Day: October 8, 2014

Almost a Porn Star; Straight Catholics Urge Pope; Gay Virgins Wait for Marriage; Advocate & Out Use Porn Sites To Inflate Traffic

Almost a Porn Star

It just seems fitting to start with a quote:


Sometimes when you’re watching gay porn, you don’t notice the guy with the most massive member or the best O-face. You’re looking at the guy with the dead eyes, whose hollow flatness betrays the illusion of the scene. This is the guy who is stiffly going through the motions. Maybe he’s a first-timer. Maybe he got his start doing solo work and the studio promoted him to his first scene with a partner. And he hates it.

Frankly, no. I never did notice that. I don’t think most people do. But the article talks about guys who actually go through this and almost become porn stars. I always thought it took a certain kind of person to do porn for money, and I say that without a hint of judgment. I’m not talking about taking the occasional nude selfie or posting a risque image on Grindr, or wherever. I’m talking about the guys (and women) who make it a living and can withstand that kind of lifestyle. 

It’s a long but fascinating article about how one guy almost became a porn star.

I wondered what happened to the image after you lost ownership of it, when you submitted control to someone else.

In porn, you aren’t just getting dominated by your partner; you’re getting dominated by a group of artists who can represent you however they want. What do they see? Is it really you? Does it matter?

You can read the rest here. Twenty years ago I don’t think the risk of doing porn was as complicated as it is now. So before any of you decide you want to try it out, remember one thing: what goes on the Internet stays on the Internet forever. There’s no back-flipping this time.

Straight Catholics Urge Pope

This is of interest to me because I’ve mentioned before I went through 12 years of Catholic school and so did Tony. Our families are Catholic…old Catholic…and there’s really not much you can tell either one of us about being Catholic we don’t already know. And don’t even try. That was done once and that person lived to regret it. Tell me about the Jewish faith, or any other faith, and I’ll sit and listen for hours. But don’t tell me what I already know and lived.

And what I already know is that our families who are Catholic support us 100%. They support my gay nephew, and other gay family members, friends, and associates. But we aren’t getting an ounce of support from the Catholic church itself, at least not full support in the sense that we can feel equal inside a Catholic church. And it seems other Catholics are now starting to urge the Pope to reconsider the church’s stand on LGBT people.

Ron and Mavis Pirola, a couple who have been married for 57 years, is hoping Pope Francis will agree that loving all members of the family is more important than centuries-old doctrine.
They believe that welcoming gay couples into the church would serve as a ‘model of evangelization’.
– See more at: http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/straight-catholics-urge-pope-welcome-gay-couples081014#sthash.qJlo0gEI.dpuf

Ron and Mavis Pirola, a couple who have been married for 57 years, is hoping Pope Francis will agree that loving all members of the family is more important than centuries-old doctrine. 

They believe that welcoming gay couples into the church would serve as a ‘model of evangelization’.

You can read the rest here.  I highly doubt that we’ll see any significant changes in our lifetime. Most of the gay Catholics I know have switched to more liberal Episcopal churches. This could be part of the reason so many Catholic churches and schools are closing down. And, unfortunately, I’ve always believed in Catholic education from an educational POV. It’s just not possible to support it anymore under these conditions.

Gay Virgins Wait for Marriage

This title almost sounds valid, but only if you’re NOT gay. In other words, the reason why so many gay men (I can’t speak for gay women) remain virgins for so long is that they’re almost always in the closet terrified to take that first step out. Most don’t even kiss a guy until their mid to late twenties. In my novel, The Virgin Billionaire, the main character was almost forty before he lost his gay virginity. I know this is probably changing now, and thankfully so, but speaking from personal experience most gay men don’t cross that proverbial line until they’re well into their twenties. And marriage has absolutely nothing to do with it. In fact, most of the gay men I know lost their virginity to women, trying to fool themselves into believing they were straight.

However, the article is interesting because it explores a different POV most people don’t realize even exists…the fact that there are gay Christians.

A self-identifying Christian gay man is asked, “What if it doesn’t work out and you wind up ‘saving yourself’ for the complete wrong person?”

And he responds, “That’s why people like me save sex for marriage and not for ‘I kinda like you.’ The process of marriage goes a long way towards making sure we enter into a sexual commitment with a sound mind. OK, but what if it still doesn’t work out? Sure, that happens. Well then we’re really getting into the moral question of divorce…suffice it to say, there are some situations where I would probably seek remarriage.”

So many find this refreshing…the concept of gay virgins, as if we’re all running loose having sex everywhere. I guess I do, too. But what I find really refreshing in a novel sense is that it’s wonderful to see gay men getting this choice now. I didn’t get it, and neither did the gay men I know. We remained virgins out of absolute unadulterated fear and anxiety that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. Which is why I’m short on patience for people who try to tell me what it’s like to be gay.

You can read more here. 

Advocate & Out Use Porn Sites To Inflate Traffic

I find this interesting because until now I never even heard of “pop-unders.” They are the ads that you might see if you’re into porn, on your favorite porn sites. But you probably won’t even notice them. I’m going to let the article explain this so I don’t screw it up.

Viewers may be surprised to see the home pages of Out.com and Advocate.com appear as pop-unders (see browser tabs on screen shot, right), behind such X-rated fare on PornHub.com as Hospital Gangbang and Mature Blake Tops Silver Daddy. Among the other pop-unders in this inspiring category is LiveJasmin.com, featuring nude shows of female strippers.

They do this, allegedly, to inflate their popularity. But this one is complicated, and it comes with a full disclosure, so you’re going to have to read the rest here.

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Ron and Mavis Pirola, a couple who have been married for 57 years, is hoping Pope Francis will agree that loving all members of the family is more important than centuries-old doctrine.
They believe that welcoming gay couples into the church would serve as a ‘model of evangelization’.
– See more at: http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/straight-catholics-urge-pope-welcome-gay-couples081014#sthash.qJlo0gEI.dpuf
Ron and Mavis Pirola, a couple who have been married for 57 years, is hoping Pope Francis will agree that loving all members of the family is more important than centuries-old doctrine.
They believe that welcoming gay couples into the church would serve as a ‘model of evangelization’.
– See more at: http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/straight-catholics-urge-pope-welcome-gay-couples081014#sthash.qJlo0gEI.dpuf
Ron and Mavis Pirola, a couple who have been married for 57 years, is hoping Pope Francis will agree that loving all members of the family is more important than centuries-old doctrine.
They believe that welcoming gay couples into the church would serve as a ‘model of evangelization’.
– See more at: http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/straight-catholics-urge-pope-welcome-gay-couples081014#sthash.qJlo0gEI.dpuf

Clay Aiken Running For Office; Gay Teen Torture in Russia; Freddie Smith Car Accident

Clay Aiken Running For Office

I’ve posted about Clay Aiken, former American Idol contestant, running for office in North Carolina’s second district. But I haven’t posted any details…yet. It seems things are heating up, and a recent debate with his opponent, Renee Ellmers, shows that Aiken could be a formidable candidate at that. He’s not taking anything from anyone.
Here are a few small details:
Ellmers, chairwoman of the Republican Women’s Policy Committee, didn’t hold back on her rival’s claim to fame.

“It’s almost as if, as an entertainer, you think that means we can just go in with a song and dance and change the minds of our military leaders because you’re going to impress them so much,” Ellmers said to Aiken.

Aiken’s response,
according to CBS News: “The most embarrassing reality show right now is Congress.”

Ellmers also tied her Democratic rival to President Obama, making reference to the “Obama-Aiken” economy. Aiken called the charge “preposterous.”


“I have nothing to do with President Obama, and I can find several areas where I disagree with them,” he said.

Well done, Aiken. I hope we hear more from him soon. Frankly, I disagree with the President in several areas myself…but I never get political here on the blog. This time it’s an exception because an openly gay man is running for office. I find that newsworthy in itself. You don’t have to agree with me.

Gay Teen Torture in Russia

This is very disturbing. There’s a new HBO film out on how gay teens are allegedly lured and tortured in Russia. I hadn’t heard about it, but I’ll be doing a search. (Update: I watched it last night and was physically sick when I saw what these vigilante groups are doing to innocent gay people.)

They create profiles on social media, seduce young men into meeting them for a ‘date’, before they would be capture the victim and torture them on video.

The vigilante groups posted the horrific clips on the social networking site VK. Because of this, many of the men featured in the video were outed, forced to leave their jobs, and some committed suicide.

The anti-gay group is making claims about pedophilia and boasting about pride in torturing gays, and it’s one more reason to watch Russia very closely instead of taking this passive aggressive stand we’ve been taking for so long. Seriously. What’s happened in the US lately? Are we getting that passive we don’t care about these things anymore? (Update 2: There was one vigilante woman in the film I saw last night that I could have taken by the back of her ugly red head and dragged down the street until she begged for mercy…yes, that’s what you do to people like that.)

You can read the rest here. I missed the premiere of this film, but I’m hoping it’s on demand. The title is, Hunted: The War Against Gays in Russia. Also one more reason why I still do NOT regret the stand against the Russian Olympics I took last year when everyone was telling me I was so wrong. I think it’s time to instill a little fear in THEM.

Freddie Smith Car Accident

Actor, Freddie Smith, who plays a gay character on Days of Our Lives, Sonny Kiriakis, was recently in a car accident in Ohio. He was injured and his passenger is in critical condition. From the way it sounds, the circumstances surrounding the accident don’t sound good for him.

Smith’s Kiriakis is one of the highest-profile gay characters in daytime television in the US. His character married longtime love Will Horton (played by Guy Wilson) earlier this year in a three-part episode of the show.

‘I just really love this storyline from the bottom of my heart,’ the actor told Gay Star News last year. ‘It’s nice to go to work every day and have such a positive impact.’

You can read more here about it. Another soap star who played a highly popular gay character on TV is also in Ohio for the next few weeks shooting a new film right now…a romance. I get these updates from my secret Amish source in Charm, Ohio through e-mail exchange, the one who wrote a post here a while back. Since that first e-mail exchange between us we’ve remained very good friends to this day. Hard to believe that was over two years ago, and we’ve never actually met in person. It’s all about discretion and privacy sometimes. I would do anything for that guy. I’d even go to Russia and pull a bigot down the street by the back of her ugly red head.

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