that she was sorry that her reaction was a little harsh. She explained that she has zero problem with gays/bisexuals but that when it’s with her own partner it feels different. She agreed maybe it is close-minded but she said it’s an instinctive reaction. She said she is honestly not 100% comfortable with the idea, but that realistically it isn’t that big of a deal. She said she doesn’t truly understand the whole “it’s more about dick than being attracted to men” thing, but that she understands human sexuality is complex and believes me.

I don’t even know how to comment on this one. You can read the rest here. I do know for certain that as a gay man I wouldn’t be going near their bedroom any time soon.  And I have zero problems with women/straights but it’s just not something that turns me on.

You’ll want to read the comments, trust me.

Boy George Sleeping With Prince? 

This one is just too easy. The jokes could write themselves.  

During the taping of some TV reality show, Boy George claimed he slept with Prince.

George boasted, “I have duetted with some of the greatest soul singers in history including Luther Vandross and Smokey Robinson,” prompting Paloma Faith to come back with, “Well OK, if we’re throwing big soul names out there I’ve performed with Prince.”

“Forget that, darling,” George quickly retorted. “I’ve slept with Prince.”

As it turns out, this is all clickbait. Boy George was joking around and talking about a poster of Prince in his bedroom. He didn’t actually sleep with Prince in a literal sense. So you can all take that proverbial sigh of relief now…especially Prince.

I could ask why do people do these things, but then I could also ask why do people watch reality TV shows. 

The rest is here.

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Ben Carson and Homophobia; Sir John Gielgud’s Erotic Gay Screenplay; Gus Kenworthy and Homophobic Troll

Ben Carson and Homophobia

There are two things about this entire topic that bother me.

One, the fact that Ben Carson is NOT coming from a place of privilege, and two, the fact that there was no one moderating the Republican  debate on CNBC that represented the LGBT community.

Ben Carson may believe he’s coming from a place of privilege because he’s straight, he’s a male, and he’s a medical doctor who has held important positions. But he’s not. And when I hear other minorities slam the LGBT community (or any other minorities) like he slammed us the other night I think it’s important to point that out. You can’t claim you’re not a homophobic if you don’t support the basic equal right for gays to legally marry. It wasn’t too long ago when mixed race marriages weren’t legal on a federal level.

If CNBC had thought it was important enough, which obviously they didn’t, they would have had someone from the LGBT community moderating questions that were related to LGBT issues. The moderators challenged other replies, but not Ben Carson’s on gay marriage. 

With that said, here’s an article about Ben Carson I thought was one of the more interesting…

Rather than address the fact that opposing same-sex marriage is basically the opposite of believing the Constitution protects same-sex couples, Carson went on the defensive. “They shouldn’t automatically assume that because you believe that marriage is between one man and one woman that you are a homophobe,” he implored. “This is one of the myths that the left perpetrates on our society and this is how they frighten people and get people to shut up. That’s what the P.C. culture is all about and it’s destroying this nation.”

I think this was Ben Carson’s own personal I can see Alaska from my window moment. And that’s a metaphor. I know Palin didn’t actually say that. But she’s said plenty.

You can read the rest here.  

Sir John Gielgud’s Erotic Gay Screeplay

They’re calling this screenplay porn, but I’ve seen the media twist that too many times…not to mention the clickbait appeal with headlines. I sounds more like erotica to me because I can’t imagine Gielgud writing a screenplay without a story line.  And that’s usually the difference between erotica and porn…the story line. However, if it is porn I’m still as interested as ever.

Gielgud evidently wrote a screenplay in the 1970’s and it was kept a secret for a long time. A guy named David McGillivray has adapted the screenplay into a short film, which is causing some commotion with Gielgud’s charitable trust.

“Earlier this year, the trustees decided not give their permission for it to be produced because they didn’t think it was appropriate,” trust member Ian Bradshaw told the Daily Mail. “They didn’t have to go into detail because they own the copyright.”

The film has entered the editing stage, and McGillivray staunchly defends his decision.

“Pornography is still a stigma in this country, but Sir John loved porn and, in his letters, he talks about visiting gay cinemas,” he says. “I was shocked when the trust didn’t give me permission. We stuck to Sir John’s script very tightly when we made the film a couple of weeks ago. He was very specific about the clothes he wanted the actors to wear.”

You can read more here. I’d love to see it just to actually see if it is really porn. In 1979 Gielgud worked in the film Caligula and they are referring to that film as porn, too. That could be debated by people who know better.

Gus Kenworthy and Homophobic Troll

I follow Kenworthy on Twitter and I missed this one. I hate the way Twitter picks and chooses what I see…like Facebook does. I want to see it all, not just what they choose for me. I would like to have seen how Kenworthy handled a homophobic troll so well when it first happened. Seriously. I’m on Twitter several times a day and I have to find out about this while I’m writing a blog post?

Some idiot asked Kenworthy if he was the man or woman in the relationship. It’s the age old idiotic question we’ve all been dealing with since the beginning of time.

Kenworthy’s  reply went like this:

In a relationship I am the man. As is the other man. I’m gay. Not trying to emulate a heterosexual relationship.

It really doesn’t get much better than that. You can check this out here. 

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20 Famous Huge Penises; Will A Large Penis Make You Happy? Does Penis Size Matter?

20 Famous Huge Penises

Every now and then I like to focus on the male penis. And in a productive way, not provocative or erotic. With that said, I’ve been reading comments for years about how an extra large penis is somehow cliche in books with erotic content and that’s always passed me by. I don’t, however, usually get into detailed penis description in my books unless I’m having a go at satire or humor…I tried that once with burping a big penis and the asexual crowd is still harping on it. I try to keep the penis descriptions plain and simple, without having to resort to clinical terms. For me nothing is more of a turn-off than reading an erotic romance that talks about a “flange.” Or even “corona.” 

I’ll leave it at that because this next article is interesting in the sense that it discusses extra large penises. You don’t hear about that often, or at least not often enough, as far as many people are concerned.

Here’s one that might surprise you.

 2.) Liam Neeson
In her autobiography No Lifeguard on Duty, Janice Dickinson wrote of her ex-boyfriend Liam Neeson, saying he had “the biggest penis of any man alive. He unzipped his pants and an Evian bottle fell out.”

This one I knew from pop culture. They used to call him “Johnny Wad” in the porn industry and I’m not sure if I ever posted anything about him before.

4.) John Holmes
Even though he had one of the most celebrated dicks in porn history, due to its size, there’s no real documentation of his measurement. His manager claimed he was 13.5 inches, but Holmes’ first wife said he measured it in front of her, before he started doing adult films, and it was 10 inches
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You can check out the rest of them here. There are 18 more.

Will A Large Penis Make You Happy?

This isn’t about getting a large penis. This is about when you have a large penis does it make you happier than other men. The guy in this article seems to think so. He was at rock bottom at one time in his life and his big penis kept him going.


“Are you kidding me?” says Josh (who’s 33 now and has started over as a physical therapist). “That’s basically my philosophy on life! Whenever it gets bad, I’m like, ‘Hey, I got the one good thing!’ My ex-girlfriend called it BDS—Big Dick Syndrome. It was hard to even have an argument, because I’d just be like, ‘Whatever.’ It’s an ego thing. Because when it comes down to men, I mean, really, what else is there?”

Of course psychologists disagree and they think it’s more about what you do with your size than anything.  One of the biggest ironies of my life was when I once met a gorgeous guy with a HUGE penis and he told me he wanted to be a trans woman. You can only imagine how ironic this was for him.

In any event, here’s the rest of the article. I think it depends on the person.

Does Penis Size Matter?

Of course most conversations about the penis usually wind up with someone asking…Does penis size matter? This next article discusses the topic candidly in a way you don’t see very often. It’s geared toward women but I think it could also apply to gay men. In this regard I think both gay men and women do share a few things in common. And, from what I’ve seen and heard penis size doesn’t really matter that much to most. Of course they all could be lying because they think that’s the right PC thing to say…which it is. 

This talks about a dating web site where penis size is one of the most important things…again, candidly. No one seems to be holding anything back to look good on social media.

Website founder Steven Pasternack filled us in on what triggered him to launch it.

He said: ‘I had the idea talking to a few female friends who were complaining about investing time with guys who then turned out to have small penises.

‘They all said they wished there was a site which listed penis size like it did hair colour and height.’

Launched in 2008 and now with approximately 40,000 members, 7OrBetter is increasingly popular with both the straight and gay community – perhaps highlighting the growing trend for internet daters to want to know everything about their potential dates before they meet.

Of course for most dating sites where gay men go this isn’t something new. I’ve seen enough of them in my time to know that penis size is something that matters to some/many gay men mainly because so many post the size of their penis. It stands to reason. In fact, I’m kind of surprised that hetero dating sites don’t mention penis size…up until now. But I don’t know anything about hetero dating sites and that’s the impression I’m getting from this article.

You can read the rest here. And, to put a small spin on all this, pardon the bad pun, I’ve also known gay men who actually go out and seek partners with the smallest penises imaginable. Go figure.

So it really us up to the individual. I never made any penis size a top priority when I was single, sorry for that bad pun, too. And I’m really not lying about that (smile).

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Carrot Top and Daniel Tosh Showering…Meh; Poofter Drinks Gets Slammed on Facebook; Rentboy.com Financial Issues

Carrot Top and Daniel Tosh Showering…Meh;

Other than the fact that it took this to get Carrot Top a headline, I don’t get the big deal with this one, but I did find it interesting in a small way because Tony once sat across from Carrot Top on a business flight to the mid-west somewhere. They didn’t interact.

Daniel Tosh rolls around on a sofa looking pretty dressed only in a sexy negligee and slinks about in nothing but a revealing wet T-shirt, but that’s hardly the most surprising element in his parody video for “Good For You” ft. A$AP Rocky by Selena Gomez. The Comedy Central personality, who is forever pushing the queer envelope with his series Tosh.0, takes a shower with entertainer comic red-headed person Carrot Top. We wouldn’t want to unclog that drain.

You can check out the video here. Maybe you’ll get it better than I did. 

Poofter Drinks Gets Slammed on Facebook

Here’s a story about a bar in Australia that had a homophobic slur on a sign and they got seriously slammed on Facebook for it.

For seven years, Handsome Steve’s House of Refreshment in Melbourne had a sign that read ‘No soy, no skinny, no tea… no poofter drinks’ below their drink menu.

What was even moderately socially acceptable in 2008 is clearly not in 2015, so a group of angry customers confronted owner Steve Miller, who refused to remove the sign.

Evidently, the sign had been there for years and no one said a word. For those who might not know, “poofter” is a homophobic slang reference for gay.

It’s happening slowly, but I guess things are changing.

The rest is here.

Rentboy.com Financial Issues

If you recall, I posted about a raid that was made at the NYC headquarters for rentboy.com not too long ago. Now they’re selling off things like office furniture and other office content on Craigslist to help pay the legal expenses.

When I posted the link in August most people I know were slightly outraged that the raid even happened.

In August, the company’s Manhattan headquarters were raided by the FBI and NYPD. CEO Jeffrey Hurant and six others were arrested on suspicion of promoting interstate prostitution and money laundering. The company’s bank accounts containing millions of dollars were frozen and its website was seized by Homeland Security.

Yes, that’s what Homeland security is doing these days.

I don’t know why they didn’t do a crowdfunding campaign like that questionable romance blogger/secret author who got sued for defamation…and just settled out of court. Even though she and her husband make over six figures a year combined income (it’s all public), she raked in over 60Gs through crowdfunding last I heard for her legal defense from hard working people who felt sorry for her…because why should she take responsibility for her own actions on her own blog. You can’t make these things up sometimes.

In any event, you can read the rest here. It’s actually kind of sad and scary at the same time. There’s a link in the article to the ad where they are selling the contents.

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James Bond Can’t Be Gay: Roger Moore; Bernie Sanders on Hillary Clinton and Gay Rights; Gay Activists Call Hillary Clinton Out

James Bond Can’t Be Gay: Roger Moore

According to Roger Moore, James Bond can’t be gay or a woman because that’s not the way Ian Fleming wrote the character.

“I have heard people talk about how there should be a lady Bond or a gay Bond, but they wouldn’t be Bond for the simple reason that wasn’t what Ian Fleming wrote,” said Moore, who played Bond in seven films.

“It is not about being homophobic or, for that matter, racist – it is simply about being true to the character,” he told the Mail. 

I think I feel a gay James Bond movie tie-in parody coming on. Why not? I don’t care what Roger Moore thinks. Instead of Bond getting the girl he would get the guy…or guys.

I would title mine something like “James Bend.” It wouldn’t be fanfic either. It would be strictly parody…for those of you who don’t understand what I’m talking about.

This statement by Roger Moore is one reason why I wrote a few gay parodies of straight movies (An Officer and HIS Gentleman). I took a lot of slams for that and in some cases still do, but I have no regrets whatsoever.

You can read the rest here. 

Bernie Sanders on Hillary Clinton and Gay Rights

When I post this way I’m not trying to be political and I never/rarely add my own opinions. However, I have heard this very same discussion on Hillary Clinton and gay rights at several small parties over the past six months and I thought it was newsworthy. Most gay people I know remember Hillary and how she stood on gay rights…or rather, didn’t stand.

In any event, I honestly don’t have a clue who I’m going to support…at this point. And Bernie Sanders is now calling Clinton out on her past stand on gay rights.

“In 1996, I faced another fork in the road. A very, very difficult political situation. It was called the Defense of Marriage Act. DOMA,” he said, referring to the law signed by President Clinton. “And let us all remember that gay and lesbian rights were not popular then, as they are today. It was a tough vote. … That was not a politically easy vote. 
“Now today, some are trying to rewrite history by saying that they voted for one anti-gay law to stop something worse,” he said. “That is not the case. There was a small minority in the house opposed to discriminating against our gay brothers and sisters and I am proud that I was one of those members.”
Now I do applaud Sanders for his vote. I was very young but I remember DOMA very well. But I don’t feel the urge to thank him. Again, these are rights we should have had all along. 
Hillary Clinton did not come out in favor of gay rights until she saw that she didn’t have any other choice and that it would suit her political agenda. And someone should tell her we know and we discuss it all the time. The appropriate response from her would be an apology, not an excuse.  
Gay Activists Call Hillary Clinton Out
 …for defending DOMA, which happened during her husband’s administration.

“On Defense of Marriage, I think what my husband believed — and there was certainly evidence to support it — is that there was enough political momentum to amend the Constitution of the United States of America, and that there had to be some way to stop that,” Clinton told MSNBC’s Rachel Maddow.

But those who were familiar with deliberations in the Clinton White House say that that’s not what happened. Clinton’s presidential papers also show no evidence that fear of a constitutional amendment factored into support for the bill. Instead, Clinton signed DOMA when it landed on his desk — it passed both houses of Congress with ease — because it was politically convenient and because he was publicly opposed to gay marriage.
You can read the rest here.

I think in a general sense this shows how gays were treated and thought of in the 1990’s. I remember how horrible I felt when I heard about DOMA. In the same respect, it was a feeling I’d already gotten very used to as well.

This is what President Clinton stated…for those of you who might not know or have forgotten:

Statement by President Bill Clinton
 
On Friday, September 20, prior to signing the Defense of Marriage Act, President Clinton released the following statement: 

Throughout my life I have strenuously opposed discrimination of any kind, including discrimination against gay and lesbian Americans. I am signing into law H.R. 3396, a bill relating to same-gender marriage, but it is important to note what this legislation does and does not do. 

I have long opposed governmental recognition of same-gender marriages and this legislation is consistent with that position. The Act confirms the right of each state to determine its own policy with respect to same gender marriage and clarifies for purposes of federal law the operative meaning of the terms “marriage” and “spouse”. 

This legislation does not reach beyond those two provisions. It has no effect on any current federal, state or local anti-discrimination law and does not constrain the right of Congress or any state or locality to enact anti-discrimination laws. I therefore would take this opportunity to urge Congress to pass the Employment Non-Discrimination Act, an act which would extend employment discrimination protections to gays and lesbians in the workplace. This year the Senate considered this legislation contemporaneously with the Act I sign today and failed to pass it by a single vote. I hope that in its next Session Congress will pass it expeditiously. 

I also want to make clear to all that the enactment of this legislation should not, despite the fierce and at times divisive rhetoric surrounding it, be understood to provide an excuse for discrimination, violence or intimidation against any person on the basis of sexual orientation. Discrimination, violence and intimidation for that reason, as well as others, violate the principle of equal protection under the law and have no place in American society.

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Dear Author Ellora’s Cave Settlement; Guys Who Struggle With Coming Out; Vincent Price Bi-Sexual

Dear Author Ellora’s Cave Settlement

About a year ago I posted about a lawsuit between romance publisher, Ellora’s Cave, and small time mid-western romance book blogger, Jane Litte. I know most of you probably won’t care, but I like to follow up for my own sense of blog continuity.

Ellora’s Cave (the publisher) sued Jane Litte (the small blogger) for defamation . Last week there was an announcement they’d settled.

This e-mail from Ellora’s Cave has been making the rounds:

From: patty@ellorascave.com [ec_biz]
Date: Thu, Oct 22, 2015 at 9:50 AM
Subject: [ec_biz] Settlement with Dear Author

We are pleased to announce that we have reached a settlement with Dear Author. The terms are confidential, so we will not be discussing that. We are very happy though to now put all of our time and efforts into Ellora’s Cave, the authors and staff without further distraction.
Thank you for your patience and support.
Patty Marks

With cases like this, very few ever know the terms of the settlement reached. I didn’t see a statement anywhere from the Dear Author camp…yet.

There’s really nothing to link to that doesn’t have strong bias (I don’t like to waste my time or yours on opinions and speculation by amateurs), so as they say, that’s a wrap for this one.

However, for those of you who aren’t sure what settlement means in defamation cases like this, here’s a link to a broad explanation I found with a simple search.

And, unrelated to the DA/EC case, this particular article about defamation law and free speech is helpful with respect to understanding how the process works. I would advise all bloggers to check this, and others like it, out.

Guys Who Struggle With Coming Out

This is really something that’s always been a serious issue. Some gay men are so “out” it’s not even possible for them to try to hide it. You can tell by the way they walk, or move their hands, or speak. If that’s a stereotype on my part, consider me guilty and call the PC police. It’s also a fact.

However, with most gay men that’s not the case and they struggle with coming out. In some cases, for many years. I think that’s what bothers me the most when I see glib so-called liberal straight people in book communities (not all) discussing gay men (they say we have so many options)…because in reality they don’t really know a thing about gay men, other than the twisted content they’ve read in novels written by non-gay people. And someone should tell them.

So here’s another set of memes where gay men make some very sad comments about being gay. 

“I probably hate being gay more than the people who hate me for being gay.” 

I think most gay men go through this, and most come out of it. But not all, and that’s where we need to work a little harder to show them there is hope.


You can check all the memes out here. 

Don’t be too surprised by them.

Vincent Price Bi-Sexual

It’s funny because I get this magazine in the mail called Reminisce. It was a gift from someone and the content is filled with retro articles that can range from old cars from the 1920’s to Halloween costumes of the 1970’s. In the most recent issue about Halloween, I spotted a photo of Vincent Price with two people from the 1970’s taking a photo in an airport, and in the caption I spotted a familiar name in the m/m romance community. As it turns out, the woman in the photo wasn’t the same one in the m/m romance community (I asked her), however, I’d always wondered if Vincent Price was gay…or bi-sexual…and if he was another Hollywood causality of his time.


Vincent Price’s daughter recently wrote a book and she gets into this topic very candidly. A quote from his daughter…

“But I would like to say something here because I might as well,” she continued. “I am as close to certain as I can be that my dad had physically intimate relationships with men. I know for 100 percent fact that my dad was completely loving and supportive of LGBT people.”

You can read the rest here. The book looks very good and she writes very well.

There are comments, too. The ONLY comments that bother me with pieces like this are the ones that say things like “it doesn’t matter,” or “who cares,” or even “sexuality is a non-issue.” That’s a difficult one for me because in my personal life I really don’t care if someone is gay or straight, however, people who make statements like that don’t “get” the broad scope…even if they have the best of intentions.

They don’t seem to understand that being gay isn’t just about sexuality. But most of all, there should be no shame associated with being gay (or LGBT+) and no reason to hide it, ever, from anyone. Not even if you were Vincent Price. So please don’t tell me it’s a non-issue and it doesn’t matter. In some cases it does matter. If Edie Windsor had thought being gay was a non-issue we might not have legalized gay marriage. Saying it doesn’t matter is an insult to all gay people everywhere.

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