Month: August 2014

Gay Sailor’s Dream; Real Life Gay For You; Daniel Ashley Pierce: Painful Coming Out Story

Gay Sailor’s Dream

In conservative S. America, a Chilean sailor found the strength to come out. It’s not something that happens often. He’s hoping that by coming out in this environment he will help break some of the myths about gays…in all respects and pave the way for others. I talk about this kind of thing all the time here, the way the mainstream public has some misguided impressions about all LGBTI people.

Ruiz was accompanied by gay activists for his announcement, which he said was not an easy step to take but one he felt was necessary.

“Personally, I hope that this is a contribution to non-discrimination in my society,” he said.

Men like this can only be applauded, because in doing this they help other gay men in similar positions feel freer to come out, which leads to less shame and less stigma…ultimately breaking the stereotypes.

You can read more about him here.

Real Life Gay For You

I find everything about this next article fascinating. In short, it’s about a straight guy who fell in love with his best friend…a man. And the way he fell in love with him is about as good as it gets in life. It happened slowly, while the straight guy was going through a serious illness the docs couldn’t seem to diagnose properly. His best friend stood by him, nurtured him, and even rubbed his back. Keep in mind, the best friend asked for nothing in return, not once. He did this purely out of love.

It’s a fairly long piece, and this is just a snippet of the kind of dialogue that will bring you to the edge:

“Garrett, I think I’m in love with you.”

His expression changed to that of confusion.

“Well, you’ve been so great and taken care of me, and I know it doesn’t make much sense. But, if I’ve ever felt love, this is it. And, well—I think I’m in love with you.”

He stopped and thought for a moment. It was a long moment. Then he opened his mouth again and asked, “Do you miss me when I’m away?”

I nodded my head slowly—uneasily.

“Do you get excited to see me?”

I nodded again, this time with a hint of uncertainty.

He looked back timidly. “Well, then I think I might love you too.”

I highly recommend reading the full story here. It talks about things I think we’d all like to see questioned more, and maybe even see more of this happen with other men or women. I have always said (and written in my books) the relationship between a straight man and a gay man should never be underestimated, and I don’t mean in a sexual way. There’s an interesting bond and when a straight guy and a gay guy find that bond it’s hard to break it apart.

It’s also an excellent web site. 

Daniel Ashley Pierce: Painful Coming Out Story

As wonderful as the previous piece was, I can’t say this next link is anything even remotely comparable. When a 20 year old came out to his family last October, everything seemed calm enough at first…but what happened afterward that was captured in a video, in part, will leave you wrecked.

“No, you can believe that if you want to,” a woman, presumably his grandmother, can be heard saying, “but I believe in the word of God, and God creates nobody that way. It’s a path that you have chosen to choose. … You go by all the scientific stuff you want to. I’m going by the word of God.” She goes on to say that since Pierce has “chosen that path” they will no longer support him and he needs to move out because she “will not let people believe that I condone what you do.”

Pierce asks his stepmother if he can stay in the house, but she refuses.
“You’re full of s**t,” she says. “You told me on the phone that you made that choice. You know you wasn’t born that way. You know damn good and well you made that choice. You know that [your father] has done everything he can to raise you. … He didn’t need to blame himself.”

And there you are. It happens all the time and it never ends well. It reminds me of a commentary I read about m/m romance books a month or so ago where three women on a romance book review web site talked about how the old trope of coming out and being rejected wasn’t working in gay romance anymore because so much has changed for gay men. They obviously don’t know what they’re talking about, but there’s no point linking. These big mouths never shut up, and that’s partly because no one has the guts to tell them how irrelevant they actually are. Young gay men being rejected happens all the time, and if it still happens all the time it’s still going to work in a m/m romance novel.

In any event, there’s more here, with a video clip. They’ve started a crowdfunding page to help support him. All links are there.

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Opera Singer Fired For FB Update; Joan Rivers Crisis; Mean Girls and Looking

Opera Singer Fired For FB Update

This is one of those stories that might leave some people questioning many things about today’s society, freedom of speech, the PC Police, privacy, and social media in general. Last weekend I noticed something in my FB news feed that was a little disturbing. Someone posted a photo of an unsuspecting person in a grocery store and I don’t think the person who posted the photo asked for permission. In this case, it was a good looking young guy and it wasn’t anything mean or defamatory. In fact, I’m certain there was no malicious intent. 

With that said, I see things all the time on facebook updates that leave me wondering about limits, privacy, and basic judgment. In this case the article I’m linking to is about an opera singer in Canada who was fired because he ranted on FB about a guy’s flamboyant fingernails. It’s a generalized rant, with malicious intent, about how some people make peculiar statements with their appearance and how they want to be perceived. Here’s the update that got him fired:

‘Look at the stupid nails this moron had on while taking a bus in Ottawa,’ Ruminski wrote, ‘I guess he needs diamond studded nails to make up for his face.’

As I said earlier, I’ve seen far worse on facebook than this. What the opera singer didn’t know is that the guy with the nails is a drag performer known as Miss Jade London, and now the entire incident is being reported as a rant about a gay man. At least that’s what the headline to this article says.

But the rant continued:

‘He is asking for criticism by parading his choices in front of everyone like the black males who wear their pants down off their asses,’ he continued, ‘They want you to notice and get angered by it. That’s part of the strategy. He has an agenda by gluing diamonds onto his nails – and so do I by commenting on how stupid it is.’

Of course people then complained about Ruminski’s update rant and the opera company fired him. He went on to make a public apology, but the damage has already been done. The opera company says Ruminski has to prove himself before they’ll even consider taking him back again. I’m not even sure what that means, or how he’s going to go about proving himself.

You can read the rest here, in more detail. It’s a good example of how we all need to think two or three times before posting anything on social media, especially when it comes to taking photos of people without permission. This is how the drag performer responded to the critical updates, and having his picture taken and posted on social media:

‘I felt so hurt, I felt violated, having my picture taken without my knowledge and then being bashed about it… being basically called ugly, having my nails compensate for that, being called a stupid moron, nobody deserves to hear that especially if it’s not being told to their face.’

The comment section is very interesting.

Joan Rivers Crisis

Over the years I’ve written a few posts about Joan Rivers and I haven’t always agreed with some of the things she’s said or done. In my case it’s mainly about how she treats gay men as if they are pet poodles, which is hard because she’s always supported gay men, too. But I’ve written other posts about Rivers where I’ve fully agreed with her on some topics, and most of all, I’ve always made it clear that I respect her and all she’s accomplished in her lifetime, especially considering all the obstacles she’s faced over the years as a woman and as a player in a highly competitive field.

For those who don’t know, Rivers went for an endoscopic procedure at a clinic on Thursday and suffered a cardiac arrest during the procedure. They had to transport her from the clinic to a Manhattan hospital. She’s been in an induced coma, with her family by her side, since then. Here’s the latest update I could find:

UPDATE: Melissa Rivers, the star’s daughter and frequent professional partner, released a statement from New York Thursday evening: ‘I want to thank everyone for the overwhelming love and support for my mother. She is resting comfortably and is with our family. We ask that you continue to keep her in your thoughts and prayers.’

I hate to speculate without knowing all the details, but it hits very close to home for me because my mother had three endoscopic procedures this year and we (and her docs) insisted she have them done in hospitals, not in clinics or outpatient facilities. It wasn’t a chance we were willing to take because my mother is turning 80 this November. This procedure is fairly routine for most people, but if you are older it can be more serious. In my mother’s case, she also suffered a very serious heart event during the last procedure in July. Thankfully, she was having it done at Sloan Kettering in Manhattan and they immediately called in a cardiac team to revive her. If she hadn’t been in Sloan, in a hospital, at the time and they had to transport her to a hospital like they did Rivers, I’m not sure what would have happened.

According to this article, I’m not the only one wondering about this.

He questioned whether Rivers would have had a safer experience if her medical procedure had taken place at a hospital rather than at a medical clinic without a large emergency support staff.

You can read the rest here. Best wishes to Rivers’ family during this time, especially her daughter, Melissa. I know how hard it is to deal with an aging parent, and how stressful and emotional it can be, first hand. Trust me, you haven’t lived until you’ve driven up the FDR Drive in the middle of the night to Urgent Care at Sloan several times. You reach a point where there’s so much medical information you feel as if you’ve gone numb all over. But it is a great hospital.

Mean Girls and Looking

Daniel Franzese from Mean Girls recently joined the cast of Looking. You know Looking, it’s that show I’ve been raving about that deals with gay men who we rarely see represented on TV…or anywhere in the media. The most vicious critics haven’t been kind to the show, but according to ratings and gay men who haven’t had much of a voice up until now it’s gaining in popularity more than ever.

I think Looking is significant for several reasons, one of which is it just might stifle the loud voices we’ve always known to make room for a few news ones that haven’t been heard. I know a lot of people think I might be taking this to the limit, but those people don’t know what it’s like to see a gay person on TV and have nothing at all in common with that particular gay person. Looking seems to be breaking a lot of the stereotypes in a subtle, tasteful way. It validates many of us.

According to The Hollywood Reporter, he will appear in a multi-episode arc as Eddie, a new love interest for one of the show’s main characters.

You can read more here. I do think it’s important for all gay men to be heard, and not just for the sake of amusement.

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FREE Gay Excerpt; Gay Dancing on TV; Gay Twins Come out; Gay Bath Houses Going Extinct; Cage James by Ryan Field

Gay Dancing on TV

This is interesting to me because I’m in the middle of working on a book where the topic of country western music comes up. In short, the characters talk about how there have never been any gay songs in any genre (not just country western), especially gay love songs. So my main character decides to parody the most popular country western songs by replacing feminine names and pronouns with masculine. Why not? It’s parody, it’s something gay people can enjoy for a change, and there’s no reason why we shouldn’t have our own music, too. If a song can be titled “When a Man Loves a Woman,” it can also be titled, “When a Man Loves a Man.” I know how hard Steve Grand has worked to raise money and promote his brand of gay country music. But not one big record company as far as I know has offered to take him on and fund him.

I do, however, think this will change and we will be listening to more gay music…where gay singers actually sing about loving men, not women…or the same for gay women singing love songs.

In any event, this article discusses a gay dance scene on the TV show, So You Think You Can Dance. It’s allegedly the first gay dance routine in all the years this show has been on the air. Is it the first time a gay guy has danced? I highly doubt that. It’s just the first time two gay men have danced together.

 Although nothing was said about it on the air, Fox’s So You Think You Can Dance on Wednesday (27 August) featured what is believed to be the first romantic same-sex routines in its 11-year history.

You can read the rest here, with images.

Gay Twins Come Out

This article talks about the gay gene and how being gay runs in families. I tend to agree with that. I have a gay brother and at least one gay nephew that I know about as if right now. I have a feeling there are more.

In any event, there is another set of twins making headlines lately, and mainly because they’re gay twins.

The adorable 21-year-old Monastero (fraternal) twins are the latest gay twins to pop on our radar, appearing together in their very first YouTube video to explain how they came out to one another.
In it, they say that even though they knew they were gay at age four, they only got around to telling each other this year.
If you think that sounds a little unbelievable, think again. I didn’t know my brother was gay until the night I bumped into him in a gay nightclub about a year before I met Tony. We were both in our early twenties. Didn’t have a clue until that night.
You can read the rest of the article here, where there are photos of these guys.

Gay Bath Houses Going Extinct

I think I’ve mentioned before that I’ve never actually been to a bathhouse, but I’ve always been curious about them. I think they were the most popular a generation before me, back in the 1960’s and 70’s. I’ve always heard stories from older friends about how they used to go listen to Bette Midler singing in the gay bathhouses in New York before her career took off…the same for Barry Manilow. I think there are other entertainers of that generation who also got started in the bigger bathhouses.

But I digress. This article is talking about gay bathhouses becoming extinct. It’s interesting to post this right after a post about two gay men dancing on TV, because it shows how the times are changing. I’m not sure gay bathhouses will ever become completely extinct in our lifetimes, but at one time gay bars and bathhouses were the only places men could go to meet other men like themselves. It wasn’t always just about the sex, at least that’s what I’ve been told anyway.

Giovanni’s Room might be in the clear, but another group of gay institutions is in serious trouble. More and more bathhouses are switching off their “Open 24 Hours” signs and closing their steam room doors for good.

“The acceptance of gays has changed the whole world,” 75-year-old Dennis Holding, who own a small bathhouse Miami told the AP. “It’s taken away the need to sneak into back-alley places … Bathhouses were like dirty bookstores and parks: a venue to meet people. Today, you can go to the supermarket.”

He’s right about that. Last evening Tony and I stopped at the supermarket to pick up a prescription for the dog. I waited up front in the car while he went in. And while I waited there were more gay men coming and going than I could count. How did I know? Trust me, they let me know.

You can read more here.

FREE Gay Excerpt: Cage James by Ryan Field

Here’s a free excerpt from Cage James. I’m posting the g-rated parts here on google blogger, but you’ll have to click the link to go to my Word Press blog to finish the excerpt because it’s NSFW. Once again, these excerpts are in raw version, and subject to edits. You can purchase the book here, on Amazon. Or other places where e-books are sold, like Smashwords and

Rick noticed the short black robe and said, “This is where you live?”

Cage stepped aside and said, “Home sweet home, man.  Come in and I’ll show you around.”

Rick stepped into the main hall and looked around slowly.  The floors were black and white marble, the white walls covered with antique paintings in gilded frames, and the chandelier had crystals in some places the size of dessert plates.  It was probably the most formal part of the house, other than the grand ballroom.

Cage tightened the bathrobe and said, “Sorry I didn’t get a chance to get dressed.  I just took a shower and I didn’t want you to wait too long.”  He was starting to get those intense urges he always got around big strong men like Rick.  He walked over to him slowly and ran his fingertips up and down Rick’s bicep.  “Can I get you anything?”

Rick turned and smiled.  “How about the money?”

Cage squeezed his bicep this time and said, “I told you I can give you some tonight, and I’ll get you the rest very soon.  I’m getting married and I’ll have all the money I want then.”

Rick reached out and ran his large hand across a marble top console to his right.  “You’re getting married?”

Cage shrugged.  “I might as well.  Guys like me don’t have that many choices.”  He’d once met a woman who told him he had many options.  He’d been sleeping with her husband on the down low for money and she’d found his address at the time in her husband’s coat pocket. Cage laughed in her face, mentioned her husband had a nice dick, and told her he had as many options as she did.  Last he’d heard, she was still married to the cheating prick and the cheating prick was screwing around with another young guy.

Rick looked at Cage’s legs and said, “Are we alone now?”

You can read the rest of it here…

Free Gay Excerpt: Cage James by Ryan Field

Here’s the rest of my excerpt, from the google blog, for Cage James. Some will see this before the post is published tomorrow, but it saves time this way and I don’t think anyone will mind. You can find the full book here on Amazon and other places where e-books are sold.


“Completely alone.”  He wanted to bite Rick’s arm but didn’t want to appear too eager.

“Interesting,” Rick said, moving closer to him.  “I have a feeling you want to give me more than money tonight.”  He reached down with both hands, lifted Cage’s bathrobe up to his waist slowly, and pulled Cage closer to him.

Cage put his arms around Rick’s shoulders and said, “You’ve got it all wrong, man.  It’s not about what I want to give you.  It’s all about what you’re going to give me right now.”  He caressed the back of Rick’s head with one hand and reached down to grab the bulge between Rick’s legs with the other.  His dick was already erect and ready to burst out of his pants.  Cage squeezed it and said, “I haven’t been able to stop thinking about you.”

Rick pulled him closer and pushed the bathrobe higher up his back.  He was breathing heavily now, and he spoke with short quick sentences.  “Me, too.  I’ve been thinking about you.”

Before Cage could reply, Rick took him completely in his arms and started kissing him so hard Cage had to hold his shoulders for support.  He was one of those solid broad-shouldered men made of pure muscle and no flab whatsoever.  As he kissed Cage, he started toward formal living room, pushing Cage backward with each step he took.  Cage continued to hold his shoulders, fighting for air with his heart beating in his ears.

When they reached a gold silk Chippendale sofa with a goose feather cushion, Rick pushed Cage onto the sofa and ripped off all his own clothes so fast he tore his shirt.  While Cage watched him undress and he noticed the thick muscles in his legs and thighs, he removed the black robe and threw his arms back over his head.  He’d had a lot of men in his life but there was something about Rick he found hard to explain.  Rick was the straight man fantasy man he’d dreamed about as a gay teenager, the hero he’d imagined would one day come to his rescue, and the big strong straight jock he watched in porn movies fucking other gay men.  The sheer thought of winning a man like this away from other women gave him strong feelings of scathing satisfaction he would never have admitted aloud. 

When Rick was naked, he climbed onto the sofa and turned so his dick would be aligned with Cage’s mouth and Cage’s dick would be aligned with his.  The instant he opened his mouth and wrapped his lips around the head of Cage’s dick, Cage took him all way in and pressed his tongue to the bottom of his thick shaft.  Cage would have sucked his cock in the alley, but Jared had only wanted to fuck.  That night, with the two of them all alone and no other distractions, Cage could now do all the things he wanted to do.

They remained in this position on the sofa for so long they left sweat stains on the silk fabric.  The sex they shared that night didn’t seem planned or forced.  At the same time, it was rushed and desperate, as if they couldn’t get enough of each other no matter how hard they tried.  Each time they did something different the other would repeat it.  When Rick started to lick Cage’s balls, Cage sucked Rick’s balls into his mouth.  When Rick started to lick and rim Cage’s ass, Cage lifted his head and buried his mouth in the deepest part of Rick’s ass.

Even though there was no mistaking the fact that Rick was the more dominant top, he did things to Cage that night that most other dominant top men wouldn’t have done.  He actually sucked Cage’s cock to the point of climax and Cage had to grab his head and tell him to slow down.  He didn’t want to get caught fucking around with Rick in the house, but he didn’t want to push things along too fast.  He wanted that big fat dick up his ass.

At one point, Rick stood up and turned around.  He climbed on top of Cage again and they kissed in that same jagged, hurried way that left Cage breathless and begging for more.  They were drenched in perspiration and Cage inhaled the strong exotic scent coming from Rick’s armpits.  He smelled like a locker room mixed with whatever soap he’d used to shower with that day.  They stopped kissing for a moment so Cage could bury his face in Rick’s armpits and take in as much of him as he could get.  He took turns under each arm and held his breath for as long as he could.  He smelled like no other man Cage had known, he tasted like no other man Cage had known, and he felt like no other man Cage had known.

Rick seemed to enjoy the way Cage worked over his armpits.  He moaned aloud and sighed so many times Cage stopped for a second and said, “I’ll bet you girlfriend doesn’t do this to you.  I’ll bet she doesn’t know how to appreciate the smell of a man the way I do.”

Rick laughed and said, “She makes me shower and wear cologne before we have sex. She doesn’t get it and there’s no point trying to explain it to her.”

Cage lifted his legs and spread them wide.  “I want you to smell like a man, not powdery and soapy.  I want you to smell like a jock strap that’s been used.  I want you to smell like a locker room right after a football game. I get it.”

Talking this way seemed to ignite something in Rick.  He held Cage tighter and kissed him harder.  When he started rubbing his dick between Cage’s legs he said, “I want to do such fucking bad things to you I can’t even think straight right now.”

“Don’t think straight; let’s fuck,” Cage said.  He knew it was getting late and he didn’t want to get caught fucking Rick on the living room sofa. As it was, he knew he was taking a big chance because Sam could have walked in at any moment. “Do you have a condom?”

“In my pocket,” Rick said.  “On the floor.”

He’d dropped his pants right next to the sofa.  Cage reached down with his left hand, found his pants, and rummaged around until he pulled out a condom.  While Rick continued to kiss him, he opened the condom behind Rick’s back and lifted his legs higher.  He pulled the condom out gently so he wouldn’t drop it and lowered both hands beneath Rick’s body so he could put the condom on himself.  He could tell it was pre-lubricated which meant Rick could enter him faster.

Rick’s body went up a little and Cage rolled the condom as far down the thick shaft as he could.  He guided the head of Rick’s cock toward his hole with one hand and spread the lips of his anus with the other.  The instant Rick entered him his arms went up and he wrapped them around Rick’s shoulders again.  In spite of the fact that Rick moved gently, he was so wide the initial pain traveled through Cage and he moaned aloud.  With each inch Cage took the pain grew more intense until he reached a point where he lost his own erection.

Cage knew this wouldn’t last, and to a certain extent all this pain was part of the pleasure of taking a man like Rick.  When Rick finally went deep and started bucking his pelvis faster, the pain became fullness, the fullness became pleasure, and the pleasure transitioned into the kind of trite, clichéd ecstasy that curled Cage’s toes.

Rick fucked the way he kissed: desperate and fast, as if he couldn’t get deep enough or pound hard enough.  The table next to the sofa wobbled and a little crystal box tapped against a brass lamp.  Without even realizing it at first, Cage made all kinds of vulgar noises most people would have mistaken for agony.

The one thing neither of them did when they reached climax was sigh and whisper sweet things to each other.  They shouted what they wanted and needed to hear that night.  Cage said, “Fuck me you big fucking stud.”  Rick said, “Fuck.  Fuck.  Fuck.  I’m fucking coming, man.”

They climaxed together and Rick rested all his weight on Cage’s body.  He set his head on Cage’s shoulder and said, “Was that like fucking unreal or what, dude?”

Cage ran his fingers through Rick’s sweaty head.  They were both drenched and Cage hated to think about the goose feather silk covered sofa cushion.  “I’ll bet you don’t fuck like that with your girlfriend.”  He tapped Rick’s back and said, “Don’t pull out yet.  Push your dick into me deeper. I like how it feels.”

“What is it with you and my girlfriend?”  Rick asked.  “You seem a little obsessed about her.”

“Because you’re the kind of man I’ve always wanted all my life and never could seem to get for longer than a few minutes at a time,” Cage said.  “Women can have men like you whenever they want and they don’t even seem to appreciate it.  I want you.  I want you all the time.”  He didn’t want to use the word love this soon, but that’s what he felt.

“You’re getting married,” Rick said.

“I’m not going to stay married for long,” Cage said.  “If you just trust me, we can have everything we ever wanted.  I have a plan.  I can’t tell you about it right now.  You just have to trust me.”

Rick pushed his dick deeper and laughed.  “What about my girlfriend? We’ve been together for five years.”

“Dump her.  You know damn well she’ll never make you happy the way I can.  And dump Jared, too.  You won’t need him telling you what to do anymore either.”

Rick lifted his head and said, “It sounds like you’ll be telling me what to do now.”

Cage knew he had a point.  But he didn’t want to acknowledge it aloud.  Some things were better off left unspoken.  He caressed Rick’s cheek gently and spoke in a softer tone.  “Of course not.  I would never tell you what to do.  You’re a big, strong man who can take care of himself.  Now pull your big dick out of my ass and get dressed.  You’ve got to get the fuck out of here before my fiancé and his fucking monkey come home.”


“Don’t ask,” Cage said, spreading his legs wider so Rick could pull out.

OMG: Bad Reviews; Brad Pitt Angelina Jolie Wed; HIV Via Facebook Message; Writing African American Characters; He Bit Off His Penis, Michael Sam in the Showers

OMG: Bad Reviews

First, I don’t know this blogger/author, I came across this by accident on Facebook, and when I post about things like this on the blog they don’t reflect my own opinions…as an author or a blogger.

Second, I don’t really know what else to say…it’s one of those things you have to see to believe…other than I’ve never seen anything like this that was meant in a serious way. Maybe it is a joke? I’m not sure.

A one-star review adds a sense of authenticity. It shows that someone you don’t know has read your book, even if that person is clearly deranged.

Third, that’s the nicest one.

You can read the rest here.

Brad Pitt Angelina Jolie Wed

I’m posting about this because Pitt and Jolie once stated they wouldn’t marry until gay marriage was legal in the US. This was back when we were all so unsure about whether or not gay marriage would ever be legal. I thought that was one of the most genuine acts of support I’ve ever seen from a straight couple. (No straight couples I know did that in support of Tony and me.) And they didn’t get married. They put it off until just recently. I think the statement Pitt made was about as on target as it gets…about getting married. Tony and I have been together for twenty-two years and we didn’t “get” the magnitude of it all until we were married last year in Vermont by Supreme Court Justice, Beth Robinson. Most gay couples I know in long term relationships say basically the same thing.

“It’s an exciting prospect, even though for us, we’ve gone further than that,” Pitt told The Associated Press in an interview in November 2012. “But to concretize it in that way, it actually means more to me than I thought it would. It means a lot to our kids.”

You can read more about the wedding here.

HIV Via Facebook Message

This is piece of news stunned me when I first read it, and I’m still in disbelief. Evidently, a young man was infected with the HIV virus by a guy he thought he was in love with, and it only devolves from there. Through a facebook message, the guy who was infected discovered that the man he was in love with infected him on purpose. It was not only intentional, but there’s evidence that the guy was bragging about how many other people he’s infected with HIV.

His accuser claims that he and Guerra had been in a serious, year-long relationship and had been talking about getting married when he received a Facebook message from an ex-boyfriend of Guerra’s warning him about the man. He soon learned he was HIV-positive. He also claims to have found shocking text messages on Guerra’s phone, bragging to his friends about infecting people.

“Texts where he’s stating he’s negative to people then bragging to others about giving people his ‘positive load.’ It’s crude, it’s… I don’t know how someone could treat another individual like that,” he said.

Aside from the obvious moral and ethical issues here, it should be interesting to see how this is handled in court.

You can read the rest here.

Writing African American Characters

Earlier this week I shared a post on social media titled, If White Characters Were Described Like People Of Color In Literature. It’s an interesting article because it shows how ridiculous it would look to everyone if white characters were written the same way we often see people of color written…those cheesy descriptive sentences like these below, but this time they’re describing white characters poorly to show the insensitivity, and well, lack of writing skills in general…

9. He traced his fingers along her supple, cauliflower skin.
10. She stepped out of the car and was delighted by the cool summer breeze that brushed against her legs. She had been sitting in the sun earlier and welcomed the relief of this fresh air on her mayonnaise legs.
I think this could apply to all characters of all races. And this is only my opinion, but I have a strict rule about this whenever I write non-white characters. I don’t think it’s being too politically correct. I actually follow this rule in every aspect of my life. And the only thing I do is keep it simple. I don’t call attention to a character’s race unless it’s important to the storyline in some way. When, and if, I mention race I keep it short and simple and get right to the point. In other words, I don’t think it’s necessary to go into exaggerated details when writing any character of any race. Because when you do that you wind up with white people who have supple cauliflower skin and mayonnaise legs. Or even worse…
3. His eyes looked like eyes because they were eye-shaped, not almonds.
He Bit Off His Penis
This is something you don’t hear often, but you often wish you did. When an Australian man tried to rape another man by forcing his penis into the other man’s mouth, the other man bit it off. Yup. He gave him exactly what he deserved without waiting for karma to do it for him.
The story goes like this: Man #1 met Man #2 at a nightclub on Saturday night. After pounding back a few drinks, they went back to Man #1′s apartment in Chermside, a suburb outside of Queensland. And that’s when things took a turn for the worst.
Shortly after arriving at the apartment, Man #2 alleges that Man #1 tried to pin him down and rape him. Man #2 said “No!” and when Man #1 wouldn’t listen, he retaliated by clamping his jaw down on his penis, sinking his teeth into the flesh and causing serious injury and severe bleeding, before fleeing the apartment.
You can read more here. It should be interesting to see how this is treated in court, too. The prosecution wants an “intimate examination” of man #1’s penis injuries.
Michael Sam in the Showers
At first I thought this would be another dumb article, but when I started reading it and I saw how Michael Sam…and all gay men…are being treated (and insulted) I was stunned.
I once posted about how worried everyone was about having gay men in the showers with straight male athletes. This was one of the big concerns when openly gay Michael Sam first came out to the NFL and the world. Now I think we can all agree it’s still an issue and it’s not being put to rest.
Well thank god ESPN is around to ask the tough questions. Like whether or not Michael Sam waits to take a shower alone as to not make the team uncomfortable. Don’t make us send Daniel Radcliffe in there to give the team diversity training, because you know we will.
Of course the reporter is quick to point out that he could be waiting to rinse off for “a million different reasons,” like hanging back to get more practice time or “riding his bike.”
You can see the video here. And here’s what you’ll learn, in short:
Michael Sam is trying to be one of the guys. (Insult)
Sam is trying to feel his way through to see who he can relate to. (Condescending and presumptuous)
Sam allegedly waits to take showers after the rest of them have…this is only speculation right now. (Hearsay by an idiot)
I honestly don’t think I’ve seen a more insulting or condescending video about gay men since James Creepo’s last escapade. And if you don’t see why it’s condescending and insulting my explaining it will not make much of a difference. Fire them both…the reporters. Set an example and do it now so no one ever does this again.
The comments all seem to agree with me.
The Sheriff and the Outlaw
by Ryan Field 

Insulting a Gay Rapper; Gay Celebrity Couples; Too Hot For US: New Gay UK TV Show

Insulting a Gay Rapper

Although I’ve never been a fan of this kind of morning radio host show humor, I don’t think this was meant to be real. In any case, the questions asked seem to hit too close to home with regard to the kinds of questions gay people are asked all the time…even when something isn’t meant to be funny. They come in all forms of dumb. In this case there’s nothing passive aggressive about it.

But when gay rapper Cakes da Killa sat down for a radio interview with The Hot 97 Morning Show last week, things just went from weird to embarrassing and back to weird again.

First, the two straight interviewers seem to congratulate Cakes on the fact that they didn’t initially know he was gay when they listened to his music. As if that’s some sort of achievement.

Then the real stupid starts when they suggest in all apparent honesty that on some level they don’t understand why their female lesbian staffer and Cakes wouldn’t hit it off in the sack. I mean, they’re both gay right??

Cakes was a good sport…what else can you be in a situation like that? But I’m still waiting for the day this kind of joking around about gay people becomes politically incorrect like everything else in the free world…or at the very least people think before they speak. Because you get just the right gay guy in that situation at just the right time and some radio host…or someone similar…is going to be eaten alive (smile).

You can read more here. There’s one question you really don’t want to miss.

Gay Celebrity Couples

Here’s a piece where there are photos and comments about gay celebrity couples who seem to make it all look better for some reason. And I’m glad they do. I think it’s important to talk about the serious issues, but as important to show that things aren’t always that bad. The post, like most things on Queerty, is really an advertorial for a film, however, it’s a good advertorial as far as they go.

To celebrate the release of Love Is Strange this weekend, we’ve taken a look at six gay celebrity couples whose relationships mirror those of the film’s main characters, played by John Lithgow and Alfred Molina.

In the film, Lithgow and Molina play a gay couple learning to adapt to life’s uncertainty and accepting its hurdles as opportunities to grow. Forced to live apart due to circumstances beyond their control, their love grows despite the space between them.
You can view the photos here. I thought it was inspiring. And the film actually does look good.
Too Hot For US: New Gay UK TV Show
It’s doesn’t surprise me that something would be considered too hot for the US. That’s always been the case when you compare all forms of art in the US to anything abroad. It is what it is. Fortunately, there’s going to be a new TV show in the UK that’s too hot for the US, so they say, and at least we’ll be able to see it here thanks to technology, eventually.
Described by Channel 4 boss Jay Hunt as ‘channel-defining’, the show will be one of three programmes telling the story of life across the generations. Cucumber will be the main show, with Banana the spin-off featuring younger characters.
The other, Tofu, will tell the stories of ordinary people. The Thick Of It’s Vincent Franklin will play 40-something Henry Best who is currently splitting up with his boyfriend and finds himself attracted to a younger man.
It’s about time, and I’m looking forward to this. I hope we don’t have to wait too long to see it in the US.
I’ve heard other things about this UK show and all were good. You can read more here.

The Sheriff and the Outlaw
by Ryan Field 

Library Without Books; Matt Bomer on American Horror; Justin Theroux’s Bulge; Hugh Howey’s Shitty Basket; Giovanni’s Room; Michael Sam Sacks Johnny Football;

Library Without Books

This past Sunday night Tony and I had dinner with two older gay couples, all of whom worked as professors in colleges. The topic turned to e-books at one point, and as usual, with this topic, I just kept my mouth shut and listened. I’ve learned to do that when I’m with people who don’t really know what they’re talking about. All of these former professors claimed that e-books were a passing trend and nothing could ever replace the print book. And I think this next article to which I’m linking about a Florida college that just opened a library with ONLY e-books validates the point that e-books are not going to disappear.

A fully digital library is among the futuristic features of Florida Polytechnic University’s striking dome-shaped building, designed by Spanish architect Santiago Calatrava.

“It’s a boldly relevant decision to go forward without books,” said Kathryn Miller, the university’s director of libraries.

It’s also interesting to note that they consider this a bold move…when many of us have been reading nothing but digital content for years now. But more than that, the article treats e-books as if they aren’t really books by claiming this is a library without books. Last I heard, e-books are just as much books as any print book.

You can read more here.

Matt Bomer on American Horror

I think I’ve already admitted I’m a huge fan of American Horror Story, and now the newest season where they’ll be concentrating on carny people titled, Freak show, will be even more enticing because Matt Bomer will be in it. Producer, Ryan Murphy, practically begged Bomer to do this.

 ‘I try to get him to do everything for me,’ Murphy tells Entertainment Weekly.

 ‘I sent him a text that said, ‘First right of refusal, here’s the role.’ Murphy, also the creator of Glee, has not revealed details of the role except to say:

‘It’s very…warped.’

It goes on to mention that Bomer will be in at least one episode. I want to know why Ryan Murphy isn’t begging Trevor Donovan to be in his TV shows, too. Donovan’s not gay, but he’s been a huge friend to the LGBTI community, he’s excellent at whatever he does, and he certainly would draw a few good ratings. But I digress.

You can read more about that here.

Justin Theroux’s Bulge

I will be the first to admit that I only started watching Leftovers because of the first few scenes with Justin Theroux. The man is gorgeous, every last fuzzy inch of him, including his bulge. But I’m glad I did continue to watch because the complicated plot keeps drawing you in more and more each week. You don’t always know where you are, or even where the story is going, but it all ties in eventually…for the most part. Best of all, you actually care about the characters. And…Amy Brenneman is in the show and I’ve always loved her.

In any event, Justin Theroux’s bulge can’t be ignored either. You don’t see them like that every day on TV.

But there is one thing the show definitely has going for it. Its star, Justin Theroux.

And more specifically, his crotch.

In last night’s episode we got backstory on many of the main players, but with Justin it was more like frontstory.

Justin Theroux’s part in this show is something I actually think m/m romance readers might enjoy. He’s the classic hero, the occasional bad boy, and the vulnerable good guy who cries when he’s faced with something ethical or moral. It really doesn’t get much better on TV these days. He really does own this character.

You can read more here, where they’ve put together a few images of Justin you’ll want to see.

Hugh Howey’s Shitty Basket

Now for something far less interesting than Justin Theroux, this next link is about Hugh Howey, eggs, and shitty baskets. I’m still not sure who died and who named Hugh Howey the spokesperson of publishing, but he certainly writes blog posts as if that’s who he is. I guess he doesn’t think there have been people around a long time before he came along. But you can’t blame a guy for being overly aggressive I guess, especially in this post titled, No More Shitty Baskets.

I’m not going to bother commenting on this link because I think it’s all pretty moot. The conclusions aren’t all that dramatic either. However, I do know that a lot of people who will be reading this might find it interesting. Especially those who are still thinking about self-publishing. Howey is a good example in that department…I think.

I just wish he’d lighten up on the metaphors and similes already.

I have no problem going all-in if a company is making decisions that I believe in and support. I can move my eggs with the press of a button. These calculations are vastly different when you own the rights to your eggs, and those eggs are digital.

After reading this one I had this weird craving for an Egg McMuffin. Here’s where you can read all this in full.

Giovanni’s Room

Remember when I posted about the oldest LGBTI book store in the US, Giovanni’s Room, in Philadelphia shuttering its doors last May because sales for print books have been down for a while? Well there’s been a recent announcement that the old space where the book store was will open as a thrift shop that will sell books, and all proceeds will go to raising money for AIDS.

Now, the nearly 9-year-old establishment will be preserving something much more significant – Giovanni’s Room, the iconic touchstone of the LGBT community and the country’s oldest LGBT bookstore. The organization has signed a two-year lease with the former Giovanni’s Room owner to open Philly AIDS Thrift store at Giovanni’s Room.

The store will have a soft opening in late September and open officially Oct. 10, in time for OutFest and National Coming Out Day. The iconic “Giovanni’s Room” signage will remain, the new leasers said.

“What can be more precious than Giovanni’s Room? What better thing to try and keep alive?” asked Christina Kallas-Saritsoglou, co-founder of the Philly AIDS Thrift and manager of the Queen Village store. She added that it was a “once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.”

I couldn’t be happier to hear this. Actually, for the first time ever, possibly, someone is trying to preserve a little fraction of LGBTI history and gay culture. We don’t really see this happen anywhere, not even in pop culture. In the US if George Washington didn’t sleep there it’s not considered significant.

You can read more here. I’ll post photos in the fall after it’s opened.

Michael Sam Sacks Johnny Football

I’m not the biggest footfall fan, so I’m not even going to try to comment on this one. All I can say is that I don’t think they’re talking about anything dirty when they say Michael Sam “sacks” Johnny Football…whoever he may be. I’m gathering this is a football term….”sack.” And, Michael Sam did it to him.

‘If you’re going to sack Johnny, you’ve got to do that once,’ Sam said, as reported by ESPN.

The quarterback’s nickname is ‘Johnny Football.’

‘He’s a talented kid,’  Sam said to ESPN. ‘He isn’t called Johnny Football for nothing. It was fun getting to play against Manziel in an NFL game. I sacked him as both a junior and senior at Missouri.’

You can read more here. I just like reading about football players, especially when they’re sacking each other.


The Sheriff and the Outlaw
by Ryan Field